to change DD's school & move away to have a life separate from DM?

[YesSheCan]

Namechange as too much personal info on previous thread, now deleted.

Not sure what the biscuit is doing there, throw it at DM

I bet she didnt even need the toilet. Just an excuse to get in. There was a thread about a yr ago where a woman had to get police to evict her mum who was in her flat and going to steal her car.

Grey rock! Just keep calm and reasonable. You are in the right, you have the right to peaceful enjoyment of your home and your life.

Are you afraid of what she's saying? It has to hurt a lot, I know :(

Remember, this is for your daughter. Stay strong.

Can you ask your partner or a friend to come tonight? You need rl support, lovely Yesshecan

You are amazing!

Thinking of you and your DD.

You rock OP!! YES YOU CAN!!!

Christ OP I am so sorry you and your daughter are going through this. Just chipping in my support to that of everyone else on this thread.

Your daughter will thank you when she grows up. Agree with previous suggestions that counselling will be helpful for her too. She will need help untangling the confusion and mess that your mother has inflicted on her.

Show them these threads if needs be. Offers a good timeline to her behaviours and proves you are trying to grt away.
If this were a partner you'd be offered a refuge place, its that bad.

YES YOU DID! Go OP! Xxx

Wow well done! I got a little adrenaline rush just reading that so you must be absolutely buzzing! Stay strong you're nearly there!

Yes this is definitely domestic abuse and imo coercive control. Legally NOT confined just to partners/spouses! Includes family members as well.

Well done OP. You are doing the right thing.

Oh wow! You are amazing.
Well done @YesSheCan

Pom-poms, flags, bunting and pims all round.

You can take great pride in what you've done today, and what you've started today.

You have started your new life. You have shown your daughter what it looks like when a woman takes control and ejects her abuser. You've given your daughter space to grow and you've given your relationship with your daughter new life.

I'd give you a hug if I didn't have my hands full with cheerleading

And in case you've forgotten to eat or drink something,

YesSheCan have some You can do this!

You are amazing, OP! You have absolutely done the right thing. Don't worry about what your mum is saying to the police - I bet they'll see right through her.

Also, what a wonderful reaction from your DD by giving you that hug – maybe beneath all the bravado and bad behaviour she's been desperate for you to take a stand.

I hope you're okay

Keeping everything crossed for you OP. Hope everything is going well and the police have managed to defuse the situation outside the door.

Solidarity

Delurking to wish you well and a peaceful evening. This took a lot of courage - well done.

Thanks so much for all the support everyone. I feel drained and sad tbh. Called the police on my mum, ffs, how messed up is that? Poor DD. Feel so sad for DM too but I had to do this. Just hope DM gets help and we can have a healthy relationship eventually

You've set boundaries is all. The police you had no choice. I hope you and dd are settled and able to relax tonight xx

How's your dd doing? Did she witness it all?

YesYouCan it had to be done, though? To protect your DD and yourself.

No blame to you ! Your Mum is entirely responsible for the result of her appalling behaviour . It's not as if you hadn't asked and warned and discussed and begged her to change, is it? She knew what she was doing, and the possible consequences.
for you, you are SO brave. Hugs to you both x

chickenloverwoman is right - your DM brought this entirely on her self. The damage she was doing to your relationship with your DD was awful and she was driving her to be violent. If it carried on much longer, I feared your DD would seriously hurt you. I hope your DD is doing okay this evening.

How messed up is your mum that her behaviour got so bad, the only reasonable course of action was to call the police? Yeah, your DM is messed up.

You on the other hand are not messed up.

Your fighting for your freedom and your DD future.

Yes you can.