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To steal a baby name?

287 replies

Maggie24715 · 28/06/2018 20:50

My husbands cousin is TTC and we were chatting about baby names. I'm 6 months pregnant and love the baby name she's chosen.
Would I be the worst in the world to steal it?
They live at the other end of the country so we only see them at family weddings - but they are a close family with lots of FB groups etc.

OP posts:
anditgoes · 29/06/2018 01:14

Love that name, I would have had a Jorgie if I'd had a girl and I have a nephew called George and a cousin Georgina. I thought because i would use a J instead of G it could work.

Glad I didn't, we are a close family and in reality everyone would just have been called George

SeaToSki · 29/06/2018 01:28

Is it the feminisation of a boys name you like, in which case
Roberta
Henrietta
Alexandra

Or the George bit, in which case
Georgette
Georgia
Georgina
But I think these are a bit too close to the mark if you dont want to be percieved as using ‘their’ name
So
Grace
Gabriella
Ginna
Gemma

Or is it the ie ending
Gracie
Carrie
Addie
Julie

anditgoes · 29/06/2018 01:31

Henrietta is beautiful and has a similar feel to it.

Something like Henrietta Grace is both strong and delicate in the same way Georgie is.

LemonysSnicket · 29/06/2018 01:45

Yes. She would be gutted and never forgive you.

IslaBoots · 29/06/2018 01:55

Sorry! I don't think the name Georgie is worth causing waves over. I'm sure you could come up with a lovely name for your dd. Georgie is not worth a family fallout

NewName54321 · 29/06/2018 01:57

If she that thought you might do this, then she wouldn't have told you the names.

OwlinaTree · 29/06/2018 06:53

I'd go with Frankie, so cute!

GreenTulips · 29/06/2018 07:03

If you tell people before you even start trying, then you only have yourself to blame

So you didn't tell anyone your choice of names - presumable because someone may have used it before you got the chance?

You can't have it both ways - if you didn't care why hide it?

bakebakebake · 29/06/2018 07:04

When I was pregnant with DS, I was talking to my sister about names.

I had liked Noah for ages so it was a very high contender.

She flipped at me. Telling me that I couldn't have it because her and her girlfriend were going to use it.

In the end, I decided I didn't want to just Noah. I haven't used it for my next DS either.

5 years later, they had IVF and did have a boy.. he isn't called Noah and she said she never liked the name. I had to bite my tongue as I didn't want to fall out over it but...

Is there any chance, she would decide against the name when they do fall pregnant?
I would ask but throw in that you completely understand and will keep looking for names if she is dead set on it.

Petalflowers · 29/06/2018 07:10

Alternatives

Harriet
Rebecca
Cassandra
Freya
Faye
Gemma
Emily
Hannah
Louisa
Grace
Bethany
Dorothea
Molly
Amy

WeirdScenesInsideTheGoldmine · 29/06/2018 07:20

My sister used the name I would have had if I’d had a daughter.

I’m just pleased the name is in our family tbh, it’s a beautiful one much like my niece Smile

user1499173618 · 29/06/2018 07:24

When naming my DC I was very careful indeed not to choose a name that had already been used in my family.

Not all my cousins have been as careful and, tbh, it sounds a bit silly when there are two (or more) DC in one generation with the same name. It makes their parents look very unimaginative!

SoupDragon · 29/06/2018 07:46

common decency is to extend warm wishes to a new baby not have a simmering resentment over a name

No, common decency is not doing something you know could upset someone. Only a twat would use a name they’d not even considered until someone else told them it was the name they planned on using.

If someone showed me a dress they were wearing to a event we were going to, I wouldn’t go out and buy the same one. Common decency.

Pumpkinpie789 · 29/06/2018 08:15

Elliot.

crispysausagerolls · 29/06/2018 08:38

SoupDragon

Agree!

Katgurl · 29/06/2018 08:48

Ah no don't do it. You've loads of time left. The right name will come to you.

Clinicallysilly · 29/06/2018 08:55

I'm glad that you asked here first, took the comments on board and will hopefully choose another name. That is decent of you op, only a twat would have read the comments and gone ahead and used the name anyway. You're listening so that's good & the fact that you asked here first shows that you doubted yourself too.

pandarific · 29/06/2018 08:58

The Freddie or Fred I know is called by those names. Frederica only on official documents, but honestly I wouldn't bat an eyelid, it's not at all an unusual name unless you've never met anyone Spanish/continental. But, then again where I live is quite cosmopolitan and it wouldn't look odd - I suppose it might be different if op lives in a village in north-something-shire. In which case perhaps not.

Monday55 · 29/06/2018 08:59

I think you've made the right decision OP and as someone said before, if your cousin thought you'd use the name she wouldn't have told you the name.

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And for those vouching for you to use it, I'm sure they haven't been in a similar situation of TTC and someone using their picked baby name which they told the other person in confidence. Or they're just bluntly incapable of putting themselves in other people shoes & are very inconsiderate and mean spirited.

Chocolatelavender · 29/06/2018 09:25

Good on you, Maggie24715, for coming to an understanding of how dh cousin could feel about this.

Baby name suggestions for a girl. What appealed to you in the name Georgie? Do you like names beginning with G, or names rhyming with Georgie, or girl names that can either be for boys and girls? Charlotte can be shortened to Charlie. Then there's Gabby, Rosie, Marley, Jordan (Jordie), Jody, Poppy. Can't think of any more.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 29/06/2018 10:05

No.common decency is not expecting to be tippy toed around over choices
Whether it be attire or a chosen name
Common decency is the ability to graciously accept a name can be shared
Common decency not to go in a huff,refuse to speak to or witter on about crushed dreams
You see common decency is the ability to tolerate others and not have an egocentric world view that only your preferences matter
One can,and plenty do,share baby names with other parents.its not catastrophic.its life

TidyLike · 29/06/2018 10:15

OP, you are a lovely, thoughtful person to cross Georgie off your list after reflecting on what others have said ❤️

Some friends of mine named their daughter Billie, which I think is simultaneously cool and lovely, and has a similar feel to Georgie.

My first choice of name for DD was Juliet, which I still love, but which her father vetoed.

spidey66 · 29/06/2018 10:16

It's his cousin,so not a sibling. They're at different ends of the country so won't see each other that often. The other child isn't conceived. I'd go for it.

I've got loads of cousins and quite a few have the same name, some with the same surname. It's never been an issue.

Teggun · 29/06/2018 10:32

Have you rtft spidey? The OP has and demonstrated that she has both empathy and compassion.
This is not a simple "no-one owns a name thread"

SharpieHorder · 29/06/2018 10:34

OP, hadn't you thought of the name a while ago and just forgotten to mention it?

Thought so.

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