Aibu to think “loola” and “noony” aren’t words interchangeable with genitals?!

[Mightymelon]

And that cutesy words for your genitals help NOBODY AT ALL?

To cut a long story short - I’m friends with a girl, who has seen one of those posts on Facebook, about correctly naming genitals to avoid confusion when kids have uti’s or worse, have been abused.
DF mentioned that in this thread as well as the willy/mini/front bottom names loola and noony being used by children instead of vagina/ vulva and penis, and said she’d never heard of it before. Nor have I?

Firstly I would like to know if IABU to have never heard of these words?

SECONDLY I WOULD LIKE TO URGE YOU WITH EVERY OUNCE OF MY BEING TO TEACH YOUR KIDS APPROPRIATE WORDS FOR THEIR GENITALS SO THAT IF ANYTHING’s WRONG THE ADULTS WHO DEAL WITH IT (TEACHERS/CHILDMINDERS/HCP’s/THE POLICE) CAN DO SO WITH AS LITTLE TRAUMA AND FUSS AS POSSIBLE!!

It fills me with fear knowing this is still going on. The amount of children that may have fallen through the gaps because of such a simplistic, innocent error in parenting is unthinkable

Haven't RTFT but from my own experience, having cutesy names for genitals gives the message that these areas shouldn't be discussed. You should be coy and embarrassed. So when there is an issue, whether medical or abuse, the child feels unable to open up and talk to anyone about it.

YANBU. Why name genitalia in The first place? We don’t name our legs and arms... the silly names only goes on to breed ignorance!

I agree just using emotive examples to back up her pet hate.

anditgoes I am so sorry

Friends DD calls it her 'cookie'... very confusing.

We call our DDs genitals her ninny. She's 15 months old. Time & a place for the daft words. Happy to teach her the proper words too.

YANBU.
I agree entirely. I can't understand why anyone wants to make up random 'names' for genitals. Why are people so uncomfortable with vulva?

You wouldn't call your elbow your minnie (etc.)!

I think Willy is pretty universal but I can't count the different words I've heard instead of vulva! Minnie, foof, foofu, tuppence, bits, girly bits, front bum, fairy, Mary, hooha, flower, the list goes on!

DH is uncomfortable using Vulva but I have insisted our dd learn the correct word. She (3) is very comfortable using the word.

Actually, it's pretty normal to say tummy instead of stomach when talking to children, which can't be put down to embarrassment. I think there's some over-thinking going on here but accept the points made in relation to sexual abuse. I think kiddy names for body parts are fine as long as the correct terms are taught too.

likeacrow - I don't think that tummy and stomach are interchangeable. The stomach is a particular organ at the end of the oesophagus and before the small intestine where enzymatic digestion, started in the mouth, continues.

Tummy refers to a general area. A tummy rub is not a massage of the stomach. Tummy ache is not referring to a pain originating from the stomach (this cannot be absolutely diagnosed without testing), but a pain in the general area.

Your example is not correct.

Mominatrix
Bloody hell, conversations must be a laugh a minute round your gaff.
I think my example is spot on.

How so?

Mominatrix
Because most adults will use the word stomach to refer to the general area when talking to another adult (e.g. if one were to call in sick to work with a pain in that area, as an adult you'd be much more likely to say you had stomach ache/bug rather than a tummy ache/bug, regardless of whether that's correct in dictionary definition terms, it's just how adults speak) and tummy when talking to a child, again regardless of the dictionary definitions of the terms.

My point is that many words are kiddy-fied and it's not necessarily anything at all to do with being embarrassed or body shame amongst women.

Doggy, nom noms, biccie, quack quacks = a few examples of words often used with young children, not amongst adults and nothing to do with issues around body shame etc etc.

'Nuni' is Hungarian for fanny, so not that unusual of a nickname. It's willy or fairy in our house, I don't know any small child who call genitals by their scientific name and I Imagine most people would know what a child was on about using words like that

I honestly hadnt heard fairy until my 30s... many words people assume everyone knows but they really don't. If i child had come up to me saying someone touched their fairy I'd have assumed doll or make believe...

Mominatrix the area generally referred to as stomach/tummy/belly should properly be described as 'abdomen' but I've yet to hear any child or adult outside of a doctors surgery say they have abdominal pain.

Anditgoes - sorry that happened to you and it's only the pedants who insist on calling it vulva

Yes, my kids come home from school and tell me they fell and hurt their patella. I think once kids know the correct terms then it is ok for them to use other familiar terms if they want to. I like the word fanny, my dd likes the word fanuna, my ds likes the word dick, I like the word willy.

I do know that it is the abdomen - I am a medic. I only was pointing out that tummy was not a nickname for the stomach, which is what likeacrow was posting about.

I just don't understand the need to kiddify basic anatomical words. My greatest concern is too many adult females are ignorant about their own anatomy or worse, incorrectly understand and mislabel their anatomy. For heaven's sake - we own the equipment, we should know the proper names for our own bits! These cutesy names encourage being uncomfortable using the proper names - like they are words which should be avoided.

But it is a nickname for stomach, the way that most people use the words tummy and stomach. Feel like you're deliberately missing my point but whatever.

I referred to urine as wee wee when talking to my DD earlier. Doesn't mean I'm ashamed of my own piss.