Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

[elcarmen]

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

I've never known an adult dye their hair an odd colour.

Never!?! Not even someone famous? Katy Perry? Vivienne Westwood? Lil Kim? Rihanna? Helen Mirren even had pink hair 5 years ago... How odd the world passed you by.

I had fushia tips last year.

I don't actually know those people.

But then I don't work or socialise with 'wacky, out-there, I'm so different to everyone else' types. I work in one of the most corporate environments in the city, and I still manage to have a life.

Normal bride-to-be who chose best friends as bridesmaid and see new pink hair: scream excitedly (wedding nerves) on how good/fun/brilliant it looks.

Bridezilla whose only paying for a "show-wedding" and her only chance to pretend she will be in Hello magazine when she sees her photos: throw a tantrum.

I would have been upset if one of my friends had turned up in my wedding in a tracksuit bottom, not for the look itself, but for the attitude. Bridesmaid with bright pink hair in my own conservative and traditional wedding: funny, good for her! Why would you ask someone to be a bridesmaid if you don't like her in the first place.

I feel it is really rude. I don’t think the bride can ask to dye back but I think the bridesmaid should choose to dye it back on her own

YANBU I think it's a joke that she's died her hair a stupid bright colour right before your wedding!! Jokes on her tho as she's look like a complete dick and everyone will think she's a attention seeking brat.

I'd ask her to dye her hair back. She could get a temporary brown that'll wash out after the wedding!!

I'd test how much she valued my friendship by asking her to dye it back for the day. If she didn't give a fuck about me and refused, then I'd know the answer. And obviously she would no longer be at the wedding. Plenty of mates thanks.

She could get a temporary brown that'll wash out after the wedding!!

She'd be hard pressed to find one. I think there are colour mousses available but they're mostly for prepigging, so I'm not sure brown is available and you'd need access to a salon supply store to find it.

Also, under the pink is very pale blonde. To go from very pale blonde to 'brown' is a colour correction and requires more than slapping on a box dye and hoping for the best.

OP could suggest it but the result will likely be a murky green colour, Best stick with the pink, imo. It will have faded to almost blonde by the wedding anyway.

Pink washes out pretty quick. It will already be paler by the wedding unless she doesn’t wash it at all. I only wash mine twice a week and after 2 washes it was much lighter.

Stop acting like an entitled Royal Princess.
The world doesn't revolve around you and your Wedding
Do you honestly think shed change the colour anyway just because she was told to.

Freq Your right about it most likely fading before the wedding but it's not always the case.

Also their are plenty of temporary brown dyes that would work fine in covering the pink colour (my mum is a hairdresser and I frequently dye my hair).

If she won't dye it, I'd demote her from being a bridesmaid. She clearly cares more about herself than your friendship if she knows that this has upset you and still she won't do anything to amend it. This is a very important day for a BRIDE and shouldn't be about the bloody bridesmaid!

Awwlookatmybabyspider No the world doesn't revolve around her but her wedding day does! Therefore she should be entitled to have it how she wants it and shouldn't be upstaged by a selfish bridesmaid randomly dying her hair a stupid bright colour a week before. The timing is way too suspicious to not be about upstaging the bride. It's ridiculous.

Hahaa you cannot be serious? don't be so bloody precious.
It's hair, if you're that worried about someone's hair colour upstaging you at your own wedding then I think its you that's the problem.

If she's so self centred why bother asking her to be a bridesmaid in the first place? maybe she just likes pink and thinks it looks hella cool? which I'm sure it does

Ridiculous comments as per awwlookatmybabyspider.

YABU for having red bridesmaid dresses - euw

OP I don't see why you're getting such a hard time. She could have waited, and it's obvious she only did this for attention. I had a friend...my best friend for 25 years, and she did stuff like this at odd times. Not just to me, but it was like she couldn't bear anyone else to be special or have the focus on them. e.g. she had a huge row with her boyfriend at our other friend's wedding until everyone was checking she was okay. I had three bridesmaids...all loved their dresses and shoes etc. but on the day she turned up in a totally different pair of shoes cos she wanted to. Not a big deal, but she wanted to stand out. When I bought my house, she was the only person not to visit for 6 months (5 minutes drive from hers), then spent the night making smart remarks about what she didn't like about my new home. I actually haven't bothered contacting her for the past year and don't miss the drama at all.
Could you ask the other bridesmaids what they think?

No one will notice the hair of a bridesmaid. Everyone will focus on the bride, the groom and possibly mother of the bride a little bit. No one even notices the mother of the groom so leave your attention seeking bridesmaid to her pink hair. It will all have faded out in three weeks time anyway.

Ridiculous comment as per.
A faceless non entity ain't going to make me go away, love. What makes you think I'm particularly in love with you.
Who the fuck are, you. Ive never even came across you. Poster come lately. I suppose

The minute you pay for my Internet access is the day you can dictate wether or not I can post on here.

Like I said.....

"odd" hair colour cost a fortune no, it doesn't! I've never had my colours done professionally, only had one mishap when going from Blue-Black to blonde (went ginger), but going from blonde to pink to purple and brown etc is all doable with box dyes.

Of course if you have rainbow hair/ombre etc then it will cost a fortune as hard to do that at home in a tidy way!

@Letmesuckyourblood no one will be looking at the bridesmaids.

Everyone will be focusing on the bride and groom.

So the bridesmaid can try and stand out as much as possible but the attention won't be on her.

I've been to weddings with sulky best men, pregnant bridesmaids and crying babies but unless you are the person who is dealing with them, none of the other guests remember.

OP - I actually get why you are upset, given photographers and photos for wedding cost a fortune 2k+, I would understand you feeling hurt if one of your bridal party who you trust and have probably spent £500 on their outfit then did something to impact on the look of your day which you have spent your time and money putting together.

You can have whatever you want on the day as you are paying for it, if she wants to do something that with clash with your plans then tell her, you can't ask her to dye her hair but you can say that this means she won't be in. Bridal party and therefore you'd like to return dress etc, But you need to talk to her not bitch on here.

I am sure I read somewhere about a bridesmaid being sacked because she dared trying to ruin the photos by wearing a cast on her arm broken just before the wedding. The bitch!

We really should start a thread about the most unreasonable CF bridesmaids behaviour.

The responses on his thread make me feel like I am living in a parallel universe.

Of course it’s an awful thing to do. Most normal right-thinking people would be annoyed at that and it is a dick move just before your wedding. She knows it, you know it and ALL your guests will clock it.

I sometimes think people write the very opposite of their real opinions on here just to have a dig at the OP.

OP, one of my bridesmaids had her hair cut just before my wedding, taking her hair from shoulder length to just below the ear. I didn’t say anything - she looked perfectly nice and appropriate still - but it meant the vintage hair slide I had bought for each of the bridesmaids to wear at the back of a half up-do didn’t fit properly because there wasn’t enough hair to take back. We just about managed it with a lot of hairspray but I did silently think why on earth did you do that right before my wedding?

So I’d probably have exploded if one of them had dyed their hair pink