Horrid texts about me on MILs phone, should I say something

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DH, DS (five) are on holiday abroad with inlaws and I have no signal on my phone so I borrowed MILs phone to ring my mum as it’s her birthday today. As I was about to make the phone call a message from SIL (we hate each other) came through saying “I am glad the stupid bitch is not spoiling it this year for you all”
So wanting to know what this was about I did check MILs messages only to find many messages to SIL saying “thank gods the fits have “stayed away” this year” and “the lazy cow is pulling her weight this year” then messages back from SIL saying “it’s his fault he knew when he marriages her she had them” and “don’t know how he puts up with her”
Back story last year we went away and I had quite a few seizures (I am epileptic) and for two days I was completely floored and was told by DH to either sleep inside or just stay on the sunbed. I did have about five other seizures which knocked me out for a hour or so.
There is also a message on the phone to MILs best friend saying the same things she has messaged to SIL with best friend replying back “glad your holiday is not ruined this year”
I just feel like shit now and dont know what to do. If the message had not popped up from SIL I would never have checked MILs phone. I don’t know what to do I felt so guilty last year and MIL and FIL kept saying “it’s ok” and “don’t worry you cant help it”.
I now know MIL was prob slagging me off to all in sundry about her wrecked holiday. I know for a fact DH stayed with them the whole time last year with DS and left them in peace by the pool one of the days I was out of it and took DS to the beach
Feel like total shit I don’t know if I should say something now, tell DH, wait till we get home or just leave it

Good. Maybe she will keep her bitchy gob shut in future. I can't believe she didn't delete it all!

Your DH rocks!

I hope FIL has a word with his daughter too.

I wouldn't hold your breath for an apology to be honest. She will probably either go on the defensive or try the 'poor me/dying swans manoeuver.

I'm glad DH is supporting you and your FiL sounds like a nice enough guy :) hopefully MiL will apologise and stop being a cow

That's good news, let's hope she feels like shit.

Woah OP, now delete the photos off your phone and you need never even admit to the text reading indiscretion.

Re-fucking-sult!

The gods have had a change of heart and are making it up to you!

Delete the posts? God no - I'd be using them at ever opportunity (like the photos of Andrew McNeil and his 'young friend' in matching vests and baseball caps that pop up in Private Eye every now and then).

Perfect! You never need to admit to having read the rest of the texts! What a stupid woman dropping herself in it like that. Karma's a bitch

Pleased to hear you told your DH and he’s supporting you. Hope your MIL offers an apology.

No more holidays with the ILs I would think! Perhaps limit yours and your DS’s time with them going forward.

I so glad your DH and FIL are being supportive of you and can see that this nothing to do with you.

Enjoy your last few days on holiday with them and let MIL stew in her own juices.

Oh that's fantastic, your dh and FIL sounds so much the same, and so does your MIL and her awful dd, the apple does not fall far from the tree does it.

Just rtft.
Great update OP.
I hope she is feeling as ashamed of herself as she should be.

I can understand that she would want her daughter to feel listened too, but no way should she engage in or encourage speaking shit about you!

Sounds like FIL might be a bit long suffering from the pair of them.

your dh is brilliant! bet vile cow mil really has a headache now

This is glorious - she totally dropped herself in it! I second the suggestion of deleting the photos off your phone so you’re free and clear.

Hopefully she feels like dogshit, though I suspect she’ll play the victim with her DH and DS ‘ganging up’ on her and she’ll whinge about it to your SIL.

Go op 's dh!!
Fil rocks too!!

I would save the pics somewhere before deleting, you never know if you might need them again!

Your DH and Fil are fab. Fil especially!
I really hope she apologises. She must be mortified. How embarrassing!

Delurking to say that I love your DP!
MIL needs to get her arse out of that bedroom and her knees on the floor before your feet pdq or she will lose even more face.
Keep a big distance from her in the future.
Well done though. You handled this beautifully.

Great result. Don't delete the photos from your phone. Just don't refer to comments made in them. You don't need to. MiL dropped herself in the shit by referring to the other texts, not you. You'll have the photos if you ever need them in the future.
Try to enjoy your holiday but I wouldn't expect to see MiL much going forward. If she does make an apology, it had better be a heartfelt one and not one that was forced out of her.

Good on your DH

I knew FIL would be decent!

Not sure how, but I do hope you can move on from this.

I would tell your DH immediately and tell him No Contact is your only option with his family.

Vile messages. And completely out of order. You have epilepsy! Not 'can't be arsedness' disease! Wow. Just wow.

What's the betting MIL will have her own 'health scare' for the rest of the holiday, and then accuse you of being unsympathetic? Can I make a suggestion OP? Ensure that you are NEVER left alone with her, she will invent stuff in order to besmirch your good character!

Love your DH and FIL!!

MIL should be banned from all future holidays. How dare she say you shouldn’t have read the messages - total shirking of the blame. How about she shouldn’t have written that shit in the first place?!? Bitch!

Brilliant that she dropped herself in it without you having to say much.

And yay for your DH having your back!