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To think this woman made my day

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Tangled59 · 21/06/2018 10:42

Trying on a dress in zara and came out to look in the mirror. This woman who was also trying stuff on said "Oh my god that dress looks INCREDIBLE on you. Can i just tie the back ties so its done up properly? .... There. Truly it looks fantastic."
This isnt a humble brag btw.

What a wonderful thing to do for someone - just to compliment them and show some kindness.

From now on whenever I think something nice about someone I plan on telling them, even strangers.

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Banana8080 · 21/06/2018 23:00

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Marmablade · 21/06/2018 23:04

My boss told me he'd been at a meeting and mentioned my name. The lady said 'oh she's a good mum'. I don't even know her but we're on the same online parenting group and it's nice to know I'm well thought of. He's mentioned it a few times and it makes me happy every time.

Marmablade · 21/06/2018 23:08

My DD loves brightly coloured hair (as do I but can't for work purposes). She always comments 'Wow look at her hair mummy! Do you love it?' And I always say 'yes it's beautiful'. The ladies always smile at making a 5 year old so happy and from my compliment.

Orlandointhewilderness · 21/06/2018 23:33

I was out in a bar once, having just had a horrible break up from my exH. I was pretty low and he had done a real number on me and destroyed my self esteem. I can remember how much it took to get dressed up and go out that night. When I was ordering my drink a man came up to me and asked if he could buy it. he told me i was so lovely and beautiful that i had made his night and even though he was leaving he just wanted to tell me. He didn't try anything, he wasn't after anything and he was so respectful. It had been such a long time since a man had been respectful towards me! I was on cloud nine and i can still see his face.

dogzdinner · 22/06/2018 08:13

Reading through these posts this morning is heartwarming. I think it can be easy to dismiss compliments from people you know. But when it's a brief encounter with a total stranger there's no hidden agenda. It's lovely

WaxOnFeckOff · 22/06/2018 08:56

Marmablade I had a similar one in that the husband of a friend of my boss' was a plumber and I was using him to replace my bathroom. Boss then told me that her friend said her husband had made lots of comments about what great kids we had and what a great mum I was. I was really chuffed. I was showing boss's friend photos I'd taken of her husbands lovely work and I think she was really pleased at how pleased I was. I am quite quiet so although 'd said to plumber that I really liked it, he wasn't sure as I wasn't really gushing.

tccat · 22/06/2018 09:30

Best compliment I've ever had was from my friend at work when I was making her laugh, she said " you'd be just perfect if you had a cock" I was crying with laughter

goose1964 · 22/06/2018 09:42

I complimented the nurse who too my mole photos on her dress yesterday

IDrinkFromTheKegOfGlory · 22/06/2018 10:24

This thread has inspired me to speak out instead of just thinking it. And I did so this morning on the school run. I'm really glad I did and I'm going to keep on doing it! Thanks! Smile

CarolsSecretCookieRecipe · 22/06/2018 11:05

This is so lovely, but I'm a blubbering wreck - the dressing gown letter just finished me off.
Definitely inspired to give out more compliments.

Marmablade · 22/06/2018 11:21

@WaxOnFeckOff it's nice to be nice and it comes back around.

SharpLily · 22/06/2018 11:29

I do this sometimes but never really know if it's appreciated, however this thread shows that it definitely is so I'm going to do it more.

Itchyknees · 22/06/2018 11:36

All of my kids have various special needs. They are loud and a handful, and I took them to a display of Victorian toys at a local stately home. Everyone got to have a go at the different toys and games, and as usual I was pulled in all directions but was doing my best to not establish eye contact with any other parents in case I got the familiar judgemental look.

The woman running the display came over and took my arm, and told me she “loved my parenting” and it was very clear how tuned in and engaged I was with the children. No one had EVER paid me a compliment like that, and it really moved me.

Jux · 22/06/2018 11:37

I will not forget the day my mum came home from shopping - she was wearing an old dress, her sun hat tied on with a chiffon scarf. She was glowing because a woman had stopped her in the street and complimented her. That's why I have little or no hesitation in complimenting strangers.

MaitlandGirl · 22/06/2018 12:18

DD2 and I were shopping for her yr12 formal dress last weekend and she was very nervous. She’s not one for wearing dresses or fancy clothes and the bridal shop was really busy so she was very self conscious.

When she came out of the changing room in ‘the’ dress so many people told her how pretty she looked and one bride2be came over and hugged her and told her she looked amazing and offered her advice on the way to have her hair and makeup for the formal.

It really made her day and she’s absolutely beaming in the photos I took in the shop.

I thought it was so kind of people who were shopping for such important dresses to notice a nervous teenager and go out of their way to boost her confidence.

BristolThenSome · 22/06/2018 12:35

@JessiCake it's not you, honestly some ppl struggle with being complimented, makes them act odd, or protest put if modesty.
You sound super tho!

brieislife · 22/06/2018 13:09

I try to do this often (actually complimented a colleague on her dress this morning) although if someone looks TOO good I’m usually too intimidated to say anything - my confidence levels are not the highest.

I remember back at uni when I was working in a nightclub. A lady I was serving told me that if she were to have a nose job she’d ask for a nose just like mine. Grin She was probably drunk and probably didn’t remember it 5 minutes later, but it’s stuck with me for almost 20 years.

Katherine2626 · 22/06/2018 17:27

Someone once stopped me to say they loved what I was wearing - it is a nice warm feeling! I remembered that when I saw a very old lady who had on the most beautifully coordinating clothes and had taken so much trouble with her outfit and make up; I smiled and said what a lovely outfit she had, and her face broke into such a smile it quite made my day too. I think the Dali Lama said 'Be kind - it is always possible to be kind' . It is too - or most of the time anyway!

katseyes7 · 22/06/2018 17:31

My bestie and l do this if we see anyone wearing something we like. Yesterday in the street we walked past an older couple and the lady had pale pink hair. My bestie has purple hair. Both of them said "l love your hair!" at the same time.
lt's wonderful when women do this. We need to support each other. lt costs nothing and it makes people feel good! What's not to like?

Olddear · 22/06/2018 17:47

I always compliment people! I became a personal shopper for a lady I met in the changing room of a dept store when she was trying on outfits for her golden wedding! She was delighted with my choice!!! Smile

thebatman · 22/06/2018 18:39

I'm as ugly as a box of frogs but I do dress and carry myself well, about 10 years ago as I was leaving my local pub I bumped into a mate and stopped to chat, he had a lad with him around 25 who kept looking me up and down, I actually thought he was going to start something. He eventually said;
"excuse me mate, can I ask you what age you are"
"43" I replied warily
"I hope I dress half as well as you do when I'm in my 40's"

Still makes me smile almost 10 years on.

Thesearepearls · 22/06/2018 18:41

Saw a woman with a beautiful skirt today. Almost told her, then decided not to, she might think I was bonkers. Next time, i’ll say Something

kateandme · 22/06/2018 19:08

i think that's lovely.
because even of you don't think it is a huge thing to someone else, it is.even on a subconscious level it just tops up that "im worth something" pot doesn't it.
and to those that do need it,these small words from people can literally save lives.
kindness cures all I think.

embracethegrey · 22/06/2018 19:40

Hi, I posted a thread yesterday that I hoped could help someone with a menopausal problem and all I got back was a post that contradicted everything I said I had experienced. I was trying to help someone who was going through something I had experienced myself. I'm glad there are like minded people on this site who actually care about other people.

mable25 · 22/06/2018 19:46

When I was about 9 my parents were going through a particularly bad patch and I was spending lots of time at my aunt& uncle's house. They had taken me, my DSis and my 4 cousins to a local Italian restaurant. I was the eldest and feeling very responsible for and spent the whole meal making sure the younger ones were entertained and playing quietly. As we finished, a man and his wife came over (picture Carl from Up) and told my A&U what a lovely little mother hen I was and that I deserved a little treat just to myself. They gave me a ten pound note and told me to spend it on ice cream! I can't tell you how happy it made me. I felt so special, I was floating on air for days.

I've blocked out massive chunks of that part of my childhood but this thread bought back one happy memory that I hadn't thought about for a long time. Compliments and recognition do work!