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To steal a baby name?

287 replies

Maggie24715 · 28/06/2018 20:50

My husbands cousin is TTC and we were chatting about baby names. I'm 6 months pregnant and love the baby name she's chosen.
Would I be the worst in the world to steal it?
They live at the other end of the country so we only see them at family weddings - but they are a close family with lots of FB groups etc.

OP posts:
hairyscarey · 29/06/2018 12:07

I really can't see the issue with this at all.

Teggun · 29/06/2018 12:08

What is the "other wor(l)d view" that you want people to take on board lisptick?
That we should simply do what makes us happy without regard for the feelings of others? The majority of posters here have the ability to think beyond that.

user1499173618 · 29/06/2018 12:11

Lipstick - do you not grasp the irony of asking another poster to “read the thread... slowly if that helps you”, patronisingly suggesting that the other poster might lack education, when you are semi-literate?

Tinkobell · 29/06/2018 12:12

I think that's shabby behaviour and very unoriginal of you. Sorry.

roseblossom75 · 29/06/2018 12:17

You have to think how you would feel if the situation was reversed and she did that to you?
Imagine you were trying to conceive and she gave birth and announced she was calling her baby the name you had told her you would choose for your baby?
Would you honestly be OK with that?
I know I wouldn't be if someone did that to me and in all honesty I don't think many women would be.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/06/2018 12:20

Glad you've seen sense OP. It's the right thing to do.

StarUtopia · 29/06/2018 12:20

No. You don't do it.

Montgomers · 29/06/2018 12:29

I'd let her know that you love the name and ask her light-heartedly to let you know if she happens to go off the name in the next couple of months. She might go off it and you might find you do too once someone else isn't as invested in it. She also might let you know that it doesn't matter to her at all if you use the name too.

Stevie? Billie?

Bluesmartiesarebest · 29/06/2018 12:34

Sydney? Frankie? Toni? Carly?

HarryLovesDraco · 29/06/2018 12:38

That's such a boring blah name I can't even believe you would risk causing all that upset over it!

Rachie1973 · 29/06/2018 12:38

LipstickHandbagCoffee
Rage

10 minutes and that'll be added to the endless lists of baby names that people have a tendency to post.

GreenTulips · 29/06/2018 12:38

Remember on FRIENDS, when Monica told Rachel what name she would give her first born

Did anyone think it odd that she named the child Emma and EW was Emily? Too close IMO

nokidshere · 29/06/2018 12:46

Betty and Margo are pet names,I’d expect a big bounding dog

My poor MiL spent most of her life telling people "no, Betty is my name and it's not short for anything"

FizzyWizzyFlash · 29/06/2018 12:54

Two people have done this to me with names of my children. It waa highly irritating but it wasn't destroying my life so I got over it

The secret name which was copied amuses me because they don't pronounce the name properly. Which I admit it secretly satisfying.

FizzyWizzyFlash · 29/06/2018 12:54

Second name*

BrendasUmbrella · 29/06/2018 13:50

I'm not being funny but Georgie is a very ordinary name. I thought it would be something unusual like Amaryllis!

Do you like names in that vein - like feminized boys names? Off the top of my head,

Erica
Roberta or Bertie
Finn
Benji
Michaela
Josephine, Josie, Jo
Carly
Gabbie
Ramona
Frankie

Or at a push - Georgia...

BrendasUmbrella · 29/06/2018 13:54

Or names that start with a "J" sound and end in "e"

Joanie
Jackie
Jamie
Jodie
Judy

Or Gracie?

SumAndSubstance · 29/06/2018 14:09

Josie?

SugarIsAmazing · 29/06/2018 14:12

But the cousin isn't even pregnant! And may not ever get pregnant! And if she does the baby may be the opposite sex to the OP's. Plus they hardly see the said cousin.

One of my children has a cousin with the same first and surname but it's no biggie.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 29/06/2018 14:13

Well yes,but the suggestion is that Georgie be reserved for a nonexistent baby

user1499173618 · 29/06/2018 14:17

If there is one conclusion to draw from this thread, it is that it is ill advised to share baby name ideas with other potential parents. In general, in life, it’s best to keep ideas you might not want others pinching to yourself.

dollyknocker · 29/06/2018 14:18

It wouldn't be a nice thing to do. Also, imagine if they don't manage to conceive, and not only do they have to deal with that, they have to be confronted by your child with their child's chosen name, for the rest of their lives. Beyond shitty.

Teggun · 29/06/2018 14:44

the suggestion is that Georgie be reserved for a nonexistent baby

No lisptick that is not it at all. The suggestion is that it would be compassionate for the OP not to use the name Georgie because it is possible that the name may have, or may come to have deeper emotional significance for a woman who is having difficulty conceiving.

It is entirely possible that the cousins wife doesn't have deeper emotional attachment or indeed goes on to have a baby of different sex or choose a different name. That is irrelevant. What is relevant is that until speaking to the cousin's wife, OP had no interest in the name Georgie whatsoever. OP has decided to avoid the possibility of hurting this woman by reverting back to that position! And choosing a name from the millions of options available.

stevie69 · 29/06/2018 14:47

Stevie? Billie?

Oh, definitely Stevie. Always loved it Blush

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 29/06/2018 14:48

So yes,Georgie is not for use in case the cousin who isn’t pg has a baby girl
Attaching a huge amount of emotional baggage to a name is somewhat disproportionate
By all means one can like a name,but cannot expect it never be used in family