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To think this woman made my day

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Tangled59 · 21/06/2018 10:42

Trying on a dress in zara and came out to look in the mirror. This woman who was also trying stuff on said "Oh my god that dress looks INCREDIBLE on you. Can i just tie the back ties so its done up properly? .... There. Truly it looks fantastic."
This isnt a humble brag btw.

What a wonderful thing to do for someone - just to compliment them and show some kindness.

From now on whenever I think something nice about someone I plan on telling them, even strangers.

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Justanothermotha · 21/06/2018 13:04

I have had this twice,once on the plane when DD was one &first time flying I was so nervous she would disturb everyone and cry but she was a total dream. As we were about to get off the plane the man behind us said she was so good he forgot she was there & what a good job I was doing. Totally made my day! Also recently in Primark I was looking at some trousers that I wasn't sure about & a lady with a wee one in a buggy came over & said she couldn't decide what colour, I explained I wasn't sure if they would suit my shape & she exclaimed "No you must get them! You're going to look amazing in these" she totally boosted my confidence and I wish I could be like her!

Benandhollysmum · 21/06/2018 13:11

A compliment always goes along way to make somebody’s day..

I like doing that to others..it makes me feel good inside and it’s nice when they smile because it’s probably the first nice thing they’ve heard all day..like I will say I like your hair, or wish I had your figure or you look good in that coat..

See how being genuine and nice makes you feel good? you should try it on someone else

anotherangel2 · 21/06/2018 13:12

BeyondThePage a detail of the thread but what do you do to have a good posture. I need need to work on mine.

JessiCake · 21/06/2018 13:13

I do this but nobody ever does it back to me!! (maybe because I look shit... just occurred to me...!)

I regularly comment on what I like on other people, friends, aquaintances or strangers. Often it's nice nails as I love creative, wacky nails but don't suit them at all myself.

People usually seem pleased, only once have I had a woman react really rudely by sniggering to her friend after I said I liked her shoes.

I wish more people would do it (and occasionally do it back to me Grin as I'm not the most confident and I LOVE clothes/style/hair)

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Tangled59 · 21/06/2018 13:15

@JessiCake
Maybe you are TOO beautiful!
I don't know why but if someone is a stunner I'm less likely to do it - probably because i (wrongly) assume they wont care

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LadyOfTheCanyon · 21/06/2018 13:15

Ah this had made me well up! The thought of all you lovely people being kind.
I do this a lot at work- while waiting for credit cards and the like to process I often compliment someone's clothes, shoes, nails, jewellery, make up or perfume. I also stop people in the street to ask where they got something they're wearing. Most people seem pretty chuffed.

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 21/06/2018 13:16

what do you do to have a good posture

One of my ballet teachers told me to imagine a thread being pulled upwards from the very top of your head. It's not quite right, but it helps. I love to see a good posture, and a head held high...it looks proud and confident and I like that Grin.

LloydColeandtheCoconuts · 21/06/2018 13:18

I’m welling up too Grin
What’s lovely thread Star

Benandhollysmum · 21/06/2018 13:18

Well you’re a better person jessicake. How rude to laugh at someone who took a few seconds out their day to say something nice about someone else.

Benandhollysmum · 21/06/2018 13:19

I don’t expect compliments back I’m ugly as sin and wear horrible clothes so I don’t care much for compliments...id rather give than recieve

KingLooieCatz · 21/06/2018 13:21

Different but related - I cycle on a busy path that's shared by walkers and cyclists and when people get their dogs to wait at the side while I go by I've started making a point of complimenting their gorgeous dogs. So many people steam past without saying a word giving cyclists a bad name.

BeyondThePage · 21/06/2018 13:24

anotherangel2 - hi, I do a morning stretch routine - takes 15 min - the one I do is the same as this one:

(the bloke's voice gets on my nerves - as does the cameraman's movement, but it shows clearly what to do to stretch out safely)

I also still do the pelvic floor exercises I was shown after childbirth - keeps everything lined up inside.

And when I remember I do the "imaginary cord" thing - imagine the cord from your heels up your legs, spine and neck - it comes out the top of your head and is always taught. When you are standing still, always imagine the cord.

MadisonAvenue · 21/06/2018 13:24

That's really lovely!

I still think back to how wonderful it made me feel when, around 25 years ago, a man stopped me in the street in the city centre and told me that he really liked the shirt I was wearing (it was a Pucci-style print from Next and I've kept it to this day as I adored wearing it).

Recently I've been using a waver on my hair to get beach waves and I love the look it gives me, my hair is usually very straight so it's a very different style for me. My husband keeps complimenting me yet I've seen my parents four times since I started using it and they've not mentioned it at all. Funnily enough I was at their house on Saturday when my sister came in and the first thing she did was say how much she liked my hair, and even then they didn't say a word about it.

Maelstrop · 21/06/2018 13:28

Someone once told me I had the most amazing hair he'd ever seen: made my day! (It's dark ginger ringlets, looks like red gold colour)

MidLifeCrisis2017 · 21/06/2018 13:29

Trying on a jacket in Zara years ago and a lady came and told me I looked French....ten minutes later she found me again and said "I do hope you realised I think that's a good thing!" Grin

alphajuliet123 · 21/06/2018 13:37

I complimented a lady on her dress while waiting in a post office queue once. Several months later she came up to me (I had no idea who she was at first but vaguely recalled the dress) and thanked me for making her day that day. She'd lost loads of weight following a break up and had treated herself to the dress, the first time she'd worn one in years. She said she floated out of that post office feeling amazing and had hoped to see me ever since to tell me how that one comment had helped her. Made my eyes a bit wet!

The last compliment I got was "you always have nice tea towels". Excellent.

RhubarbRhubarbRhubarbRhubarb · 21/06/2018 13:43

Oh @alphajuliet, that made me laugh. Yep. That’s just the sort of compliment I get. It’s right up there with “child bearing hips” Hmm.

Bramble71 · 21/06/2018 13:47

I always tell people when they have on something, or are carrying an accessory, that I like, or I love the colour of their hair, anything like that. Compliments and kind words cost nothing.

OCSock · 21/06/2018 13:47

A compliment is free and always lifts the mood, whether you're giving it or getting it, as long as it's sincere.

PossiblyPFB · 21/06/2018 13:50

A couple of years ago in the supermarket after school, my young DD and I ran into a friend’s DD and two of her school friends who were shopping with my friend’s DH after school. These girls were 10/11 and my DD was 5 at the time.

Friend’s DD excitedly greeted my DD, hugged her and asked her about her day, introduced her to her friends, and asked how she was enjoying Reception etc with genuine interest. It was lovely and kind, especially in front of her friends, who might have thought it uncool.

It made my DD feel really special that this cool older girl was so interested in her! Later that night I text my friend to compliment her DD and tell her about her actions and compliment what a lovely, kind and thoughtful girl they have raised.

Friend was so proud and thankful to be able to pass it on to her DD, who was beaming at the unexpected praise! Several years on and she’s still a genuinely kind young lady. It’s important to recognise these things in my view! Smile

schnubbins · 21/06/2018 13:51

I live in Germany and when in Zara recently I complemented a woman younger than me that the dress she was trying on was beautiful on her.If looks would kill I was dead .Felt sorry for her really.
I'm Irish and love it when I'm home as there is great banter in the changing rooms amongst all the women.It really makes shopping fun.

Ozgirl75 · 21/06/2018 13:56

One of the first times I went out with my first baby, I was feeling overwhelmed and a bit tearful but also pleased because I’d managed to actually leave the house. As I lifted my son out of the car a woman said “oh LOOK at your gorgeous little baby!” with a huge smile and it just absolutely made my day.

LoveAtFirstSight · 21/06/2018 13:57

I still remember having just left the hairdressers, so my hair was looking nice and swishy, and a woman walking past told me that my hair looked lovely.

Really made my day, and still remember it :)

JellyBears · 21/06/2018 13:59

That’s really kind,

RhubarbRhubarbRhubarbRhubarb · 21/06/2018 14:00

I remember a woman asking me for a light when I was walking down the road in Paris, where I was living, quite a few years ago, when I used to smoke. I was just lighting her cigarette for her and noticed a beautiful ring she was wearing. I pointed at it and said “j’aime ca”, meaning that I liked it, but obviously I’d said the wrong thing as she thought I wanted it! Possibly in exchange for the light..? I had to explain that I was just admiring it. Must work on my tone when giving compliments...

Don’t know why that just popped into my head.

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