Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

[elcarmen]

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

elcarmen Do none of your other guests have 'unnatural ' coloured hair, large tattoos, unique style of dress etc? Will they also be banned in case people look at them instead of you? I am sure that their will be no doubt who the day is about, and so what about the photos? I wonder why she has decided not to go to the wedding of such a shallowloyal friend.

Id dump her as a bridesmaid.
I’m shallow though and think dying your hair silly colours is a bit pathetic.

• she named her kitten after my ex-boyfriend after we broke up
she announced her pregnancy at my engagement party

And now she's dyed her hair pink, 1 week before your wedding, knowing she's a bridesmaid.

Why are you still friends?

I would tell her not to bother if she won't dye it back, if it was a natural colour to begin with.
I think it was calculated as you say to gain attention or shock.

^^ Sorry there , not their!

Thing is, if she dyes her hair dark again, she won't be able to dye it pink for ages as it's virtually impossible to bleach black dye so it's hardly a short term thing for her.

Babynut1 I find that hilarious because I think most of the Nice & Easy and other box colours are silly. Either be grey or make it a feature, it’s silly to cling on to an arbitrary colour you were born with that probably looks like dishwater anyway. What if she’d died it ginger? (Also gorgeous) would the hair police be saying that didn’t go with red dresses. It may or may not but no one picks their bridesmaids because of their hair colour. They pick them for their depth of feeling towards them. Which means OP shouldn’t care what her friend looks like.

Maybe you can just ask her why she did it and see what her reason was?

She'll hardly admit it was attention seeking would she now. She'll just say she wanted to or fancied a change...a week before your wedding.

She'd be off my bridal train with that selfish move.

This reminds me of say yes to the dress...some really unpleasant bridesmaids wanting to steal the show...but they are overt about it.

OP - are you at all crafty? I feel sure you could knock one of these up for her by Saturday, then no dye necessary.

www.pinkclassy.com/solid-knitted-wig-hat-with-mask-for-adult-g-23033

The thing is it's nit easy to go from black to bright pink. It takes a considerable amount of time,money and effort, could damage the hair too. It would take some pretty strong negative feelings to go through it just out if spite.

not a lot you can do tbh cant force someone to change. someone i know went and got her nails done the exact colour i was having (i was the bride) i was a little annoyed as i had told her what i was having and she copied me. i never have my nails done and wanted them to look special for my big day. i vetoed the bridal party colour for guests and i dont care if i sound like bridezilla i wanted my mum and bridesmaids and maid of honour to stand out as they are the best 😂😂😂

I'm going to find my wedding photos and see if I can get them photoshopped. Maybe replace DH with Tom Hiddlestone. Give me the wedding day I should have had.

I laughed out loud at this! (And am wondering what I can Photoshop.)

Someone copied your nail polish MRS? Do You really think anyone would have noticed??!

nice bit of googling there.

Unfortunately, I'm a bit obsessed with The Big Bang Theory. Was it her line about rosary rattlers though? I was torn between that and Leonard saying she shouldn't call Japanese writing "kung fu letters."

Please could you tell me what is wrong with saying someone’s hair looked nice and appropriate (for the occasion). Seriously, please tell me because I haven’t a clue what you are getting at.

You don't?

"She cut her hair short ... it was still appropriate."

Pray tell, why would short hair (on a woman, of course) be classed as inappropriate?

I am genuinely shocked that people still consider pink as an out there colour. I see so many people with pink. It’s a gateway colour 😂 Mermaid hair has been a thing for years.

Right?

Do I live in a densely pink-populated area? I see people with pink hair everywhere!

rosesandflowers1 maybe a penis shaved in the side?

roses
Yes you must live in a densely pink-populated area. No one round here is pink. A few women did go that purple rinse grey a year or so ago.

Blue seems to be the colour of choice here...better or worse?

I’m with you OP, if she’d gone for a natural colour or she was a guest and not a bridesmaid then that would be one thing but pink hair always looks cheap and shit and she should have waited a week until after your wedding.

It's her hair, not yours. She can have it any colour she wants and it's none of your business. Literally none.

Yeh bridget but op can decide if she still wants her as a bridesmaid or not. That is her business, literally.

op can decide if she still wants her as a bridesmaid or not.

Of course. But look at the title of the thread. "Bridesmaid won't dye her hair". The OP expected her bridesmaid to change her hair colour again because she disliked it.

I think for me, it all comes back to the motivation behind her making a drastic change tonher appearance a week before her friend's wedding. Why couldn't she wait another week? It seems calculated and that is what wouls upset me the most.

What shade of red, are the dresses?

What shade of pink is her hair?

Do the two shades really clash, or is it just not as nice as her original colour next to the dress?

If they really clash, could you book a hairdresser to style her hair (perhaps with a little silk cap, or similar hair accessory) with minimal hair showing.

Then stand her at the back in all the photos, if you have to.

(or just ignore it and enjoy your wedding)!

mummyoflittledragon are you in London? No one bats an eyelid at pink hair here.

I’m now getting the impression that in some places a Nice & Easy medium red is considered attention seeking