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Wedding day....England are playing?????

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arghhhhhhh · 04/07/2018 15:11

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

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GameOfMinges · 08/07/2018 17:32

That's unfortunate and I'm sorry to hear it princess. Both the trashing and the stereotyping.

MargaretCavendish · 08/07/2018 17:34

Enjoy watching a film? How stupid, its not going to change your life. Appreciate art? Ridiculous, it's just marks on a surface. Love music? Pathetic. Oh, you like going to the theatre? Absolute waste of time, watching people you don't know pretend to be more people you don't know.

No one was suggesting watching a film, play or viewing a quick bit of art at someone else's wedding, though, were they? I don't think many people on this thread was saying it's wrong to watch the football on an afternoon where you're free as your leisure activity of choice - it's doing it during someone else's event that's controversial.

FallenSky · 08/07/2018 17:38

No one was suggesting watching a film, play or viewing a quick bit of art at someone else's wedding, though, were they? I don't think many people on this thread was saying it's wrong to watch the football on an afternoon where you're free as your leisure activity of choice - it's doing it during someone else's event that's controversial

I have to disagree with you there. There are many posts on this thread ridiculing football fans in general, NOT just in this scenario.

FWIW, my opinion regarding the wedding is that the bride has every right to say no to screening it and also politely request people aren't watching it on phones during the ceremony but to declare the whole event a football free zone is ridiculous.

chrisinthesun · 09/07/2018 00:24

Excellent post @fallensky

It will fall on deaf ears on this thread though, with the amount of bitter miserable negative-nancies who seem to hate their life, and want everyone else to be as miserable as them.

arghhhhhhh · 09/07/2018 07:46

@FallenSky I totally agree. It's like if you like football then you are a bad person..... so many stuck up people on this post.

There's only been a few photos of the wedding put on fb. No update from the bride or anything. Nothing since the last post which she has now deleted.

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runningkeenster · 09/07/2018 08:33

I associate English football fans with fat bellies and tattoos

Me too. Not a pretty sight, even when they're being peaceful and not trashing your home city.

TheMonkeyMummy · 09/07/2018 09:22

Well said @FallenSky.

JacquesHammer · 09/07/2018 09:55

I associate English football fans with fat bellies and tattoos

Me too. Not a pretty sight, even when they're being peaceful and not trashing your home city

Must admit I kind of associate opinions like that with less than average intelligence.

chrysalis7 · 09/07/2018 10:02

What a bunch of horrible sneery people congregated on this thread. Why on earth is there such nastiness towards people who enjoy a sport?

Lots of comments about how England winning won't change any ones life. How it's ridiculous to cheer on men running around a field kicking a ball. Enjoy watching a film? How stupid, its not going to change your life. Appreciate art? Ridiculous, it's just marks on a surface. Love music? Pathetic. Oh, you like going to the theatre? Absolute waste of time, watching people you don't know pretend to be more people you don't know.

How about, if you don't like football, you don't watch it? No need to be an arsehole towards people who do.

Best post on this thread ...

Well said @FallenSky

And as @JacquesHammer said I also associate people who come out with sweeping generalisations like 'all football fans are stupid and loud and have fat bellies' as having lower than average intelligence too ...

ReanimatedSGB · 09/07/2018 10:27

Football fans are a diverse range of people (including a lot of violent arseholes). But what is irritating people about this men's football competition is the amount of pressure on those who have no interest in it to pay attention to it and allow it to interfere with them doing the stuff that actually interests them. There is very little else that is pushed this hard as something you must appreciate, must acknowledge, must allow to take precedence over whatever else you might want to do.

GameOfMinges · 09/07/2018 10:30

I always just think it rather brave. A lot of people do try and cover up their snobbery after all.

As for bellies, I'm more pear than apple myself...

JacquesHammer · 09/07/2018 10:33

But what is irritating people about this men's football competition is the amount of pressure on those who have no interest in it to pay attention to it and allow it to interfere with them doing the stuff that actually interests them

Then I’m genuinely sorry you mix with such unpleasant people.

I’ve not seen any evidence of that in any of the places I’ve been since 14th June.

Norugratsatall · 09/07/2018 10:35

But what is irritating people about this men's football competition is the amount of pressure on those who have no interest in it to pay attention to it and allow it to interfere with them doing the stuff that actually interests them. There is very little else that is pushed this hard as something you must appreciate, must acknowledge, must allow to take precedence over whatever else you might want to do.

^^This!! I hate the way it permeates every facet of existence right now.

ReanimatedSGB · 09/07/2018 10:51

@JaaquesHammer this thread was about someone who didn't like men's football being pressured to acknowledge it and allow it to take over her wedding day.

GameOfMinges · 09/07/2018 11:09

Well no. You've added that last bit yourself. You've no idea whether the requests were obnoxious demands for big screens during the meal from dozens of people, or a couple of questions as to whether the venue had a room with a telly they could nip off and check every now and then during wedding lull period.

This is precisely what the poster upthread meant about adding your own backstories.

JacquesHammer · 09/07/2018 11:20

@ReanimatedSGB

Aaah. So in fact you've not been pressured to take an interest at all?

All good then.

SillyLittleBiscuit · 09/07/2018 11:23

It's coming home.

runningkeenster · 09/07/2018 11:41

Must admit I kind of associate opinions like that with less than average intelligence

Oh well, we can agree to disagree. I accept that people may have different views to me, and intelligence levels don't come into it.

Bobbydeniro69 · 09/07/2018 11:54

" Mens Football" "Mens Football Competition"

Only on Mumsnet.

Why is not being referred to simply as football? just doesn't seem necessary to add the ' men's' bit...unless there is some feminist point there pointing out the patriarchy of sport?

Lweji · 09/07/2018 12:11

this thread was about someone who didn't like men's football being pressured to acknowledge it and allow it to take over her wedding day.

No, it wasn't.

Being able to watch one game doesn't mean it has to take over an entire day.

JacquesHammer · 09/07/2018 12:15

Oh well, we can agree to disagree. I accept that people may have different views to me, and intelligence levels don't come into it

I have no issue with different views.

Sweeping generalisations are just tiresome and silly.

JacquesHammer · 09/07/2018 12:17

Why is not being referred to simply as football? just doesn't seem necessary to add the ' men's' bit...unless there is some feminist point there pointing out the patriarchy of sport?

Pretty much

Although by that token I'm sure the same poster will be discussing "women's football" during the World Cup in 2019.

Me? I just prefer to call it "football"; given that the two tournaments aren't remotely concurrent I don't think there's any risk of anyone getting confused Grin

likeacrow · 09/07/2018 12:21

bitter miserable negative-nancies who seem to hate their life

😂 Fucking hell.

GameOfMinges · 09/07/2018 12:30

Whether intelligence levels come into it rather depends on what the different views are.

Although I think perhaps more interesting is people who aren't unintelligent, but who allow their judgement to be clouded and themselves to condone behaviour, accept negative and dangerous stereotypes etc, in a way that they never would if those actions weren't directed at people who share a trait they don't like much.

arghhhhhhh · 09/07/2018 12:34

'this thread was about someone who didn't like men's football being pressured to acknowledge it and allow it to take over her'

Where in my original post does it say that exactly? So if it were the women's World Cup then she would of happily shown it???? Ridiculous statement. My original post said absolutely nothing about it beings 'men's' football.....quite simply because it's nothing to do with 'men's' football.

Why the hell does everything have to be so gender soecific?

I won't be watching on Wednesday thinking 'bloody men and their football'

I will be watching the footy on Wednesday cheering my country on with pride.

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