Horrid texts about me on MILs phone, should I say something

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DH, DS (five) are on holiday abroad with inlaws and I have no signal on my phone so I borrowed MILs phone to ring my mum as it’s her birthday today. As I was about to make the phone call a message from SIL (we hate each other) came through saying “I am glad the stupid bitch is not spoiling it this year for you all”
So wanting to know what this was about I did check MILs messages only to find many messages to SIL saying “thank gods the fits have “stayed away” this year” and “the lazy cow is pulling her weight this year” then messages back from SIL saying “it’s his fault he knew when he marriages her she had them” and “don’t know how he puts up with her”
Back story last year we went away and I had quite a few seizures (I am epileptic) and for two days I was completely floored and was told by DH to either sleep inside or just stay on the sunbed. I did have about five other seizures which knocked me out for a hour or so.
There is also a message on the phone to MILs best friend saying the same things she has messaged to SIL with best friend replying back “glad your holiday is not ruined this year”
I just feel like shit now and dont know what to do. If the message had not popped up from SIL I would never have checked MILs phone. I don’t know what to do I felt so guilty last year and MIL and FIL kept saying “it’s ok” and “don’t worry you cant help it”.
I now know MIL was prob slagging me off to all in sundry about her wrecked holiday. I know for a fact DH stayed with them the whole time last year with DS and left them in peace by the pool one of the days I was out of it and took DS to the beach
Feel like total shit I don’t know if I should say something now, tell DH, wait till we get home or just leave it

Well played OP!

I definitely wouldn't tell her you read the other texts. Keep the moral high ground and let her squirm. Tell DH what you have seen, privately. Once you are home you can then go as low contact as you want.

What a vile pair they are.

Nothing like this should ever be kept from your h

If that woman wakes up from her fake-graine and sees your h is none the wiser, she’ll see that as carte Blanche to carry on

I bet she’s furiously texting bitch-in-law

You have to tell h.

Yep, bet there have been a lot of texts to SIL

That is really shit of your MIL and SIL. Wonder though if FIL has any idea of the bitchiness?

Go out for a nice tea with your dh and ds, have an evening to yourselves. Get up in the morning and take yourselves out for the day. She knows you know, ignore it for now and do your own thing. Has she surfaced from her room yet.

I would also tell your DH. That is awful.

No more holidays with MIL then?

How nasty of them both. Sadly people like this exist. Knowledge is power...you know to keep your guard around them from now on.

Would your SIL have preferred her DB to stay single? I really don't understand people like this.

Your SIL and MIL are cruel and ignorant, enjoy the rest of your holiday and cut them out of your life.

No amount of grovelling apology will fix this, you don't need such vile women in your life.

Totally agree with PP. Make the most of the holiday - stay away from her as much as possible. Go NC when you return.

If it were to spoil my dh's holiday and there was only a day left I'd leave it til I got home to tell him what a horrible pair his Mum and sister are. You have the screenshots as proof.
He sounds lovely and supportive ( as he should be).
How lousy to be nasty to you OP with your disability. I was gobsmacked at their attitude.
As my mum would say 'I hope it keeps fine for them' meaning they should be so grateful for their own good fortune as it can change in an instant.

Don't blame you at all for looking, and I'm sure 99.9999999% of people in your position would do the same.

They sound very toxic. If it was me I'd have absolutely nothing to do with them, and I'd expect my DH to feel the same way. If the situations were reversed, I would do the same for him.

These women are toxic and you do not need them in your life.
Tell your DH once you get home.
NEVER go on holiday with them again.
Best wishes to you.

I would tell dh but maybe leave it until you get home (if you can)

Sil made rude comments about me not long after we married (she doesn't know I know ) and I never did anything about it but it taught me not to get too involved with her / dh visits them.

They are always going to be in your life so it is hard to deal with op

Hope you are feeling well

I think at this point it's best just to try and distance yourself from her for the rest of your holiday and just enjoy the time you have left away from her.

When you come home, I'd seriously consider going NC.

And tell DH now - he already knows something's up and it would be good for you to have his support.

You did the right thing by looking at the messages OP. Did you tell your DH, and has your MIL said anything else since?

I can't believe you haven't told your DH yet, I can't imagine not doing this if it was me.

Op ask to borrow her phone again 😂 I bet she's deleted the messages or has been frantically texting SIL 😆

better still tell your DH, then get him to ask to borrow mil phone and watch her squirm, vile woman, what she has done is inexcuseable

I’d definitely be telling DH about this. Not only has he got a right to know as you’re not obviously being upset and different but this is his family that has been so nasty and I’m sure he’d want the opportunity of doing something about it (from what you’ve said in previous messages)

This is disgusting. Fucking discriminatory bitches.

I hope they don’t ever experience a disability.

How awful for you.

I’d tell DH now if he suspected was up otherwise, I’d tell him when we got back home.

She has gone to bed with a headache this afternoon

What a shame she's ruining your holiday

Definitely tell your DP / I'm sure you'd want to know if situation was reversed.

I'd wait until you get home unless DH really notices how MIL being, then tell & show him what MIL & SIL have been saying about you and him.

I would however when you drop MIL off at home I would give her a big hug and whisper in her ear "at least I didn't the final holiday with you" and smile.

Hi back in reception having a cool drink, I have told DH as he said he would follow me around 1 step behind for the rest of the holiday unless I tell him.

He was livid at SIL and has went to see MIL. (I only told him a saw the one text from SIL that cane through while I had the phone). MIL then she dropped herself in it by saying to DH “she shouldn’t not have read all of the texts” and DH said “what do you mean all the texts”.
Her phone was on the side so DH grabbed and read the rest. He was then livid with MIL as well (totally her own doing)
He walked off in disgust.
FIL has apologised on her behalf and I have said I just want us to carry on with the holiday as not to spoil it for DS. DH has said that will only be possible if MIL apologises. FIL has told her unless she apologises she won’t be joining us for the rest of the holiday
FIL is a decent bloke
Have not seen MIL since

Sorry hope that make sense I think the heat has got to me. Please excuse spelling and grammar