Hairless foofs

[Ginismyfriendx]

So can't sleep and watching naked attraction (please do judge me, I deserve it)
Are completely bare foofs a thing now? Having had a nasty experience of an ingrown hair from shaving bikini line (which required anti-biotics) why go through that? Nevermind the faff. Who want's an evening shadow on their lady bits?
All for a bit of pruning, but uprooting?

Not my fault if the facts challenge your world view and you don't like it so you lash out rather than think

You're not 'challenging my world view' though, you're not making me think either. I really don't see why this, let's face it, very small issue is worthy of dismissing what other women are saying about why they remove their hair. There have been posts saying that the poster feels dirty, unhygienic with hair - and quite rightly another poster has said this is similar to the 'how often do you change your towels' threads and the like. If you don't 'fit in' with what the 'standard' is with the towel-changers then you (general) feel pricked about it. This is the same and I don't understand it in the same way.

If I wanted to keep my pubic hair I would keep it. I wouldn't have an interest in shaving or waxing or lasering it and other than a mild interest in the different things that other women do, I wouldn't care what their reasons were or how they felt about it.

This thread smacks of the period thread where women have been told that 'it's not like that', forgetting or choosing to ignore the FACTS that other women's experiences are different. That's what's happening here.

Unless you are in another woman's head you just can't know why they do as they do with their own bodies so where do these facts come into it? We keep talking about bodily autonomy and then ripping it away with the dismissing of other women's experiences. I don't see why it has to be like that. I know that you've said that feminism isn't about supporting other women's choices; that's fair enough but it doesn't mean that you get to effectively take those choices away by telling them that they're 'wrong' or that the reason they doing x-thing is for y-reason.

I've had disagreements with you on other threads, Bertrand, but I've also agreed with you on far more threads than that.

@tabulah

Then yes, I can see why it’d not be ok for you. With the pubic hair thing though... I think there’s more likely to be a discussion isn’t there?

I know I prefer to be hairless, but in the occasion where I haven’t bothered and I’ve gone a bit bushy.. I have asked what he thinks. He really couldn’t care less I don’t think.. at the time he said he ‘quite likes the Neanderthal look’ but didn’t express a particular leaning one way or the other. He does keep himself trimmed though.
If he did have a preference, it’d motivate me to wax/epilate a lot more frequently.

@Cosylulu

I have never got anyone’s head hair in my mouth while kissing them... I have however had to remove plenty of pubes whilst giving oral.

I don’t really think that’s a relevant comparison.

For arguments sake though, if I was with someone and I frequently got a mouthful of hair when kissing, yes.. I’d find that off putting.

@cosylulu

In fact, I prefer to tie my own hair back when giving oral, keeps my hair out of my way.

No one likes hair in their mouth in any scenario do they?

If you have casual sex with young men you have to remove your pubes, especially if you want a man to give oral sex.

They aren't men - they are boys.
If they want to give oral sex to a woman, they need to grow a pair of hairy balls to match her pubis.

Yes, an unkempt bush can sometimes result in loose pubic hair, and that's not so wonderful, but it really doesn't need to mean full removal.
Who is telling young girls this? other young girls? the lads who are the loud mouthed cocky gits who watch too much porn? who?

There are plenty of young men out there who do not demand or expect this. Perhaps the girls wanting casual sex are meeting the same boys who want casual sex and as a group they are way too focussed on pretending to be highly sexual in physical ways instead of emotional ways.

Maybe in my old age, I've been going deaf...
All those years I thought she was asking me to cum over her, when she actually said she needed a 'comb over!

“With the pubic hair thing though... I think there’s more likely to be a discussion isn’t there?”

Is there? If you have it a certain way, why would there be a discussion?

Is there? If you have it a certain way, why would there be a discussion?

I agree. I’ve never had a discussion regarding pubic hair preferences in my life!

Maybe that’s just me then... I do wonder what my partner thinks when one day I am bushy, next I am smooth.. I just wonder his opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️

“I do wonder what my partner thinks when one day I am bushy, next I am smooth.. I just wonder his opinion”

Yeah but yours is changing and I’d be a bit surprised if you didn’t at some point have a conversation if it’s different, lol

But if it’s just a certain way, always, what would cause that conversation to happen?

I've tried all different over the years and prefer hair free, especially in this heat...it gets grim.

I suppose if two people were wanting to try to spice up their sex life, they 'might' elect to change their pubic hair style, or even make shaving it a part of their fun. That said, I would imagine it's something a man would initiate / ask for far more than a woman would.

It might also crop up if a woman has a specific treatment (say) for a holiday, and then the various options may get mentioned - Bikini, Brazilian, Hollywood etc. If someone was going to contemplate something different, that might be a time for it to happen.

Grim? Mine's hairy & not grim at all 😂 why would it be grim? 🤔

@tabulah

I suppose you’re right. I considered it likely as I do tend to question most bedroom preferences... whether that positions, intensity, fetishes, etc. I have my best times when I know my partner is... so I do ask a lot of questions.

I do tend to question most bedroom preferences... whether that positions, intensity

I prefer my bedroom at the front of the house, with muted tones, perhaps an accented wall.

@TornFromTheInside

I prefer my bedroom at the front of the house, with muted tones, perhaps an accented wall.

I do hope you’ve conveyed this to your partner! 👌

My pubes are definitely political.
Since having DCs, I have reverted to naturally hairy after a completely smooth phase in my porny, sex pozzie 20s. My reasons for going bald were definitely all to do with performing femininity and the male gaze although I don't think I knew that at the time. I want my kids to grow up with mine and DP's natural state of pubic hairiness as the norm. The thought of them feeling like there is something about them that needs to be altered when they reach puberty is so sad. They'll get it from the media and their peers anyway, I definitely don't want to contribute to that.
As a kid I remember seeing my mum's luxuriantly curly vulva and hoping I'd have one just like that when I grew up. As a result, I really like the way I look and feel au naturelle, and if DP had some kind of hairless preference I'd think him less of a man.

Dd, 11 , has pubic hair. I absolutely do not intend to tell her to shave it. Why should she?

Everything about women's bodies is political.

Grim because it gets more sweaty/smelly in the day so I’ve shaved it & noticed a big difference.

Try washing, it’s better for you.

Grim Fandango's taking on a whole new meaning.

Wash

“Grim because it gets more sweaty/smelly in the day so I’ve shaved it & noticed a big difference.”

So do you grow it back for winter? I work my leg hair seasonally...

A curly vulva sounds painful!