AIBU or is the school? Concerns about Teacher

[MagentaMarmaset40]

Hi there,

Made an account just to ask this question as I have some concerns with my DS school.

My DS is in year 8, and is by no means perfect - I know and acknowledge that. Recently his science teacher has had an operation and the school have got a temp teacher into replace her. I have some major concerns about this teacher.

Firstly, my friend is a parent governed and she told me that the new teacher isn’t registered with an agency or anything - so the school have no references for him. Apparently he is just a mate of the deputy head who knew him from a previous school? Am I right to be concerned that this could be putting kids at risk. My friend said they were told he left his last post due to a “personality clash” with his line manager, and is starting full time with a different school in September. From what I hear, his actual teaching is good, if a little old fashioned.

But I also think this teacher has an issue with my son. He’s given my son 3 detentions in 2 weeks, one for homework not being done which i accept; but the other two have been for things I don’t think warranted a DT. I’ve told my DS not to do the detentions and school have now put him in isolation.

I’m concerned because my son has decided he is gay, and very open about it; and I think that this teacher may be picking on him because of it.

WIBU to go and see the head about this teacher?

Withdrawing her son from detention was a good move and sent out a strong message

The strong message here is that the school will follow up on their sanctions.

The strong message is that if the child persists in missing detentions they will get a temp exclusion or a perm exclusion.

Is it any wonder that schools have little discipline, with parents like you. Your son was obviously messing about and disrupting the class. Of course he should do his detention.

isadoradancing123
Most schools (thankfully) only have a minority of parents like the OP.
The massive issues happen when people like the OP are the norm.

Your son sounds like his providing disruption to entertain the class. Unless he has some sort of severe ataxic problem he didn’t fall off his chair. He was messing around and deserved a detention. As he did for not doing homework.
You have openly undermined the school but are likely to be the first to complain when his behaviour deteriorates further and he fails academically because he’s too busy creating mayhem supported by his mother.

Your parent governor friend is gossiping and spreading lies. Governors don’t have access to personal files and have a very limited role in recruitment except the recruitment of a headteacher. She wouldn’t have any idea about his references or dbs checks and is acting maliciously.

The OP is definitely not coming back, without doubt she's hidden the thread. Hardly surprising, considering that she hasn't had the responses that she was hoping for.

Your child only argued back because you've brought them up well to challenge authority.

There is nothing wrong with challenging authority. However day to day for schools/ workplaces to function people need to follow simple rules. Toeing the line and accepting most of the time also means when you need to challenge you are taken seriously. Challenging authority isn't being a low level irritant/ pain in the arse on a daily basis it is about choosing your battles very very carefully.

My DD often complained that she couldnt pay attention to the lesson because of stupid behaviour like this. It causes a huge furore in the class and the teacher loses the attention of everyone for several minutes.
The OP wont be back because she has acknowledged her DS is not perfect - so thats all right then.