Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

They likely won't come. That'll make a good impression.

Ah ok, so you didn’t want to introduce the newcomers to others to help them settle into a new area. This was actually an initiation. Lucky them to have failed it!

You can meet me, my sister, my mum, some mates from uni and a few colleagues if you like

And my 12 bbq guests. The couple who mistakenly thought it was going to be a football-fest have decided to come after all and record the match. There's no way they'll accidentally hear the score in my back garden. Unless he can't resist a peek at his phone. If he can get a signal. But that will be up to him, I'm not banning phones.

Ah ok, so you didn’t want to introduce the newcomers to others to help them settle into a new area. This was actually an initiation. Lucky them to have failed it!

Of course that's why I invited them. They are actually coming now, as it happens. I really don't understand what you're getting at. I didn't even know football was on today when I invited them, let alone know that England was playing. I don't understand what you're insinuating but I can tell it's something unpleasant.

Is this a peek into a football fan's mind?
Can you really not comprehend that lots of people just aren't interested?

I’m not a football fan Cheeky.

I was picking up on what you said about the new neighbours ‘making an impression’. It sounds like an odd way to start out a new friendship if you are already primed to judge them on whether or not they accept your invitation.

Glad they are now coming and hope you all have a lovely time.

I am also sick of denial from some that most of the population of England is excited about it
Do you need some tutoring in Maths? The figures show that this simply isn't true. A significant percentage, but still less than half.

I seriously pity the people who are so negative about this whole world cup, and I actually don't trust anyone who isn't excited about it tbh.
Not a fan of diversity then? Are you racist and homophobic too?

it's just individuals in the parallel universe of mumsnet who have (supposedly) 'not a jot of interest in it!'
Try telling that to DH who isn't on MN and is at a major event today where NO ONE will be watching the football

I actually don't trust anyone who isn't excited about it tbh.

Pmsl at this^^. Jesus Christ.

Is this a peek into a football fan's mind?

It is one posters opinion. Don’t try and extrapolate it and create “typical fan”. It doesn’t work/

Lol hilarious. OP, if anybody turns down your wedding I'd love to go. If you GAVE me a ticket to the England match I'd rather watch re-runs of friends. Or go to Ikea! That's how little interest I have.

It sounds like an odd way to start out a new friendship if you are already primed to judge them on whether or not they accept your invitation

I sort of understand. But I'd already invited them, and they'd already keenly accepted, and my other neighbours knew they were coming and are preparing to welcome them. Then new neighbour sent a text saying they might be late but would be here before kick off.

I had to text back saying that nobody here would be watching the football. And I didn't get an answer for hours, which meant that they were wondering what to do. If they hadn't come, me and my neighbours would have rolled out the welcome mat - and then been dumped in favour of a football match. At the last minute as well. That really wouldn't have made a good impression.

I have a friend who says her wedding ( before I met her) fell on an England world cup game in I think 1998. They showed it, reckoned it added to the sense of occasion! But then, they both like football .

I think it's really quite sad to have your wedding taken over by a football match.

Yes I know people are supposed to not care much about them

Yes I know the bride and groom are 'hosts' in a sense

But to the bride and groom it's the most important day in the world and I expect they want to st least have people acting like it's more important than the football.

I have a few friends who love the football and my Dad really enjoys it too. I personally would either have it in a separate room to the main reception area or not can them checking their phones.

But I'd think it's incredibly poor taste to pull out your phone in the middle of reception and start live-streaming the football.

To those saying it's boring when photos are taken - unless you're the only uni friend or a really big introvert, surely you'll be chatting to overs and looking over the venue ?

I don't even get the bit about not enjoying others weddings - I do. I love seeing what they choose to represent themselves, colour choices, what the cake looks like etc. It's also great to catch up with people you've not seen in a while.

I agree with @Lockheart That you wouldn't do it at someone's birthday celebration or funeral and the pp who said it's different as you have to pay in advance for meal on a birthday celebration makes it even worse as the bride and groom are paying for the food.

I also worry how it will go down when England lose. Because they likely will and then you're stuck with disappointed guests who are going to be a low on post match adrenaline and will just not be cheery.

I think just refreshing your phone every 20 minutes for a sneaky glance is the best way to go. Glance of scores that is, not the game playing.

Well it sounds as though your BBQs are more formal events than the sort of thing I am used to Cheeky. Perhaps this is the case for the new neighbours too. When we have a BBQ, we tend to let the neighbours know and then just say 'pop in if you're free any time between 12:00 and 20:00', or whatever. If they come, great, if they don't- no worries.

I think she's being a bit daft making it a football free zone. BUT only if the football is on in between the wedding and the main reception. Otherwise people should just suck it up.

I don't see why there should be a TV on during a meal or buffet or whilst the photos are being taken. It takes ages to get people together for a photo as it is without having to tear people away from a TV just because someone's about to take a corner or something.

And the TV can go in a separate room - not the main one. I'd be really p'd off if I were a guest and had to sit and watch the World Cup. I've no interest in it at all. It's on in the other room at the moment which is why I'm on here. I'm happy if England do well but I'm certainly not bothered to watch them. I'd hate to be at a wedding having to watch it because I can't escape. If they want it they can go into another room. My cousin had her wedding on the same day as the world cup England match eight years ago. We grabbed a few people out of the pub on the way to the wedding but the majority had no interest in it at all.

And what happens if England loses? Miserable sods hanging about a wedding. Lovely.

I think I set up a penalty shoot out in the hotel grounds if it was my wedding day!

Come on England!!!

Perfect day for a trip to IKEA. It must be like a ghost town there

its started :)

Wonder whats going on at THE wedding of the year

but when England lose those same fans will destroy any happy mood because 24 men kicking a ball around a gloried garden will effect there mood so most hard core fans cannot separate disappointment that their spot team lost so would think nothing of being grumpy at the wedding / might leave early as why celebrate because their team lost etc.

I'd like to be a fly on the wall and count the number of surreptitious phones being checked and earbuds tucked under hairdos.

But I wish the happy couple well and I hope the bride enjoys her day and doesn't allow herself to spoil it by continually checking on everyone. If she does, she'll have no one to blame but herself for her day being 'ruined'. Ignorance is bliss.

2 -0 yay.

Whoohooo

Perfect day for a trip to IKEA. It must be like a ghost town there

I went to one of our city's big country house/park/petting zoo/woods type place earlier today - was there from about 11 until 2. It's the type of place that's usually heaving in the summer, you can't get parked if you get there after mid day, have to queue for 20 minutes for the toilet or an ice cream etc. It was dead.

There's a big grassed area in front of the main house that's usually full of people enjoying the sun, dogs and DCs running around, sunbathing etc and I think there were two groups on it.

I half expected it to be quite busy, with people getting out for some fresh air, walk the dogs etc before the match, but no, was almost completely empty. I've seen more people there on a wet Tuesday in November.

I thought I'd go out shopping as it was bound to be quiet since everyone is excited about the football. I was actually quite annoyed that the car park was 80% full!