Horrid texts about me on MILs phone, should I say something

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DH, DS (five) are on holiday abroad with inlaws and I have no signal on my phone so I borrowed MILs phone to ring my mum as it’s her birthday today. As I was about to make the phone call a message from SIL (we hate each other) came through saying “I am glad the stupid bitch is not spoiling it this year for you all”
So wanting to know what this was about I did check MILs messages only to find many messages to SIL saying “thank gods the fits have “stayed away” this year” and “the lazy cow is pulling her weight this year” then messages back from SIL saying “it’s his fault he knew when he marriages her she had them” and “don’t know how he puts up with her”
Back story last year we went away and I had quite a few seizures (I am epileptic) and for two days I was completely floored and was told by DH to either sleep inside or just stay on the sunbed. I did have about five other seizures which knocked me out for a hour or so.
There is also a message on the phone to MILs best friend saying the same things she has messaged to SIL with best friend replying back “glad your holiday is not ruined this year”
I just feel like shit now and dont know what to do. If the message had not popped up from SIL I would never have checked MILs phone. I don’t know what to do I felt so guilty last year and MIL and FIL kept saying “it’s ok” and “don’t worry you cant help it”.
I now know MIL was prob slagging me off to all in sundry about her wrecked holiday. I know for a fact DH stayed with them the whole time last year with DS and left them in peace by the pool one of the days I was out of it and took DS to the beach
Feel like total shit I don’t know if I should say something now, tell DH, wait till we get home or just leave it

Oooh your DH and FIL are sound blokes. I hope she's suitably ashamed.

Your poor FIL.
He's having to deal with MIL.

Glad that dh and Fil are being off a good support.

DH knows about the other thread I showed it him when we had a huge heart to heart. Think it actually helped.
DH is def cut from the cloth of FIL
SIL is a carbon copy of MIL

Looks like MIL has ruined her own holiday this year.

She and SIL sound vile.

I'm also a little bit in love with your DH and FIL! It will be interested to see how the monster in law acts today...

I can believe he has teen tried to apologise. What a baby. Hiding in her room! She need to man up, own up and start some serious rectifying. Would you ever forgive her OP?

*can't

Nothing to add just to echo others of very well played and so glad your DH and FIL stuck up for you and also interested to see what MIL says today

Is there an easy way to continue to see and let your DC see your lovely supportive FIL without having to see evil MIL ever again?

It seems a shame to make FIL miss out on a relationship with you and your DC just cos of the awful wife and his daughter

Can he visit your home by himself?

Let me say that I think the messages between your MIL and SIL were disgraceful. If you have previously had a decent relationship with your MIL - this being at least your 2nd holiday with them suggests it was okay - then the question is where they unforgivable? What do you lose or gain by going no contact? I would be stressed to high heaven by it if I’m honest and sad for my DP and DC’s. Doesn’t mean I take rubbish from my in laws. I tackle it. I’d have it out with her. If you are thinking of going No contact you have nothing to lose. Do not put up with her ‘being in her room’. Talk. Then decide what’s next for today, next week. She was mean and vile. Don’t let her be petty and passively bully you by being able to ignore it. Take a couple of glass of wines to the room with your DH and say your piece. As Michelle O would say when they go low, we go high’. You know you are walking the high ground here.

Great update loving it mil got what she deserved.

Your DH and FIL rock.
I hope you can enjoy what's left of your holiday OP

You have 2 lovely men in your life op enjoy the rest of your holiday!

Hope she's apologised OP.

Knock on her door and ask is she going to ruin your holiday this year then?

Some people are just nasty. Thank goodness for DH and FIL.

You should cross stitch your SIL and MIL entwined snakes for Christmas. You at least know where you stand with those bitches and yes, you played this VERY well! Hope you have a lovely time with FIL, DH and DS! x

Sounds like FiL is dealing with it. He clearly gets it and isn't going to defend his wife and daughter. Maybe the best thing would be for the fours of them - MiL, FiL, SiL and your husband to get together and talk it through.

Love the snake crossstitch idea. Your MIL is not sorry at all is she, only angry she’s been found out. Hope you manage to enjoy today with the decent members of your family.

Could you just go on holiday with FIL next time? He sounds lovely, and he could probably do with the chance to get awa from mil for a while

So this very recognisable thread was picked up and you decided to mention a thread about your sex life ... I'm interested in how that thought process went.

kateadiesearrings - the other thread was in the sun too, that's the point. Anyone recognising the OP or worse imo her DH will now know the most intimate things about them.

I can't imagine anyone would be comfortable about this, even if the DH knows does he not care that everyone else will now. It's so far from my own experience that I can't get my head round it.

If you really want to take the high ground now, knock on her door in an hour or so, ask if she's feeling any better and if she'll be well enough to come down for lunch

Let her squirm.

Great update, I am glad you are getting the support, what a horrible woman. You were very ill if it was my DIL i would do all I csn to help with your D'S.

She does not deserve forgiving for this.

I'd love to read her texts now. Bet her and SIL haven't stopped since she's confined to her room.

I would hope that FiL has been in touch with his daughter to tell her what he thinks!