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Hairless foofs

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Ginismyfriendx · 06/07/2018 01:02

So can't sleep and watching naked attraction (please do judge me, I deserve it)
Are completely bare foofs a thing now? Having had a nasty experience of an ingrown hair from shaving bikini line (which required anti-biotics) why go through that? Nevermind the faff. Who want's an evening shadow on their lady bits?
All for a bit of pruning, but uprooting?

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user1490465531 · 06/07/2018 16:06

Can imagine it's a lot of hard work to keep hair free down there.
Got far more important things to do with my time than worry about that TBH

JacquesHammer · 06/07/2018 16:07

Can imagine it's a lot of hard work to keep hair free down there.
Got far more important things to do with my time than worry about that TBH

Oh for goodness sake 🙄

HelenaDove · 06/07/2018 16:09

"Personal grooming isn't an expensive, invasive surgical procedure."

it bloody well is for women on a low income. More pressure to spend money they havent got.

HelenaDove · 06/07/2018 16:10

Ah Unicorns we are forgetting that the Mighty Penis can do no wrong. Hmm

Lalalala3 · 06/07/2018 16:11

Why don't men wax off all their hair, they have far more of it and their bits would look much 'nicer' too I am sure. Hell would probably freeze over before any man I know would do that....why? Because they are happy with themselves as god intended.

My DH trims his pubes to nearly nothing. Plenty of men shave their chest and legs actually.

Lalalala3 · 06/07/2018 16:13

Can imagine it's a lot of hard work to keep hair free down there.

You just do it in the shower when you wash. The first time takes the longest, after that it's just upkeep. It takes 2-3 minutes. I can do it by feel now, without looking Blush

SoddingUnicorns · 06/07/2018 16:13

@HelenaDove I fear you’re right. Whenever stories like this are recounted the responsibility is always placed with the girl, never ever the boys.

That’s really worrying.

user1490465531 · 06/07/2018 16:16

So much more pressure on women to look groomed than men.
Women's haircuts cost more then a lot of women pay weekly to get nails done and then waxing treatments as we must look hair free everywhere.
And men moan when they have to shave a bit of facial hair.

NotASingleFuckToGive · 06/07/2018 16:16

'He split up with her due to his mates laughing at him for her body hair, and she left to attend a different school'

Fgs. You're focusing on what they said about her body hair not why on earth girls are putting themselves in these situations. Sending naked pictures despite all the horror stories in the media of them being shared???

Teenagers do stupid things. They are also guilty of believing their teenage romance is true love and will last forever and ever. She made a silly decision to take photographs for her boyfriend, and fell victim of her own naivety that he would keep them private. Yes she shouldn't have taken them in the first place, but that wasn't the point I was trying to make. It was the reaction of disgust from everyone else at her natural body which led to the relationship ending and her also changing schools.

FurryDice · 06/07/2018 16:17

If a full Bush is good enough for Cameron Diaz, it’s good enough for me.

www.shape.com/blogs/fit-famous/cameron-diaz-praises-pubes

JaneyEJones · 06/07/2018 16:18

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FurryDice · 06/07/2018 16:18

There’s a good point in that article that says having some pubes is like having a little cushion or buffer, good for protection while exercising. I hadn’t thought of that before.

SoddingUnicorns · 06/07/2018 16:22

My point was you seemed more horrified that they commented on her body hair.

Did I? I’m fairly sure I said I was lost for words, interesting that you got that from that comment.

What I’m horrified at is that sexual bullying is minimised as “predictable” (it’s only predictable if we raise our sons to be scumbags), that the girl is the focus of any chastisement (not just this story, but most I’ve seen) and that the truly despicable, humiliating and sexually aggressive tactics of the boys involved is written off as predictable, or “boys being boys” or some other bullshit.

Lalalala3 · 06/07/2018 16:22

- Where's yours then Mum?

I grew up with a very bushy haired lady and still shaved so it might not make much difference. Tbh I don't remember seeing that much of my parent's vulva, just the odd time when they needed a wee when I was a kid and taking years in the bathGrin

HelenaDove · 06/07/2018 16:27

i have my hair coloured at a salon back to its original colour because i HATE having grey hair.

I also have a chin wax................another delightful by product of being over 40 is chin hair.

ive had to stop having my legs waxed as i cant afford it.

i occasionally have my underarms waxed.

i dont shave as ive not got a very steady hand and shaving makes me sore.

My bras are £30 a time as im a 32HH

Many of us just cant afford it all.

BillywigSting · 06/07/2018 16:44

I don't shave mine off because the itch when it grows back is like nothing else. I don't wax it because I'm too chicken.

I do trim it short though because otherwise it gets tangled and gets bits of loo roll stuck in it and that's both uncomfortable and gross. So it's purely for my own benefit and not aesthetics.

Laiste · 06/07/2018 16:49

So - the hand wringing about what do you tell the daughters ...

Same sort of thing as you tell them about your dyed/bleached/highlighted hair. Your push up bra. Your tattoos. Your shaved pits. Your shaved legs. Your make up. Your spanx. Your eyebrow plucker tweezers. Your nail polish. Your piercings. Your teeth whitener. Your fake tan. Your whatever you might do or use which strays from the natural perfect unaltered state ...

ie: ''i do these things because i like to do them and when you're old enough you can chose to or chose not to''.

BertrandRussell · 06/07/2018 16:53

I make it a rule of life not to respond to posts that dismiss people's perfectly legitimate concerns as "hand wringing".

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 06/07/2018 16:55

HelenaDove, your post to me, the one where you 'rest your case'... well, it's just an opinion isn't it? The poster owned it, said "I think...".

I don't post like that myself because I'm cognisant of other people's feelings on the subject. What I think many posters are not taking account of, is individual women are using their own reference points for this and for anything else really. The recent 'period' thread is a really good example. So many women suffer with this yet are told that they cannot possible be right... and it's the same on this thread.

A woman who says that 'she finds removing her hair more hygienic is referring to herself'. She's not scooping up other people in that claim, she's talking for herself. Neither you nor anybody else knows anything about why she feels the way she does yet immediately, she is pounced on and told that she's suggesting/implying or outright saying - that pubic hair is not hygienic. This is really unfair.

We are not 'the Borg', we don't think the same things and different things irritate and annoy us. I personally have a bugbear about SPAG corrections and I also hate threads critiquing what women wear or look like. I'm often to be found on those threads saying how distasteful I find the comments - and I'm usually on my own doing it too. Yet on threads like this, we are seemingly not 'allowed' an opinion that differs from keeping pubic hair.

As we're adults, properly functioning and thinking adults, this doesn't sit right with many of us but I cannot find a post on this thread that says anything along the lines of what you're suggestion - that 'hair keepers have been told they are unhygienic, dirty, smelly, whatever'. That hyperbole however is being used to justify some pretty low insults.

So, in summary, far from 'resting your case', it's really a question of 'testing the case', it is far from conclusive.

SoddingUnicorns · 06/07/2018 16:56

I make it a rule of life not to respond to posts that dismiss people's perfectly legitimate concerns as "hand wringing"

This.

Roussette · 06/07/2018 16:59

No one is going to outright say to another poster 'you are smelly, you are dirty', for having pubic hair. But this from helena's quote of a PP pretty much sums it up surely...

"I think hair down there, regardless of whether it is more hygienic or not, is gross"

But maybe we're just splitting hairs! (pun intended)

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 06/07/2018 17:09

No, Rousette, Bertrand and others have made it perfectly clear that this is what they are being told. Yet they are not.

That quote from HelenaDove's post is an opinion that the poster of that post holds - about herself. She things it's gross. She's entitled to that opinion regardless of whether you or anybody else agrees with it.

As always, this thread is divisive and getting pettier by the post. I'm not seeing any value in it; I'd sum it up as 'hair removers being challenged and told to 'think' and the hair keepers patting themselves and each other on the back'. Nothing has been achieved, just the usual bad feeling.

It's not your place or anybody else's place to care or object to what a woman does with her own body and nobody has to explain or justify their choices either.

furandchandeliers · 06/07/2018 17:15

They are a thing, have been for years, don't pretend not to know just so you can start a debate Hmm

JaneyEJones · 06/07/2018 17:16

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Roussette · 06/07/2018 17:17

Oh for goodness sake, I'm not objecting to what any woman wants to do with their bits as far as removing hair! Why would I, for about the tenth time, each to their own, do what you want with your own body! I'm just objecting to those who say that hairless ones aren't saying anything against those that choose not to remove hair.

Nobody has to justify. It's a discussion thread and we're discussing it AFAIC

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