To think this woman made my day

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Trying on a dress in zara and came out to look in the mirror. This woman who was also trying stuff on said "Oh my god that dress looks INCREDIBLE on you. Can i just tie the back ties so its done up properly? .... There. Truly it looks fantastic."
This isnt a humble brag btw.

What a wonderful thing to do for someone - just to compliment them and show some kindness.

From now on whenever I think something nice about someone I plan on telling them, even strangers.

I was at a friends wedding in France, a very traditional do in the town square and I was running round filling up people’s wine jugs (don’t believe all that nonsense about French people not binge drinking) so was fairly conspicuous. Later on I got talking to another English guest - her and her husband had discussed me earlier and had assumed I was Parisian as I looked so chic! At the same wedding one of the bride’s son’s mates asked me out and nearly died of shock when he found out I had been at school with the bride and so was twenty-five years older than him! Happy days. I think that was probably my peak.

In burger king last week I told two more mature women how glamorous they both looked. It made their day, one even said so and my daughter said that was a nice thing to say mammy. That made my day.

My Dc are grown up now, but I remember taking them on a train journey when they were about 2 and 4. It was a longish journey of about 2 hrs and I had prepared well with snacks, drinks and some little toys. We sat on one side of a table with a middle-aged businessman opposite.

I worked really hard for those 2 hours to keep them engaged and happy and I was so pleased at the end of the trip when the man stopped me and told me what a great parenting job I'd done as his heart had sank when he saw us but we had been no bother to him.

Lots of the early years has become a blur, but I do remember that compliment clearly and I think it helped me with my confidence as a parent.

I compliment strangers’ jewellery and clothes and shoes etc all the time. People love it, or at least they tend to react positively to it. I didn’t have the confidence to do it when I was younger but now I do.

I like to do this. I asked a woman where she had her done once as it looked so nice (her face lit up at the question) - and her hairdresser is now my hairdresser. I told a woman in the theatre the other week that her dress looked gorgeous, too. Not only did she look but so did her DP.

I have a wee fear that if I compliment a younger/thinner/more stylish person on their clothes, they will think "good heavens that old bag likes my dress, better throw it away".
Face/hair compliments I can manage!

We were at Legoland last summer, my girls were acting up, husband was stropping and it was a massively shit day. I dropped my bag and picked it up and this woman tapped me on the shoulder and said “Your top is gorgeous. It looks beautiful on you.” It really made my day and cheered me up no end.

It’s lovely when someone does that for you.

We should all endeavour to say at least one nice thing to a stranger and one to a friend, every day. The world would be a nicer place!

When I was a child I had pretty low self esteem, particularly about the way I looked. One of my strongest memories is of being in a shop aged 10 and the shop assistant saying to me that I was gorgeous looking. Over 20 years later and it's still strong in my memory, it had a real impact.

A lady behind me in the q in Aldi last week told me I had a beautiful figure, I was delighted and thanked her for her lovely compliment, I went off with a spring in my step and I always pay it forward, a nice smile and a compliment or even a bit of chit chat can brighten up someones day.

If I see someone in something I like I always say they look great! Not long ago I saw a lady in the most amazing glitter boots and had to tell her she looked fantastic !

I used to absolutely love it when people, it was older ladies, used to come up to me and how how well behaved my DC where when we were out eating. I am going to make sure I do this following on from this thread.

I always tell it like it is and often, very often, will stop a stranger in the street to tell her I love her dress etc. Last week I saw a woman who had her hair tied up in this scarf. Wasn't my style but I thought 'ohhh wow, you look so lovely' and I went out of my way to tell her. I don't know why you (as in the proverbial you) wouldn't.

That’s nice!

Went on a cruise with DD her DP and darling GD age2
We ate in a lovely restaurant most nights and GD was in a high chair. Every night she wore a different pretty dress. DD made sure she was kept occupied during the meal and entertained.
On the last night a couple who had been sat near our table all week came and complimented my daughter saying how well behaved GD was and how pretty. Thought DD was going to burst with pride. Thought I was too,,!

I often think in my head how nice someone's hair, clothes etc. are but tend to feel awkward about it saying. I'm going to make an effort to do it more.

I did go up to a woman in the gym changing room recently who was struggling to do up the zip on her dress and fixed it for her. Then complemented her on how lovely the dress looked. She did seem genuinely chuffed and it made me feel good too.

I always see people wearing nice things but I’m usually not brave enough to comment. Maybe I will after this thread.

I also quietly mentioned to a woman at a concert that she had tucked her skirt into her knickers (not sure this is quite the same...)

An old man once told me, "You've brightened up my day in that dress!".

It was lovely.

Another time some girls in a changing room went nuts for a dress I was wearing and asked to lend me a lipstick to complete the look. They were darlings too.

A couple of weeks ago a lovely women stopped me in the supermarket and asked me if I was a dancer because, she said, I move with such grace.

Believe me, I was walking tall for days after that, and I can't dance to save my life.

I always do this OP. Love seeing someone eyes light up and a genuine smile come onto their face. It can really make someone's day. I also have a habit of entertaining small children while the parent gets something done. The sigh of relief and thankful smile while they pay for shopping/strap child no.2 into a car seat in peace is great.

It's nice to be nice and good actions produce good karma!

I had a lady on a train tell me that I looked great once, it has stayed with me forever. I was stressed and going to a difficult meeting, she made me stand a bit taller

I am ALWAYS doing this and I worry sometimes people might think I'm weird. I'm always commenting on other women's dresses, shoes, handbags, nails!

I know what a boost it gives me if I receive a compliment as I'm not confident about fashion, although I love it, so I try to pay it forward! So glad she's put a spring in your step today!

A couple of years ago I was in my local corner shop queuing behind two children aged about 8. They looked like brother and sister. It became obvious this was their first outing to a shop alone and had a list from their mum.
They were so sweet and polite and excited at being given a grown up chore that i teared up a bit.
As i walked home they were ahead of me and their mum was waiting on the doorstep (their house was a minutes walk from the shop). I stopped and told her how well behaved they were and what a good job she'd done with them. She was over the moon.

I like receiving and giving compliments.

But... be careful when travelling in some East Asian cultures where etiquette dictates that if someone admires something you should give it to them. Can lead to some awkward situations. I try to stick to clothing items that couldn't possibly be removed without breaking another law of etiquette / public decency