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For asking DP to move out after 6 months?

157 replies

YouBloodyPigeon · 03/07/2018 14:45

I have essentially moved in another child.

He's 32 and never lived away from him mum and she did everything for him. When he asked about moving in here I said he would have to pull his weight with the housework and bills. I don't expect him to pay towards the mortgage but bills and groceries definately.

First month he paid up fine. Second month he announced a new PS4 game was coming out and he had to buy the limited edition for £75 so bill money would be a bit short. I was fuming and told him that wasn't on. He had a bit argument and eventually he agreed that it was selfish and he wouldn't do it again.

2nd and 3rd month fine. 4th month he announced he had to go on a stag weekend so I had a choice between receiving less bill money or buying all the groceries for one month. He just takes the piss, it's a fucking joke.

On top of that he gets a shower and just leaves all his clothes piled up on the toilet for me to move. First few times I did as I needed the toilet but after a few weeks of this I started just swiping them off the big onto the floor. This resulted in him calling me petty and childish, going off in a huff etc. I'm not fucking having it!! He never makes dinner, never washes up - one time I told him we both work so either he cooks or tidied kitchen after cooking. He said he'd do the kitchen. So after dinner he spends 5 minutes in the kitchen, comes out and says "all done! The only thing I haven't done is the pans." I went in to look and all he HAD done is piled up the dirty pots in the sink for me to wash!!! He just doesn't seem to grasp it at all.

Other incidents include him starting a water fight with my kids - with BLEACH water from a bucket.

And yesterday's incident - he decided to sort the fridge out so cooked bacon, sausages, eggs, black pudding etc etc - all out of date stuff that he'd left in there - for my dogs. They're fucking champion show dogs. I was so angry I cried. One of them was sick all night. I just think he's beyond it and needs to go. I know it takes a while for someone to get used to not living with their mother but with the other stuff, the bleach water and the dogs I don't even feel he can be trusted in the house.

AIBU to just chuck him out without warning? I've really had enough.

OP posts:
ALongHardWinter · 03/07/2018 17:45

Christ almighty! He sounds like a fucking nightmare!

TryingToForgeAnewLife · 03/07/2018 17:45

OP - how are thing's?

HollyGibney · 03/07/2018 17:56

He wouldn't have lasted six weeks with me, possibly not even six days.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 03/07/2018 18:02

Oh baby cheeses.. just reading about it is stressing me out.

Foodylicious · 03/07/2018 18:13

Hope he is on his way OP!

trojanpony · 03/07/2018 18:24

Ruuuuuuun

0nTheEdge · 03/07/2018 18:26

I'd not be able to tolerate the complete lack of respect. He also sounds quite stupid to be honest. Bleach water?? Also, why would he think it's ok to not pay his way just because he wants to buy a game, etc? That's selfish, stupid, entitled... I could go on. I couldn't put up with it OP.

Thebluedog · 03/07/2018 18:29

Do you need to ask Grin

Theweasleytwins · 03/07/2018 18:29

Does he have good points?

AveABanana · 03/07/2018 18:32

You'll only be unreasonable if you don't drop kick his bags out the front door when he goes.

Singlenotsingle · 03/07/2018 18:39

Maybe his mum doesn't want him back. She's probably moved away and not left a forwarding address!

starday · 03/07/2018 18:48

Well done for recognising you deserve so much better

CourtneyLovely · 03/07/2018 18:52

I think YABU for having put up with him for 6 months!

MagicFajita · 03/07/2018 18:53

He sounds like a grim flatmate I had as a twenty something , please tell him to move out op.

Report back when you've waved him off.

ChickensError · 03/07/2018 18:54

He's obviously awful and needs to go but I'd focus more on the lessons learned for you. You did such a poor job vetting this guy that you let him move in with your kids. I'd be having a hard old think about how you can do it better next time.

Beansonapost · 03/07/2018 19:03

God you waited a long time...

Get rid!

longwayoff · 03/07/2018 19:05

Dont be harsh on OP. You never know the buggers until they've got their feet under your table, as my mother would have said.

sparklepops123 · 03/07/2018 19:07

His mother is going to be gutted when she opens her front door , SURPRISE !

Limpopobongo · 03/07/2018 19:10

YANBU . it will be to the benefit of both of you. I would reiterate my advice never to move into someone elses house.

50shadesofgreyismylaundry · 03/07/2018 19:18

Before you sling him out, please tattoo a warning on him for the next poor soul that falls for his charms.

mrssunshinexxx · 03/07/2018 19:20

Jesus Christ do you even need to ask ?!
Get rid and wait for a man that will treat you equally and appreciate you! X

Giraffey1 · 03/07/2018 19:22

Has he gone yet?

Iloveacurry · 03/07/2018 19:24

Please say he’s gone back to mummy’s! Honestly you’ll be better off without him.

thelmalouisewaitforme · 03/07/2018 19:33

I hear you!

If you look at my recent thread, I put up with a similar man child for so long! He only left a few weeks ago but my life has improved so much already!

Life is too short to put up with such crap!

Feeling lost and totally stuckwww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3262761-feeling-lost-and-totally-stuck

Mayday01 · 03/07/2018 19:38

Cocklodger looking for a Mam, fuck him off and don't look back.

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