To be shocked by what happened?

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Slight incident on my way home from work which left me feeling shocked and actually a bit shaken (probably safe I know and I am not usually easily shaken).

Part of my route home involved driving down a section of a street which joins a main road at the bottom. There is always a line of parked cars on the left hand side as you go down and therefore only room for one car to go up/down.

As I approached the start of the line of card, I checked no one was coming up/waiting/about to turn in off the main road. There is a clear view in both directions and there were no cars so I set off.

When I got about three quarters of the way down, a car turned in off the main road, quite quickly, and had to stop to wait for me to finish coming down (no where for me to pull in). He didn't have to stop suddenly as there is enough room at the bottom to have time.

I reached the bottom of the line and put my hand up to him to say thank you for stopping. We both had Windows down due to heat and as he moved off he shouted, really aggressively 'thanks you fucking stuck up slag'

I had already started moving and was frankly so astounded that I did not respond and just carried on. There were no other cars and no other passengers in his car so it was definitely directed at me.

I know there are dicks everywhere and i could understand him being annoyed if I had barged through (though that doesn't excuse his bike behaviour imo) but I did nothing at all wrong. I was simply driving down a street.

It's been a long, hard day at work but aibu to be shocked and a bit shaken by this?

I feel very sad for you and understand how shocked you are.
He was (is) just a rude idiot who gets a kick out of badmouthing someone else - probably wouldn't have had the guts to do that had you both been out of the car with others present.

Nasty though, I'm sorry you had to go through it. You'll get over it though kiddo, promise.

Ello

Anyway, the best bit? He posted a ‘to the silly bint......’ rant on the local Spotted page and got flamed grin

Ooh tell us more! What did the locals say? Did he respond or go silent?

User 1483...
The lady in car in front of you is a legend!!

No, he didn’t respond.

It’s one of those pages where you send a message to the admin and they post it anonymously for you.

There was just post after post pointing out that he was wrong and the ‘silly bint’ was right, posts explaining how to use the slip road, a few people admitting they use the slip road like a junction as well, some people objecting to the ‘bint’ bit and insults were thrown.

Made me laugh though.

A man once followed me into a car park after I pulled out in front of him- he was driving too fast round a blind bend and wasn’t visible until I’d pulled out (if he’d been doing the speed limit there would’ve been no issue!)

He blocked me in at the car park and came up, banging on my window and shouting abuse at me until another 2 women came along and saw what he was doing and told him to move.

I was 8 months pregnant and absolutely devastated when this happened- it really knocked my confidence :(

The best advice to you and anyone else is to ignore them/him like you did, don't goad them by answering back, that could lead to a serious confrontation. So you did the right thing :) he was an arse!

It shouldn't shake you up but it kinda does, right?

I got pointless abuse only today. Big straight section of road, slow lorry ahead of me, so I go to overtake and cross to the opposite side of the road. Then before I've even really started overtaking a car rounds the bend at the end of the long straight so I brake and pull back in, as the lorry has sped up and I don't want to risk it given that I can't immediately tell the speed of the oncoming car (pretty fast as it turns out). A few moments later the car sails past with a charming middle finger sticking up out of the driver's window at me.

Sorry, I dared to exist...

Yawn,sorry,what was the question?

I drive a lot and I often encounter blokes like this. It is always blokes btw. Quite often they are in white vans. Sometimes they are in white vans bearing the signage "No tools in this van". Which is demonstrably untrue.

I never retaliate and always give way. Tis the only way to deal with tools.

For those saying he did this because he was a man I had almost exactly the same thing happen to me including very similar swear words but the shouty driver was female. She had kids in the car too. It shocked me a bit too as it was so pointless and she was so angry. It’s pathetic behavior.

I was shouted at over 20years ago, ‘get a move on, you fat cunt’. Not an overreaction at all OP

Urgh, arseholes.

I've been on the receiving end of aggression from male drivers. They can be vicious; they look so apoplectic with rage in a way that I don't think I have ever seen in a woman driver. Angry red faces and ranting obscenities- it's a very sorry sight and I'm just very glad I'm not wife/mother/sister/daughter to any of them.

To balance things a little, I once drove into the back of a big Mercedes in fairly slow traffic, while my small children distracted a sleep-deprived me from the back seats. Not excusing it though- it was my fault. Anyway, I panicked when I saw two burly, Southern European guys get out of the Merc.

They rushed over, concern all over their faces, and immediately wanted to know if I was ok, and then they saw the children and were peering through the windows asking if they were all right! They were Greek, or Cypriot, if I remember correctly, and they were just so lovely. We exchanged details and then they hugged me before double-checking I was all right, and went on their merry way. My faith in men was restored that day. But has inevitably eroded away to shit again since

Forgot to say, like many other posters, my response to road rage is always to smile and wave. I'll sometimes give a thumbs-up too if they look particularly puce. Just to nudge the old blood pressure a little bit higher

You were definitely in the right, what did he expect you to do reverse three quarters of the road backwards to accommodate his progress down a road because he is male & you are female - Tosser !! lets hope the next car he does it to has a dash cam & video's it
I really hope you are OK , Id be shaken by such a reaction whilst driving on my own !

It is almost always men - to the point where I remember the one woman who pulled a stunt like this. Coming out of a cat park, she wanted to go the wrong way up a one way road, admittedly only about 50 yards rather than obey the rules of the road. Unfortunately for her I was coming up the one way road in the approved manner so she couldn't do it. The effing and blinding she gave me was shall we say considerable. The worst of it for her though was that she hadn't realised I was also a mum at the school her dc went to and I saw her on many occasions afterwards. I was delighted that she always looked uncomfortable when I caught her eye with my raised eyebrows!

A car park not a cat park - though it was the local vet so autocorrect is clearly psychic.

Happens everyday to someone somewhere. Forget the idiot, he will exhibit that kind of behaviour to the wrong person one day and be made to realise how much an idiot he is.

I would translate it before you react. In your language he was actually saying “You are more attractive and wealthier than me. Which only serves to underline my subconscious theory that I am an insignificant cunt.” I think he lost this round 😎

He sounds like my ex, a nasty abusive, terrifying man. People like this think great of themselves for ruining others’ day and would get great pleasure knowing they’d corrupted your thoughts for a whole day because of a few simple words of theirs. Please try not to dwell on it and be thankful you’re not the one he comes home to at night!

Getting into a car to drive makes women feel responsible and aware of themselves and other people, especially children.

Getting into a car for a man makes them feel like Conan the Barbarian.

And if you think this comment is this is sexist then the statistic that 95 per cent of all serious accidents are caused by men should put that right.

Also, I read yesterday that only 4000 prisoners out of the 66 million people who live in the UK are women. 79,750 are men. Many of the others who are not in prison are driving about freely being - men.

Isn't it a pity we always think of appropriate responses when it's too late? Maybe we should have some stuck to the dashboard, such as 'You're welcome, chavvy fuckwit'?

But seriously, no one would behave like that possibly unless they had grown up with DA and had a neanderthal for a role model. Perhaps once we've stopped acknowledging what a dick he is, and giving him the attention he so obviously craves, we could spend five seconds pitying him.

I get things like this often.

People around here drive like they own the road and make up their own rules. Iived here over 30 years and the last few years the road etiquette (also, you know, the highway code) has spiraled down the toilet! People are rude arrogant, drive like nutters and use their cars to threaten and barge their way through. It's supposed to be a nice area, but once people get behind the wheel it goes to pot. No one gives way on roundabouts anymore, people over taking on blind bends on country lanes at double the speed limit, swearing at you as they pass (apologies for sticking to the limit - i like to stick to the law and value my life) they are 90% men and usually driving bmw, audi or Mercedes. The ladies always a 4x4. (there are plenty of those car owners who are good, these are always the offending car drivers here).
There is a roundabout nearby that has a crash daily, there is 1 road and as soon as the roundabout comes into view they floor it. Everyone one who is local hates it, its like Russian roulette every time you use it, give way to the right all clear on the left, then half way across the left side approach and floor it out infront of you. I swear if my kids are in the car and i get hit by a cockwomble im going to make mince meat out of them.

Just read MothertotheLordsofmisrule twat post. I spat my coffee! 😂 Sums it up in one line!

@Sugarisamazing: ‘I shout abuse at cyclists when they ride two abreast’

For starters, shouting abuse at someone is rarely justified- perhaps if you feel directly threatened by someone it might be reasonable to shout abuse at them, but otherwise no.

Secondly, cyclists are permitted to ride two abreast (more than two also isn’t illegal). I don’t personally do it, but the Highway Code permits it. It’s only a matter of time before you get caught being abusive on a cyclist’s headcam!

I accidentally clipped someone's car today. No damage luckily. They were ever so reasonable and polite with me. Not only was it a MAN, he was driving a BMW!