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Hairless foofs

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Ginismyfriendx · 06/07/2018 01:02

So can't sleep and watching naked attraction (please do judge me, I deserve it)
Are completely bare foofs a thing now? Having had a nasty experience of an ingrown hair from shaving bikini line (which required anti-biotics) why go through that? Nevermind the faff. Who want's an evening shadow on their lady bits?
All for a bit of pruning, but uprooting?

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Fresta · 08/07/2018 16:24

Fully bushy pubes here- I only trim the edges so they don't poke out of my swimwear! I like mine bushy, it's how it's supposed to be.

Can I just ask if there is anyone who has large inner labia that shaves everything off?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 08/07/2018 16:26

Jacques, there's really no point bothering to argue your case about how you feel about pubic hair in relation to your periods, there are women on this thread who just know better how you feel about your own body.

I can remember blood drying on my pubic hair and it wasn't pleasant. That was the first and last time it happened because I don't have hair there now.

However, what do I know? It's my body, my period, my hair but the message here is most definitely, "Silence all you foolish sub-women who do not tow the party line. It's this reason and that reason and that's all there is to it. End of.".

It would be funny if it wasn't so insidious and pathetic. These threads are an absolute joke and any credibility went completely out of the window as soon as the first determined how another woman felt and should feel about her own body.

TornFromTheInside · 08/07/2018 16:27

They also buggered young boys.

However, nobody is denying it's a trend, people are explaining that millions of women didn't all come to the conclusion to remove their hair by chance, they were influenced. Those influences include pornography.

In ancient times, yes, sometimes women removed pubic hair - at the behest of men we shouldn't forget.

Nobody's saying it's wrong - merely pointing out that trends happen and they happen because we are all influenced. It's not random.

BertrandRussell · 08/07/2018 16:33

"Silence all you foolish sub-women who do not tow the party line. It's this reason and that reason and that's all there is to it. End of.""

Oh don't be so silly. Nobody is saying anything of the sort.

TornFromTheInside · 08/07/2018 16:34

None of us can say it's right or wrong - any more than saying long or short hair is the right 'style'. We choose a style, often in line with a trend. It's a choice - an influenced choice usually, but a choice all the same (aren't almost all choices influenced in some way?)

There's a fair amount of science to explain why pubic hair serves a function and can reduce infections, so the 'feeling' of being cleaner without hair is just that - a 'feeling', not necessarily a fact.

For me, if a woman feels good one way or the other, then that's all that matters. If she feels good, I feel good. There's enough pressure on people already to be this or that, I'm not going to add to it by expecting anything of someone regarding their bodies. if a hairy bush or a bald one is enough to make a difference in a relationship, then what sort of weak assed relationship is it?

BertrandRussell · 08/07/2018 16:36

When did Queen Victoria speak out against the removal of pubic hair??? I'd love to read that!
Incidentally her diaries suggest tgt she enjoyed sex quite a lot. Greatly misrepresented, Victoria and the Victorians.

tabulahrasa · 08/07/2018 16:36

"Silence all you foolish sub-women who do not tow the party line. It's this reason and that reason and that's all there is to it. End of.".

Confused no... just that nobody makes decisions in isolation.

I’ve tried hair removal, it’s not for me - it would never have occurred to me to try if it wasn’t a fairly mainstream thing to do though.

Tomatoesrock · 08/07/2018 16:38

Definitely a long time thing, I find it odd looking on naked attraction, though their was a goth lady on and her bush was massively overgrown. Each to their own really.

I prefer mine neat but with a strip of hair a sideways moustache Grin

NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 08/07/2018 16:39

I’m not sure why it’s such a bad thing to want to please your partner. Or why taking on board your partners opinion is such a taboo thing to do here.

I know my partners preference, and he knows mine, in all manner of things.

Isn’t it natural to want to please the one you love? It doesn’t make you subservient in any way.

Missillusioned · 08/07/2018 16:43

Nothing happens in a vacuum. Pubic hair removal is now so popular that anyone who doesn't do it will probably be questioned about it by men they have sex with. Especially men under about 40.

Most of these men remove their own pubic hair also.

It all very well saying that in a relationship it shouldn't matter, but some of us are not in relationships. And still want to have sex. If you have casual sex with young men you have to remove your pubes, especially if you want a man to give oral sex.

SoddingUnicorns · 08/07/2018 16:46

Isn’t it natural to want to please the one you love? It doesn’t make you subservient in any way

Changing something about yourself in order to please your partner is absolutely subservient. If they value you at all they won’t want you to change yourself.

SoddingUnicorns · 08/07/2018 16:46

If you have casual sex with young men you have to remove your pubes, especially if you want a man to give oral sex.

And there it is.

Tomatoesrock · 08/07/2018 16:51

It is up the individual but I do think it is sad for young women, excessive shaving, waxing and plucking will wreck you, Gravity will take over all the pulling, I have warned my older teenage nieces, they are completely hair free everywhere.

As I said I do shave mine, under and sides, but not very regularly Grin

BertrandRussell · 08/07/2018 16:53

Just checked with 17 year old ds and 22 year old dd. Absolutely standard for girls-quite unusual for boys. Small sample, agreed, but

CosyLulu · 08/07/2018 16:53

Why does any modern, intelligent woman actually aspire to look like a Barbie doll? Seriously?

Anyway, it will just be a trend - next generation will embrace all things natural, like in the hippy era, and all the bald and 'enhanced' people will just look tired and old.

BertrandRussell · 08/07/2018 16:55

"I prefer mine neat but with a strip of hair a sideways moustache grin"

Does the strip not get absolutely clogged with blood and sweat?

CosyLulu · 08/07/2018 16:55

If you have casual sex with young men you have to remove your pubes, especially if you want a man to give oral sex.

Woah. How depressing is that?

JacquesHammer · 08/07/2018 16:56

If you have casual sex with young men you have to remove your pubes, especially if you want a man to give oral sex

That’s utterly ridiculous. I’ve only been hair free for the past 3 years. There’s never been an issue getting oral sex.

*Why does any modern, intelligent woman actually aspire to look like a Barbie doll? Seriously?

Anyway, it will just be a trend - next generation will embrace all things natural, like in the hippy era, and all the bald and 'enhanced' people will just look tired and old*

Can we please at least try and have a sensible discussion without ridiculous, personal comments on both sides?

CosyLulu · 08/07/2018 16:56

BertrandRussell checked with dd, 16. She said only 'hoes' shave off their pubes. I'm not proud of her terminology but ...

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 08/07/2018 16:57

That is what I'm hearing, all over this thread. Aggressive and intrusive posting from women who want to police what other women do, chucking in words like gas-lighting and telling them that their experiences are in-valid.

I'm happy to be thought 'silly' not to agree with the pressure exerted by some of you. Leave other women alone.

Goldilocks3Bears · 08/07/2018 16:57

Everyone arguing that we have pubes for a reason. Yes, just like we have eyebrows and armpit hair to catch sweat and shizz, we have a bushy crotch.

The furkini is the result of millions of years of evolution and the reality is that nobody needs that much bodily fuzz now as we wash daily and, for the majority, sit on our arses all day long instead of hunting deer.

I doubt all the people arguing the natural bush for health reasons also shun shampoo, conditioner, soap etc. and men have never been as vain or groomed as they are now (all those Mad Men beards in contrast to the man scaping down below). It’s not just women.

CosyLulu · 08/07/2018 16:58

And anyone using the word foof has got to be seriously deranged.

JacquesHammer · 08/07/2018 16:58

BertrandRussell checked with dd, 16. She said only 'hoes' shave off their pubes. I'm not proud of her terminology but ...

Well I wouldn’t be proud of any part of that statement.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 08/07/2018 17:00

A mother not-so-quietly proud of her daughter referring to women who remove hair as 'hoes'. Urgh.

I never, ever want to be a feminist if this is what it's all about. I've never read anything so pathetic in my life.

I'm just truly glad that I don't come across this posturing in real life.

CosyLulu · 08/07/2018 17:00

JacquesHammer it's an opinion though and everyone seems to be arguing for freedom of speech ...