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For asking DP to move out after 6 months?

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YouBloodyPigeon · 03/07/2018 14:45

I have essentially moved in another child.

He's 32 and never lived away from him mum and she did everything for him. When he asked about moving in here I said he would have to pull his weight with the housework and bills. I don't expect him to pay towards the mortgage but bills and groceries definately.

First month he paid up fine. Second month he announced a new PS4 game was coming out and he had to buy the limited edition for £75 so bill money would be a bit short. I was fuming and told him that wasn't on. He had a bit argument and eventually he agreed that it was selfish and he wouldn't do it again.

2nd and 3rd month fine. 4th month he announced he had to go on a stag weekend so I had a choice between receiving less bill money or buying all the groceries for one month. He just takes the piss, it's a fucking joke.

On top of that he gets a shower and just leaves all his clothes piled up on the toilet for me to move. First few times I did as I needed the toilet but after a few weeks of this I started just swiping them off the big onto the floor. This resulted in him calling me petty and childish, going off in a huff etc. I'm not fucking having it!! He never makes dinner, never washes up - one time I told him we both work so either he cooks or tidied kitchen after cooking. He said he'd do the kitchen. So after dinner he spends 5 minutes in the kitchen, comes out and says "all done! The only thing I haven't done is the pans." I went in to look and all he HAD done is piled up the dirty pots in the sink for me to wash!!! He just doesn't seem to grasp it at all.

Other incidents include him starting a water fight with my kids - with BLEACH water from a bucket.

And yesterday's incident - he decided to sort the fridge out so cooked bacon, sausages, eggs, black pudding etc etc - all out of date stuff that he'd left in there - for my dogs. They're fucking champion show dogs. I was so angry I cried. One of them was sick all night. I just think he's beyond it and needs to go. I know it takes a while for someone to get used to not living with their mother but with the other stuff, the bleach water and the dogs I don't even feel he can be trusted in the house.

AIBU to just chuck him out without warning? I've really had enough.

OP posts:
0nTheEdge · 04/07/2018 09:33

Come back OP, what are you thinking? Try to salvage and get him to change his ways or kick him to the kerb?

Frosty66612 · 04/07/2018 09:41

He sounds utterly pathetic!

justilou1 · 04/07/2018 10:11

You don’t even like him. Pack up his playstation and his filthy clothes off the floor and send him home to Mummy. You will feel enormous relief and your house will smell better too!$

Sparklesocks · 04/07/2018 10:18

He's a little boy who still needs a mummy...get rid!

Thatssomebadhatharry · 04/07/2018 10:56

Is he long term really. Sounds like a waster. At 32 if he hasnt grown up by now he never will.

0nTheEdge · 04/07/2018 10:57

I fear you've disappeared because maybe you don't want to break up with him? If this is the case and he has enough redeeming qualities to want to save the relationship, would it be worth saying you can continue dating if he gets his own place so he can learn how to be responsible for himself and his budget? So he learns there are consequences of not paying bills, not picking up after himself or cleaning, etc.

Flexoset · 04/07/2018 11:03

Please tell me this cocklodger is no longer infesting your house. I'm already angry with him and I've never even met him.

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