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To be shocked by what happened?

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PumpkinPie2016 · 27/06/2018 18:01

Slight incident on my way home from work which left me feeling shocked and actually a bit shaken (probably safe I know and I am not usually easily shaken).

Part of my route home involved driving down a section of a street which joins a main road at the bottom. There is always a line of parked cars on the left hand side as you go down and therefore only room for one car to go up/down.

As I approached the start of the line of card, I checked no one was coming up/waiting/about to turn in off the main road. There is a clear view in both directions and there were no cars so I set off.

When I got about three quarters of the way down, a car turned in off the main road, quite quickly, and had to stop to wait for me to finish coming down (no where for me to pull in). He didn't have to stop suddenly as there is enough room at the bottom to have time.

I reached the bottom of the line and put my hand up to him to say thank you for stopping. We both had Windows down due to heat and as he moved off he shouted, really aggressively 'thanks you fucking stuck up slag'ShockAngry

I had already started moving and was frankly so astounded that I did not respond and just carried on. There were no other cars and no other passengers in his car so it was definitely directed at me.

I know there are dicks everywhere and i could understand him being annoyed if I had barged through (though that doesn't excuse his bike behaviour imo) but I did nothing at all wrong. I was simply driving down a street.

It's been a long, hard day at work but aibu to be shocked and a bit shaken by this?

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abbsisspartacus · 27/06/2018 21:51

Similar scenario but female other driver called me a stupid bitch and a bloke laid on the horn because I was in the lane to go left indicating left and I turned left really not sure what else he expected me to do? Confused bloody heat

Excited101 · 27/06/2018 21:56

Best way to react at times like that is to laugh. I’m not going to pretend that I wouldn’t be too shocked to do it if in your position but under other similar situations it is the most satisfying thing as they are so annoyed but can’t do anything about it. I’ve used it a few times.

hazell42 · 27/06/2018 21:59

I was crossing the road this evening and a male driver had to slow down - not slam his brakes on, just slow down a bit. He screamed, 'get out of the way you, fat cunt.'
Some people are just pigs

Wishiwasonholiday1 · 27/06/2018 22:12

I got shouted at "are you on drugs, lady?!" as I slowly drove past a car to get into a left hand lane. I still have absolutely no idea why!
I wasn't too close to his car, there was lots of space and I was being careful not to clip the kerb.
My children were in the car and I felt shaken up afterwards, I think there are some very odd, aggressive drivers out there!

happysnappysandwich · 27/06/2018 22:13

Something similar happened to me recently. Only it was a woman. Getting very over excited, effing and blinding, literally enraged because she thought I hadn't left her enough room whilst she was trying to reverse her car, badly. I was quite prepared to back up and give the stupid bint some extra room, even though she could have turned a bus around in the space she had. But the rage, where does the absolute rage come from? Must absolutely suck to be them.

CookPassBabtridge · 27/06/2018 22:21

People are shit. I've been living in my neighbourhood for 7 months now and love how nice the people are etc. Then as soon as the suns out I've had two occurences of men being shitty because I'm a bit large.. one wolf whistle and two men laughing at me. It's made me not want to walk around here now. Some people are just turds.

blacksax · 27/06/2018 22:31

Oh yes, I had the misfortune to come across one of these once. Fortunately for me, it was in a quiet road and very near my house, so I got out, locked the car and walked off, abandoning it in the middle of the road. Went round the corner, let myself in the back door, and watched him through the front window Grin

Once he'd reversed rather a long way, turned round and buggered off, I went out and moved my car. Made my day.

SumerisIcumenin · 27/06/2018 22:34

Happened to me, mouthful of abuse from a bloke in the wrong.
Cue two small blonde children waving at me ‘Mrs Sumer!’ I taught the older one. Parents’ evening was a bit stilted.

Calatonia · 27/06/2018 22:35

I've been there too. So to cheer you all up here is a funny story - which is probably not true, but it goes well on this thread.

On a narrow country lane a male driver draws level with a female driver going in the opposite direction and through her open window she shouts "pig!".
Not being one to take abuse he shouts back at her "stupid cow!".... but then he rounds the bend

and runs smack bang into the pig she was warning him about, causing over £1000-worth of damage to his car.

Bibesia · 27/06/2018 22:43

Some really horrible people about, as some one else said, imagine being this dickhead's partner shudder.

He almost certainly doesn't have one. Who wants to live with a twat like that?

Crwban · 27/06/2018 22:54

I 100% agree with app Notthatwomanagain.

Tiredtomybones · 27/06/2018 22:54

We have a road-rager on the corner of our neighbouring street - both DH and I have been sworn at and gesticulated to by this man, when we dared to be reversing onto our drive when became tearing round the corner. I also randomly looked out the window once when he was driving past, just in time to see him flick the finger to another motorist. He seems a really angry, aggressive man.

However... within the last couple of weeks, DS and I walked past him when he was painting his fence, pavement side. It was very narrow so he had to stop painting and stand aside for us. I was expecting him to make some sarcastic comment, but no, he was sweetness itself, smiling, courteous, friendly even. It's just when he gets behind the wheel that he becomes a twat.

Ohyesiam · 27/06/2018 22:57

That would shake me up
Op.
What you have to remember is that it speaks volumes about him, not you.
Hope your evening has already improved.

Italiangreyhound · 27/06/2018 23:01

He sounds like a right knob with a chip on his shoulder. Hopefully that image will make you smile.

He knows nothing about you except the car you drive so it is not personal, he is a dick.

User12879923378 · 27/06/2018 23:06

I did literally exactly the same thing once and got exactly the same sort of abuse back.

That plus the two or three times men have gone into the back of me (when stopping at a junction), started to give me abuse and then promptly backed down when they realised I was with a bloke, have left me disinclined to thank anyone for waiting, or apologise if I think I could have done something differently or more helpful. Too many men turn into chauvinist monsters behind the wheel for me to voluntarily engage with them.

One bloke actually apologised to my husband for shouting at me (can't remember if he was trying the "you stopped too quickly" line or the "you rolled backwards" line). Not me. My husband.

legolammb · 27/06/2018 23:06

People are weird. Similar event happened outside my house - guy going mad at an old woman diver, refusing to budge when he should have got out the way for her to pass, really nasty racist abusive violent crap he was coming out with. His passengers didn't bat an eyelid which was depressing. I got his reg and gave it to the police who didn't seem fussed.

pallisers · 27/06/2018 23:09

I got hooted at angrily yesterday because I slowed, indicated, and turned into my driveway. Apparently the driver behind me had a big problem with that.

I got nearly run off the road and had a young guy shout at me out his window because I was on the roundabout and he almost ran me over by blowing through a yield sign. (where I live no one understands roundabouts). I pulled down my window, pointed at the roundabout sign and shouted "learn to drive you twat". He drove off.

WaxOnFeckOff · 27/06/2018 23:11

OP, don't give it any further thought, he was a dick, unfortunately the country is full of them. I was coming out of a car park today, it has a one way loop and as I came round the corner I was faced with a car coming towards me going the wrong way, I looked at her and then had to pull to the side to avoid her and indicated that it was one way and she was going the wrong way only to get a mouthful "it's only a fucking car park don't get your nickers in a twist" I just drove past comfortable in the knowledge that I had just left the only available space and that another car which had gone in the right way would get to it before her. karma, ass-wipe.

Kahlua4me · 27/06/2018 23:11

I have had this too and I wondered if they would have said the same if it had been dh in his big truck!

I stopped a few days ago to let the car coming the other way through, as only one car width between the parked cars, and 3 cars behind me overtook me! They then proceeded to block the road, which is why I had stopped in the first place, and that then took 5 minutes and lots of stress to sort out. I hope they regretted their impatience 😀😀

pallisers · 27/06/2018 23:11

oh and my young daughter, a learner driver, was angrily hand on horn hooted at 3 stop signs by a guy behind her because she dared to stop at the white line as required by traffic rules instead of half way through the junction as he would have preferred. At the third one, he came into the lane next to me and I rolled down my window and shouted at him "she is a student driver driving properly you asshole". dd highly amused.

pallisers · 27/06/2018 23:14

Waxon I was in the "wrong lane" of a one-way street waiting for the light to change one time when a car, driven by a man, came at me in the junction (he clearly didn't realise he was trying to go down a one-way street). he honked, he gesticulated, he cursed at me to get out of his way stupid woman as I sat there pointing to the one-way sign. The look on his face when he realised was funny though.

This thread is cathartic.

WaxOnFeckOff · 27/06/2018 23:18

You want to try being a 50 something woman in a small car. Pulls onto the motorway behind a car that was already on the road and is doing a steady 60. I get up to speed (it's a tight bend of a slip road so realistically you can only get to about 55 before you run out of slip road but it's a very quiet bit of motorway) and want to go faster so I pull out to overtake, as I go faster, so do they, I end up having to do 80 to get past....by that point I'm approaching the roundabout at the end of the motorway and need the right hand lane anyway so have no intention of pulling back in. other car then pulls out behind me and drives up my arse til finally going back in left lane when we get to the roundabout. aggressive much? Obvs could stand being overtaken by the old woman in the little car...Hmm

WaxOnFeckOff · 27/06/2018 23:22

pallisers :o I had my 17 year old newly passed son in the car and he's looking at her and then at me and wondering if it's all going to kick off! :o

I had to discuss with him the etiquette of dealing with knobs, the best plan being to leave them to it. My friend blows them a kiss, it seems to infuriate and bamboozle them at the same time.

Ilovemypantry · 27/06/2018 23:33

If anything like this happens to me I just smile sweetly , that really gets ‘em going 😂😂

funnelfanjo · 27/06/2018 23:39

We live on a main road with a longish drive, so always stop and reverse on when the traffic is clear. At busy times I often have to wait a few minutes for a suitable gap in cars, bikes and pedestrians - pulled over at the kerb, indicators on and reverse lights on but also brake lights on too, so anyone paying attention understands that I am waiting to swing round onto my drive.

At least once a week while I’m waiting, I’ll get some twat come bombing down the road at well over the speed limit (thinking its 60 when it’s signposted all over the place at 40), then seeing that I am stationary they have to brake suddenly as there is traffic coming the other way, and they sit so close behind me my reversing sensors start beeping continuously. Then there is aggressive overtaking super close to the car, beeping and head shaking. Worse thing is that it’s obvious this is where I live if i got a nutter.