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For asking DP to move out after 6 months?

157 replies

YouBloodyPigeon · 03/07/2018 14:45

I have essentially moved in another child.

He's 32 and never lived away from him mum and she did everything for him. When he asked about moving in here I said he would have to pull his weight with the housework and bills. I don't expect him to pay towards the mortgage but bills and groceries definately.

First month he paid up fine. Second month he announced a new PS4 game was coming out and he had to buy the limited edition for £75 so bill money would be a bit short. I was fuming and told him that wasn't on. He had a bit argument and eventually he agreed that it was selfish and he wouldn't do it again.

2nd and 3rd month fine. 4th month he announced he had to go on a stag weekend so I had a choice between receiving less bill money or buying all the groceries for one month. He just takes the piss, it's a fucking joke.

On top of that he gets a shower and just leaves all his clothes piled up on the toilet for me to move. First few times I did as I needed the toilet but after a few weeks of this I started just swiping them off the big onto the floor. This resulted in him calling me petty and childish, going off in a huff etc. I'm not fucking having it!! He never makes dinner, never washes up - one time I told him we both work so either he cooks or tidied kitchen after cooking. He said he'd do the kitchen. So after dinner he spends 5 minutes in the kitchen, comes out and says "all done! The only thing I haven't done is the pans." I went in to look and all he HAD done is piled up the dirty pots in the sink for me to wash!!! He just doesn't seem to grasp it at all.

Other incidents include him starting a water fight with my kids - with BLEACH water from a bucket.

And yesterday's incident - he decided to sort the fridge out so cooked bacon, sausages, eggs, black pudding etc etc - all out of date stuff that he'd left in there - for my dogs. They're fucking champion show dogs. I was so angry I cried. One of them was sick all night. I just think he's beyond it and needs to go. I know it takes a while for someone to get used to not living with their mother but with the other stuff, the bleach water and the dogs I don't even feel he can be trusted in the house.

AIBU to just chuck him out without warning? I've really had enough.

OP posts:
FelicityWillowby · 03/07/2018 16:36

Jesus take the wheel!! This man-child is 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

Whatsmyname14 · 03/07/2018 16:37

Both husband and I says he has to go.

Ginkypig · 03/07/2018 16:38

No you can live at home until your 50 and not behave like this!

I did more than he does now at 15 years old while still at home!

CampariSpritz · 03/07/2018 16:39

He has to go.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 03/07/2018 16:42

You would be unreasonable not to throw him out!

Iamtryingtobenicehere · 03/07/2018 16:43

I disagree with this though, let's stop blaming women for men being immature failures eh?

Who do you suppose ‘house trained’ or rather skipped on the house training because it was easier and quicker to do it herself..? Clue......it was his mum!

Dump the manchild.

YearOfYouRemember · 03/07/2018 16:44

When are you telling him the good news?

ohfourfoxache · 03/07/2018 16:49

What a tool Shock

I can’t believe you have to ask

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 03/07/2018 16:49

Please dump him and please tell us how it goes!

RailReplacementBusService · 03/07/2018 16:52

Frankly you would be unreasonable not to throw him out

timelord92 · 03/07/2018 16:53

He’s acting likes he’s 10 not 32. I’d wouldn’t just be throwing him out, I’d be reevaluating my relationship with him.

Everything he’s done is unacceptable.

KokoandAllBall · 03/07/2018 16:59

AIBU to just chuck him out without warning?

You'd BU not to!

Bramble71 · 03/07/2018 16:59

He sounds more like 12 than 32, maturity-wise. Get rid and quick, OP.

kaitlinktm · 03/07/2018 17:02

I can't understand why women are still raising their sons like this - to be utterly incapable of basic life skills at 32 is an embarrassment to both him and his Mum.

Is he an embarrassment to his Dad too, or is it just his Mum's fault?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 03/07/2018 17:04

I don't know about his Dad, OP only mentioned him living with his Mum who 'did everything for him' hence my comment...

PieAndPumpkins · 03/07/2018 17:06

Yeah, you really didn't need to ask. I wouldn't even give him any notice, just tell him you want him out tonight.

SilverySurfer · 03/07/2018 17:07

Op you might find this thread interesting: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3292227-to-not-want-to-live-with-a-man-again Living alone is a thousand times better than living with a man-child.

sexnotgender · 03/07/2018 17:09

Yuck, what a fanny dryer he sounds.

Kick the man child out ASAP.

HyacinthsBucket70 · 03/07/2018 17:19

How on earth have you lasted 6 months with this manchild?

Feeding your dogs like that is unforgiveable. And cruel. That alone would have been the end for me.

KermitsLoveChild · 03/07/2018 17:21

'Fanny drier' GrinGrin

AmIAWeed · 03/07/2018 17:25

I had an almighty row with a partner about gravy after living together a week and he moved out.
I have no idea how you've tolerated 6 months. PS4 game would have been game over for me!

halfwitpicker · 03/07/2018 17:34

Fanny dryer

{grin}

Creases

purpleleotard · 03/07/2018 17:36

Send him back to mummy

WhoAteAllTheDinosaurs · 03/07/2018 17:42

Loving the phrase "fanny drier"!

Seriously OP, how have you managed to last this long with him?!

longwayoff · 03/07/2018 17:43

6 months? Gosh you're patient. You have enough children give him back to mum.

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