to change DD's school & move away to have a life separate from DM?

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Namechange as too much personal info on previous thread, now deleted.

And, have you thought about doing The Freedom Programme? It's written from the perspective of relationship with the male partner being the abuser, but it's equally applicable to abusive relationships (like your mother with you and your daughter) in general.
Even though I'm now very happily married, and have been for many years, I found it so very helpful to understand just what my Father and early relationships did to me and how they messed up my boundaries. It certainly explained a lot of things I didn't realise why I did them!
You can do it online, if you can't do the RL sessions . Just a thought?

Well done OP.

Is there any chance that you could take DD out? I ask as when this does kick off, DD will feel very conflicted. She kicked you yesterday after being manipulated by your mother...is DD is out of the house when this happens it may help?

Only just found your thread, and read your story, but honestly OP I'm so so proud of you. Well done! Yes she can!

Does your DD have any of the new keys? Will she give them to your DM?

Only just seen this thread - have not seen any others but have got a good picture from what you have written here OP.

I just want to reiterate what others have said about what an amazing job you are doing and how stop you have been - I don't think I would be.
Only thing I would suggest is maybe taking DD out somewhere after the locksmith has been (before your DM returns) from the sounds of it she will kick off and I agree with a PP that your DD shouldn't be around to see that - given how manipulative your DM has been.

Thinking of you and really hope that your DM doesn't cause any more problems for you.

Strong not stop - sorry typing on my phone 🤦🏼‍♀️

Thinking of you

Dd probably only has next week left at school. I would consider taking her out and getting some compassionate leave from work.

Explain to the School what’s happened and take DD away so that you mother can’t wheedle her way into her life.

DM came back. Had to call 101

Stay strong and firm. This is a fight for you and DD to have a peaceful, last bing life together,!

So sorry. Did you get the locks changed? I actually think she is trying to provoke you to hurt her, so she can get you charged with something and keep your poor dd. Keep calm. Yes you can x

Stay strong.

You're doing the right thing.

Your daughter will benefit from this.

Everything is going to be ok.

Just seen this thread today - you're doing amazingly, stay strong... you can do this!

YY locks changed before DM got back thank goodness. Have taken DD upstairs so DM can't shout at her through window. Didn't take much persuading

I was thinking that you might need police assistance as she would probably kick off. How many sets of keys do you have? I would be concerned that your daughter might give her a key, or let the witch in herself.

What did the police advise?

You need as much help as you can get. Talk to the police, a solicitor (to understand your legal position in both evicting her and keeping her away), the schools, literally anyone and everyone that can assist you. Unfortunately your nasty mother will come back and keep trying to push back in, when are you planning on moving?

Your daughter needs to see a counsellor. I’m not sure how old she is but she needs help in understanding why this relationship is toxic, and also for herself as it sounds like she has been through some difficult phases herself. She definitely has anger issues

Your mother is an evil, poisonous witch and I'd never see her again after her appalling despicable behaviour.

Sending you strength by the bucket load.

Oh shit.....

Are you both ok?

Hope you're ok OP. You're mother sounds like the most odious woman alive. Good luck xx

Police been here nearly 1 hr. They're outside talking to DM. DD is upstairs. Police going to do a MASH. DM being told she is not allowed to come back here and they're making sure she has somewhere to go. Shaking

Called SS this morning after things came to head last night so call logged with them too

All keys are on my person. I allowed DM in to use toilet, police made sure she didn't go anywhere else in house and went out again straight after

Stay strong op!

Well done Op. stay strong.

DM is telling police all kinds of shit about me

Well done