DH says I'm over reacting AIBU

[CheekyBlueDolphin]

Hi I really would appreciate your opinions on this.

DH and I have one 2 yo DD. She was playing on our bedroom floor just in front of the cupboard and he was getting ready to go to work. She was crawling in front of the cupboard so he gently pushed her away with his foot until he got her out of the way. I personally found that awful and asked him to not do it again. He said it was light and it was just a funny and playful thing to do. I've told him to not do it again otherwise she'll find normal when a man pushes her away with his foot. I said that he could have picked her up as she's so little and if he cannot do that to an adult he should not do it to a child. He said he is her father and has the right to play in whatever way he wants even if I find inappropriate. I asked him to respect her and my point of view and he said he won't respect something so ridiculous.

I just totally disapprove this kind of "fun" towards girls specially from their own fathers. Now husband and I had a massive argument and he says I'm mental and totally overreacting.

Any thoughts really appreciated. Am I overreacting and being unreasonable? Xx

Yes, I'm afraid I agree with him. You're over-reacting.

Yes, you are over reacting and being unreasonable.

I'm
With your DH, sounds like a total over reaction. He wasn't doing it with malice or force, more guidance!

You are overreacting.

Yes you are overreacting.

Well he shouldn’t be saying you’re “mental”. That’s deeply unpleasant. But you might have overreacted a bit.

I think you’re overreacting.

Sorry but that’s an over reaction on your part. It’s not as if he kicked her out of the way.x

Yes, you are. I've done that myself with DC's, boys and girls. No harm intended, no harm done, no problem at all. Save your criticism for if/when it's really needed. Massive over reaction IMHO

I agree with DH you are hugely over reacting.

otherwise she'll find normal when a man pushes her away with his foot.

Why on Earth would you think this? You're being ridiculous.

I have to agree as well.

Bear in mind OP your dd will not remember the incident in later life.

His reaction was minimising of your feelings and quite unpleasant, if I'm honest.

If it's on the back of this behaviour it may add some context to why you found it upsetting.

I do think you were overreacting a little, but I do get what you mean at fathers paving the way from the behaviour girls generally expected from men. Obviously I don't know your DH but I wouldn't be happy with that action, it may be a manifestation of his general attitude.

Ehh?! Your Dh gently pushed your dd away from a cupboard and you had a go at him?

Yabu! Very unreasonable actually

It's not like he kicked her

I think you are overreacting. I don't think he should have called you mental. But I would have been frustrated too as I don't see any logic or reasonableness in your comments.

Another one agreeing with your DH. Massive over reaction and over thinking a playful interaction Between parent and child.

I agree that you are overreacting here.

But by your logic if he picks him up and moves her, if a guy tries to pick her up to move her as an adult she'll just think it's normal- and that sounds stupid doesn't it? Your being massively OTT

YABU

yabu its not like he kicked her out of the way

Total over reaction.

Won't picking her up mean she'll think it's acceptable for a man to pick her up and move her out of the way? It's the same principle.
Yes you over reacted. A lot of actions done by loving parents would be controlling and abusive if done by a partner,male or not.

Unless of course something like this has happened in your past and you find it triggering

Christ I’ve moved my son away with my foot before am I supposed to have an attitude towards boys??

Your logic is bizarre and it’s nothing more than a small child being moved by a parent