DP got told off in the supermarket last night

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DP went to the supermarket last night when he finished work, he took a couple of kids so I could bath the baby while he was gone so he took DD1(6) and DS2(2) with him

He said while he was there an old woman was laughing at something silly DS was doing (being a frog) and came over to say something to DP, he was expecting it to be something nice about DS so greeted her with a smile and got “he’s very sweet but honestly he’ll never learn to behave properly while you’re bringing him out at this time, take him home to bed!”

It wasn’t even 7pm!

DP said he was so surprised he just said “oh ok will do”
DD was so amused that Daddy got told off

AIBU to think that 7pm is not too late to have a 2 year old out ... on a Friday night ... in the summer! 🤦🏻‍♀️

I wonder if you'd ever hear a man say "that's ageist". I highly doubt it. Possibly society's view of older men is so much more favourable than the view of older women.

British?

Yes its particularly pervasive here.

Children being put out of sight in the evenings is a cultural thing and nothing to do with age. Go look at the thread Bert mentioned, I was amazed at the judgementalism against the evils of children spending time with their families in the evenings.

what thread

we need to ask opinion from those that live in france

And to answer your earlier question Pandiculation I did not use the term old people , I described one woman as old. But as I have a teenage DD, I frequently make reference to "young people" in general so I don't understand, per se, what would be particularly wrong if I had done.

As a middle aged overweight person I would be happy to be described as such! I often refer to myself as fat. Probably wouldn't be too happy if a stranger came up and called me fat, but that doesn't mean it wouldn't be an accurate description!

They are all accurate adjectives. Ditto when I get older (God willing) I will be described as old. Ditto when I died I will be dead and won't have "passed"! (OK that last point is a different topic altogether, but happens to be a particular bugbear of mine.)

Or men just don't give a hoot, mere. Tell this thread to a guy you know and see what they think.

I’m utterly with Whisky on this.

What's laughable about this whole ageist thing is that actually the old woman was being ageist to Ops husband and their child.
While the term is also used in regards to prejudice and discrimination against adolescents and children, such as denying them certain rights (i.e. voting),[5] ignoring their ideas because they are considered "too young", or assuming that they should behave in certain ways because of their age

The woman only said something because she was the DPs senior imo. You wouldn't get someone of a similar age butting in like that. So I think the age thing is relevant in this instance.

If the woman hadn't been old then it would have been even more rude.

Haven't seen any complaints yet that the sex of the old person was mentioned, ie woman.
Surely that must have offended somebody.

Or mayb as she felt that as she was a women she was entitled to give her opinion about child care to one of those horrible men things.
I doubt she would of made those remarks to a women.

I’ve been in supermarkets later than that with my kids and I’d be pretty annoyed if someone felt like giving me some parenting advice

So have I, and I'm what the OP would likely construe as 'old'
but I took them when there was no option. I made sure they behaved and didn't get in anybody's way.

I think the tell here is what the 'old lady' said he’s very sweet but honestly he’ll never learn to behave properly
Toddlers are cute messing about pretending to be frogs or anything else they choose to be, but not in a supermarket aisle.

Last week in Asda, I rounded a corner and a young boy of 7/8 went slap bang into the side of my trolley at speed and hurt his nose as he slipped downwards.
My trolley, according to the father, "came out of nowhere". In a supermarket. Contrarily, I felt that the child had 'come out of nowhere' And he'd run into the SIDE of my trolley, evidencing the fact that I hadn't run into the child. I felt bad about it nevertheless.
Supermarkets can be dangerous for unsupervised children.

ha ha vicky
he was asking for trouble really, being a man out shopping with children

we need to ask opinion from those that live in france

I have lived in France.

who live there currently

Mostly my kids are in bed for 7 but sometimes they’re not on a weekend. Yesterday we were at swimming lessons til 7 then called shop on the way home before going home to bed. Hardly shocking

I'm singing a frog song to my Dd (11 months) now. Let frogs be frogs!

who live there currently

Yes because cultural attitudes to children change dramatically within a few years.

You are very invested in the notion that the British Way is The Only Way. Why?

Whilst on the subject - why does it matter that the old woman was female? why mention that

You are very invested in the notion that the British Way is The Only Way. Why?

what gives you that impression?

looking for an argument me thinks

I have this image of angry MNers unable to read novels in their entirety because they'd be too busy circling descriptions of people and writing letters of complaint about how unnecessary such descriptions are when telling a story...

Ridiculous.

People use descriptors to describe all kinds of things in life, including people, to give their perspective to situations. 'Old' and 'young' are such descriptors, and it's usually relative based on their account. Life must be so tedious to be so hung up on such things even in the relaying of stories and anecdotes...

Well, I for one think that it's great that men are finally getting the judgey shit from every busybody out in public. Hurray! Equality!