Hairless foofs

[Ginismyfriendx]

So can't sleep and watching naked attraction (please do judge me, I deserve it)
Are completely bare foofs a thing now? Having had a nasty experience of an ingrown hair from shaving bikini line (which required anti-biotics) why go through that? Nevermind the faff. Who want's an evening shadow on their lady bits?
All for a bit of pruning, but uprooting?

Is there a “ganging up”?

Looks like it to me, Bertrand is the poster most attacked certainly.

Looks a lot like ganging up to me.

You cannot see the irony in your posts can you Lyin? The language you use, the attacks you make and the irony of telling people to leave women alone when you’re on the attack!

Good grief.

@soddingunicorns

I consider hair removal on a small area that no one except you and partner ever see as ‘small’.

I suppose if you really love your pubic hair then it would be a big deal, but I don’t. I’m hairy out of laziness 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oh and Edmund was deliberately nasty, much like you are being.

@NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking I can see that point, I guess it means different things to different people.

It would be helpful if we could actually discuss the issue sensibly.

Accusing other women of being dirty, unhygienic, sweaty? Not on.

The “prepubescent”, “hoes”, “old and tired”, “Barbie dolls” comments? Also not on.

Exactly Jacques

“It’s like wearing an outfit you’ll know they’ll like, or putting extra chilli in a meal how they like, or buying them their fave beer on a Friday, etc.”

Is it? Because surely the implication is that they don’t like you how you are and the change would be an improvement?...

I have curly hair, if my DP starting telling me he preferred straight hair, I’d be thinking WTF? It grows that way, why are you criticising my hair...rather than going to get it chemically straightened.

Sodding, so you keep saying. I've never, ever suggested that any woman - removing hair or not - is dirty or unhygienic or sweaty. Not once. I'm fed up of saying that.

I'm not really interested in engaging with you if you think my posts are so nasty.

I rest my case.

"Bertrand is provocative. Wants to be provocativ"
No I'm not and no I don't. I just state facts. Not my fault if the facts challenge your world view and you don't like it so you lash out rather than think*

*Now that was provocative.

Cosy I'm late 40s. But fancy younger men. The attitude from men has absolutely changed since I was younger.

When I was in my teens and twenties it would never have been an issue to have pubes. Now it can be. It makes me sad for my teenager too. I feel the pressure to remove my body hair, it must be even more difficult for a teen.

I haven't removed mine at present, but I confess it is trimmed much shorter than it used to be. I don't want to frighten any young men 😂

I'm not really interested in engaging with you if you think my posts are so nasty

Wonderful. Bye then.

No I'm not and no I don't. I just state facts. Not my fault if the facts challenge your world view and you don't like it so you lash out rather than think

Brilliant

There was never a person on a desert island on their own who said oh I must get rid of this hair! Stop pretending it is only for yourselves! Society/porn has influenced this and personally I absolutely think it looks like a child and any man who requested I remove my normal hair I would worry about.

LemonJ yes.

I have curly hair, if my DP starting telling me he preferred straight hair, I’d be thinking WTF? It grows that way, why are you criticising my hair...rather than going to get it chemically straightened.

I have naturally curly hair, I straighten it for the most part.. sometimes I leave it to do it’s thing though.

I wouldn’t take kindly to being told to do anything, but if I had my hair a certain way and my partner commented ‘I really like your hair like that’ it would be noted. And on an occasion where I particularly wanted to please him.. I’d do what I know he’d like. Not because he’d requested, but because I like seeing him happy. He wouldn’t be unhappy if I didn’t, but like I said... the little details are what I like to do.

@Lemonj

There was never a person on a desert island on their own who said oh I must get rid of this hair! Stop pretending it is only for yourselves!

When I split up with my kids dad I was single and celibate for three years. Most of that was hair free. No one saw me, I didn’t have holidays etc. It was just how I prefer to be for me.

LemonJ I don't think the men I've encountered have any desire for the pre-pubescent look - they just seem squeamish about body hair in a way that people didn't used to be - especially the fear of getting a pube in their mouth!

I would also like to add to anyone claiming to be 'feminist' on here that my dd has shown me Instagrams of some of her school friends from probably around 13 onwards that are so sexualised and so influenced by sexualised images in the media. You can say that this is 'choice' and that anyone can do with their body what they want to but I see it as extremely unhealthy. I'm in London and we have two free newspapers every day for commuters. I count up the photographs of women in sexual poses from time to time in each paper. And I think we are nowhere near feminism. Women are still judged on how they look, how they comply and not who they are and what they do.

I absolutely think it looks like a child

I have adult genitals. I have adult hips. I have adult breasts etc. If you think because I have no hair I look like a child, I find that very hard to believe!

As for the pube in mouth thing.. it is very off putting. It’s not gross... it’s just a hair, but I can’t carry on what I’m doing with a rogue hair in my mouth, I have to stop and remove it before carrying on.. I don’t like it.

“I wouldn’t take kindly to being told to do anything, but if I had my hair a certain way and my partner commented ‘I really like your hair like that’ it would be noted.”

But I don’t straighten mine, because it looks shit and doesn’t stay straight anyway if I do...

So he’d be looking at my curly hair and expressing his preference for hair that isn’t mine.

And equally you couldn’t start waxing or shaving pubic hair because he stated a preference for no pubic hair without at some point him looking at your pubes and going, I’d prefer them not to look like that.

I mean if people are doing it anyway and their partner goes, ooh that’s nice, fair enough, but then they’re not actually doing it to please their partner are they, they were doing it anyway.

I know that seems pedantic, but I’m just explaining why I find the idea of altering your appearance to please your partner problematic.

There is a difference between, I like it and also my partner likes it and I do it because my partner prefers it.

NotAsGreen so if you were kissing someone on the lips and the hair from their head got in your mouth would you tell them to shave their head? I have a lot of very wavy hair on my head and it gets everywhere. Do I need to go bald?

Women are still judged on how they look, how they comply and not who they are and what they do.

This is very true, and bloody depressing.