To be shocked by what happened?

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Slight incident on my way home from work which left me feeling shocked and actually a bit shaken (probably safe I know and I am not usually easily shaken).

Part of my route home involved driving down a section of a street which joins a main road at the bottom. There is always a line of parked cars on the left hand side as you go down and therefore only room for one car to go up/down.

As I approached the start of the line of card, I checked no one was coming up/waiting/about to turn in off the main road. There is a clear view in both directions and there were no cars so I set off.

When I got about three quarters of the way down, a car turned in off the main road, quite quickly, and had to stop to wait for me to finish coming down (no where for me to pull in). He didn't have to stop suddenly as there is enough room at the bottom to have time.

I reached the bottom of the line and put my hand up to him to say thank you for stopping. We both had Windows down due to heat and as he moved off he shouted, really aggressively 'thanks you fucking stuck up slag'

I had already started moving and was frankly so astounded that I did not respond and just carried on. There were no other cars and no other passengers in his car so it was definitely directed at me.

I know there are dicks everywhere and i could understand him being annoyed if I had barged through (though that doesn't excuse his bike behaviour imo) but I did nothing at all wrong. I was simply driving down a street.

It's been a long, hard day at work but aibu to be shocked and a bit shaken by this?

I have form for telling men twice the size of me to fuck of if they say anything to me. My DH is always telling me that one day I am going to get a punch in the face. I can't help it. I have 4 brothers and I was brought up in Liverpool. It just slips out.

I would have said something like "You're welcome penis breath".

Plenty of those aresoles about.

I shout abuse at cyclists when they ride two abreast

Be grateful he's not your other half.

I have to say, every encounter of this type I've had is always a man being needlessly abusive.
Most ridiculous one few weeks ago, I was leaving a busy car park, driving cautiously as kids and dogs around, I came to the end of the row of cars I had been parked amongst and had to take a left to head to exit (from a birds eye view think being sat at a cross junction) so i stopped on my side of the road as it were to give way to oncoming cars from my left, a guy with young girl in car approaches on my right to enter row Im just leaving and he stops just as he's slightly turned in, throws his hands up and looking right at me and gesturing that I'm in his way (I wasn't as there is more than enough room for 2 big cars to pass). He had actually over shot the junction by making a late turn but as he's a man then obviously he has priority and I had no business being in his way!

We are a 3-car family, a large estate, a normal hatchback and a titchy runabout.

I drive all 3 regularly, in much the same way and at the speed I usually go at. It's amazing how differently other road users treat you depending on the car you are driving. In the smallest car I'm regularly cut up, tailgated or recklessly overtaken. When I'm in the big one it almost never happens.

Ugh I'm sorry OP, what a piece of shit that guy is. I had something similar last year.

There's a 4 lane roundabout by me that is absolutely notorious for near misses because I guess people can't be arsed to read the road markings and know which lane they're meant to be in. If you actually look at the road and the signs it's super easy. Anyway I was in the correct lane to turn right, an arsehole in a lorry alongside me in a straight on lane decided he wanted to turn right too, completely cut me up (I don't know how he didn't hit me to be honest), slammed on his brakes, leaned out the window at me and started pointing at me and shaking his fist like he was going to fight me! Got a dashcam after that. Bastard.

I had one tonight near the kids' school and near school run time - I was walking across a side street and that road and the main road had been clear when I began to cross. Twit in a BMW comes blaring down the main road (must have been doing at least 50... 30 zone and just before the school he flew past kicked out) and bombs it into the road I'm crossing. Has to reluctantly touch the break pedal, thus reducing his penis size by about 2 inches in the process, as I cross the remaining 1m of road I was walking across. I get a barrage of abuse about being a "stupid fucking bitch" etc before he wheelspins away.

Useless moron wheelspan away into a cul-de-sac so it's pretty bloody obvious where he lives, plus he smashed a wing mirror off a car on the main road and scarpered driving like a moron the other day from a TA from school who promptly sprinted down the street and chased him down to make sure he paid to fix it... so I'm blooming well finding out where he lives tomorrow when I talk to her.

Dashcam and report to the police.

I've had a dashcam for the last two years after a similar incident. It's really good to know you'll have evidence if you need to report something. I have a Garmin 35 that's worked flawlessly and wasn't terribly expensive.

I still Do not understand some people’s agression on the roads when it’s their fault.
Same kind of thing on my street, cars parked on the right hand side curving down the length of the street, mostly congested outside the school about halfway down the road. I drive in my lane (left) with no parked cars in front of me but I constantly get surprised by drivers chancing it and trying to squeeze down the road, half over on my lane. They then look at me in bewilderment when they cannot fit and shout... what are you fucking doing? Move the fuck over (I can’t) well thank you very much you fucking bitch!

Most of the time I will stop bumper to bumper until they reverse.
What makes them think they have right of way when cars are parked on their side of the road. And then have the right to get angry about it?

I generally don’t scream & shout but I will point out their mistake if they have a go... mostly I say ‘my road’ ‘youre Crossing lanes!’ ‘Check before you cross lanes’
They just dont my have a clue, most of them are parents.

I've come across so many of these aggressive men that I react quite quickly to them.

A man gave me the finger for daring to overtake him safely, so I gave it back, the shock on his face was laughable.

Driving down a narrow road, a man pulled out his parked car and blocked the road, leaving nowhere for me to go. He was so angry that I couldn't move that he came out of his car and came to my window to tell me he was not going to move his car and starting swearing at me. I rolled my window down and told him I can't fucking go anywhere and go and get a license to drive. He got back in his car and slunk back into his space, allowing me to continue.

Bing i sympathise, a van driver screamed cunt at me for daring to cross a quiet residential road that he was speeding on.

Definiteky report the beemer twat!

I constantly get surprised by drivers chancing it and trying to squeeze down the road, half over on my lane.

I see this all the time too. The rule in the US is that if your lane is obstructed you either wait until it's clear or you wait until there's no oncoming traffic and go around. These idiots act like the lanes are mere suggestions.

Yep, these low life bullies won't say this to another man. You have done nothing wrong, just unfortunate to come across these unpleasant individual.

There is more and more of this going on. Men absolutely screaming and yellingnat women in driving situations. Really shocks me.

Could I ask if you live in Worcester? Only I have to travel a road like this often (new builds on the left just finished, and lots of parked cars!) Ive experienced this too as I generally just trundle along

Hope karma comes around and he ends up doing something silly soon

I had someone do a similar thing to me.
It really shook me up and upset me.

Try to forget it. Men become different people behind the wheel of a car x

I wouldn't be shaken in that scenario I'd be shouting back at him with my own salubrious name calling. Nor would I be shocked because sadly it's quite frequent

It's about time we, women, humans, people, whatever, realised that we have absolutely no control of other people's thoughts, actions, or words. Being shocked and scared isn't the answer, we need to be angry or we need to ignore, whatever suits you best.

must have a tiny penis

My go to phrase is always. "Well I bet your mothers proud!" Always said with a patronising tone and head tilt then I drive off before they can respond!

Hope your ok op xx

It's just the sort of thing many men do

It's not just men. Year ago I had a woman beep behind me at a roundabout as I stopped to check it was safe to go, not being hesitant or drippy, just not shooting across at speed before checking. Next junction she pulled up alongside screaming, swearing, giving me the finger. DD age 10 in car too. The look on her face was contorted and evil and it shook me up for a while afterwards. Funny thing is I always imagine people like that once out of the safety of their car probably apologise for slightly bumping trolleys when in the supermarket!!!

I got beeped and called a cunt when I used a slip way correctly the other day

We have a dual carriageway way with a slip road at one end. Most people use the slipway correctly - move down it and filter on to the dual carriageway. Some people use it like a junction and stop at the top - I mean what do they think the rest of the road flowing to their left is bloody well for?????

Anyway, the best bit? He posted a ‘to the silly bint......’ rant on the local Spotted page and got flamed

Poor you love! Just try to put it behind you, and forget it... not easy I know. Only yesterday, I suffered a similar situation ... driving down the road to my home, on my side, the road was clear, on the right hand sidce, lots of parked cars, so the oncoming traffic had to pause and wait for me (and the car in front of me) to come through. Quite simple... no grey areas ... but this jerk in a 4x4 decided that although it was our right of way, and according to the highway code, he would not wait behind the cars on HIS side, obstructing HIS journey, NO, he pulled out, effectively stopping ANYONE from moving, as car in front of me was trapped, I was trapped, cars behind me were trapped, cars behind him were trapped.... effing idiot! It was absolutely horrid, he stopped in the middle of the road, and was effing and blinding like a mad-man - but then the absolutely amazing, (utterly amazing) woman in front of me, got out and handed him the keys to her car, and told him to sort out the mess he had caused.... there was silence for a bit, and then a lot of muttering, and then some reversing up onto the grass verges... and so on! I started off quite panic stricken by his behaviour, but then amazed at lady in front of me. We moved on, but paused, swapped contact details, both of us had clocked his reg. and have made a "Joint complaint" complaint to the police. The point is, these jerks are everywhere, so please, please don't waste another moment on him... stop thinking about it, it is over, don't allow such a limp dick to cause you any stress... although I do absolutely understand why you feel like that. Just enjoy the fact that he won't stop his borish idiot behaviour, but ONE day, (oh and it will happen!) he will pick on the "wrong big man" and get his come-uppence. Honestly, op you CLEARLY did nothing wrong. He was a pig. forget him, and leave him to his soon to be "come-uppance" man! xxx

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