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To think this woman made my day

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Tangled59 · 21/06/2018 10:42

Trying on a dress in zara and came out to look in the mirror. This woman who was also trying stuff on said "Oh my god that dress looks INCREDIBLE on you. Can i just tie the back ties so its done up properly? .... There. Truly it looks fantastic."
This isnt a humble brag btw.

What a wonderful thing to do for someone - just to compliment them and show some kindness.

From now on whenever I think something nice about someone I plan on telling them, even strangers.

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Lancelottie · 21/06/2018 15:42

I complimented another woman on how good she looked in a dress as she emerged from a changing room last week.

She beamed and said, 'Really? Thanks!', and after a couple of minutes she went off to pay... at which point the resigned-looking chap who'd been waiting outside the changing area also beamed at me and murmured a heartfelt 'Thank you!'

If you're on here, it honestly did look lovely and I hope the wedding was fun.

ghostyslovesheets · 21/06/2018 15:43

I always try to do this - compliment people, I tell managers about good service - I say thank you - cost nowt but it makes the world a little nicer

Dartsplayer · 21/06/2018 15:45

I always tell people if they look nice or I like their hair cut, top etc. Well done to that lady and how lovely for you

LuMarie · 21/06/2018 15:49

This is such lovely thread.

I could tell a million stories of how tiny acts of kindnesses can change the world...

Instead, I just want to say thank you for all these stories! You've brightened my day, everyone:)

Flooffloof · 21/06/2018 15:51

I do compliment people then afterwards think I was being all cringe, and I blush.
I did with a woman in white and orange linen, she looked bloody stunning, really put together and cool and beautiful. So I stammered out some nice words and then went bright red.
sigh. I don't know if she thought I was coming on to her, if she is here, I wasn't, you genuinely looked fabulous.
I tend to now walk past really fast and shout out, ooh cool shoes/bag/skirt. I get a quick exit, they get compliments.

The80sweregreat · 21/06/2018 15:51

I must admit I say please and thank you and send cards to say thanks and say nice things to people if they give good service etc. It’s good to spread the love at times.
What happened to you was nice too!
Should be more of it instead of hate!

RachelfromFriends · 21/06/2018 16:07

Whenever I've tried to do this, they don't look pleased, they look shocked so it must be something in my delivery!?Shock

0hCrepe · 21/06/2018 16:15

A friend and I were walking past a bridal shop when we were about 15 and saw a woman with a dress on. She looked so beautiful we popped our heads into the shop to tell her. I think she kind of smiled and laughed. I’ve since felt embarrassed about doing that but back to feeling good about it.

WaxOnFeckOff · 21/06/2018 16:15

I've been making a point to do this at least once a day to someone for the last few months. It actually makes me feel happier about myself too.

I really recommend it. I don't just do women, I say to men and children too. Never had a bad reaction yet.

WaxOnFeckOff · 21/06/2018 16:18

It doesn't have to be to complete strangers, I do most of mine at work to people I pass in the corridor, but some to people I know and some to my family and friends. Can be as simple as saying what a nice shirt someone is wearing or a nice perfume etc.

rosesandflowers1 · 21/06/2018 16:20

I love it when people compliment each other! It can make someone so happy and it doesn't cost you anything to tell someone you like their hair or that their shoes are nice Flowers

flippyfloppyflower · 21/06/2018 16:22

I was raised to do this in shops by my mum - and usually to someone who was on their own. My mum would say if it looks horrible say nothing but if it looks nice make a compliment so the person knows they are buying something that suits them. I have even been known (if someone is trying on the same item but in different colours) to comment what colour suits them best.

Pancakeflipper · 21/06/2018 16:33

@Ohcrepe - Awwwwww how lovely to have been that bride.

Years ago on my commute, I would often see a woman who I thought was the most cool stunning woman ever. She was a real individual.

One day we walked past each other and she stopped and said "I love your shoes. Noticed them ages ago and been looking for some ever since...."

I nearly collapsed in worship. I still have the shoes and when I wear them I think I am really cool. Just like her.

ScarlettSahara · 21/06/2018 16:35

Yes yes to compliments - it can feel a little awkward sometimes but I do it anyway because I know how much it can lift my mood to receive them.
Some of them buck me up for years later - was bracing myself for being told DD is a bit dreamy/lacking concentration yadda yadda at a parents’ evening . Sat down & teacher said “Scarlett’s daughter-what can I say...?” Exchanged nervous glance with DH & braced myself. “Lucky,lucky parents”. We really needed that (certain family members always in raptures re her cousins & outspoken re DD’s perceived flaws) & it has helped us through some difficult times.
Likewise when I developed an area of alopecia a shop assistant asked if anyone had ever told me I looked like Liz Hurley- I seriously don’t btw but it lifted my mood all the same.
So you never know what people are going through and a well-chosen comment can really put a spring in their step. Seemed to be appreciated by the lady in pink with silver hair whose outfit I admired at the supermarket last week!

marriednotdead · 21/06/2018 16:45

I do this a lot and always hope it's taken in the spirit that it's meant. We can be so hard on each other and particularly ourselves. And I have to forcibly remind myself to just smile and say thank you should I be on the receiving end rather than brushing off the compliment as if I'm not worthy.
My acidic mother asked me a few years ago if I was going to continue dying my hair (to cover the greys) or just let myself go.... It now gives me extra pleasure when someone comments on the couple of almost completely silver ringlets that frame my face and asks if they're highlights Grin

BurpeesAreTheWorkOfTheDevil · 21/06/2018 17:34

About a year ago a woman at the gym asked me "what do I have to do I here to get a figure like yours?"

A year later and it still makes me smile 😊

Namechangedforthispost18 · 21/06/2018 17:37

Awwww that is so nice!!!

Nutgirl · 21/06/2018 18:08

This thread has made my day, how lovely. I do always try to compliment people as I know that it can genuinely lift people in ways you might not at first imagine.

A few weeks ago I was in Tesco and was buying a bottle of gin along with my normal shopping. The girl on the checkout was eyeing me suspiciously and eventually asked me for ID. I'm 37 Smile. I showed her my driving licence and she said she genuinely thought I was 25 or younger and that she hoped she looked like me when she's 37. I was soooo pleased as I think I look pretty haggard most of the time as I get very little sleep due to a three-year-old who still doesn't sleep through, as well as insomnia so her words meant a lot. I obviously don't look as hanging as I think.

It did make me giggle though, how many under 25s buy gin alongside a 4 litre bottle of fabric softener Grin.

Keep being lovely everyone!

ItchySeveredFoot · 21/06/2018 18:12

I complimented the lady serving me at tesco on her glasses. They were pink with a silver rose at the front. She was pleased and we had a chat about them.
A very put together woman in towering heels came and complimented my shoes the other day. They're flat slip ons that have cat faces and ears on them. She even asked where I bought them. Made my day.

NKFell · 21/06/2018 18:14

Lovely thread, this has brightened my day!

Thanks OP!

Ellendegeneres · 21/06/2018 18:21

Oh I do this all the time. My friend said to the shop assistant the other day oh I loooove your hair where’d you get it done?? (It was this amazing electric blue shade) the assistant almost cried, she’d had a horrendous day and we were the first people to be genuinely nice to her. I don’t get why more people aren’t just nice.

If you say one nice thing to someone, you could be making their day- you might be the first person who’s spoken to them all day, or at least kindly. It’s what attracts me to new friends, seeing them do something nice for others

RestingBitchFaced · 21/06/2018 18:22

Not quite the same but
I was on a plane with my two boys aged about 3 and 7 on my own for a family holiday (Dp was meeting us there a few days later after attending a family funeral). The man in front of me turned around and told me to stop my children from kicking his wife's seat. I didn't even realise they were kicking it, so it couldn't have been that bad. Spend the rest of the flight making sure they didn't touch it at all.
As we were standing up waiting to get off the plane, a woman behind me said loudly as she went past (for the couple in front to hear too) how well behaved my children were. Only a small thing, but I will never forget it ☺️

steff13 · 21/06/2018 18:24

I was feeling pretty gross on Tuesday, and a man walked by and said "good morning, beautiful." They made my day.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 21/06/2018 18:26

Lovely thread.
I am ALWAYS doing this and I worry sometimes people might think I'm weird.
Keep up the good work!

nNina22 · 21/06/2018 18:40

I always make a point of cooing over newborns and saying how gorgeous they are as I remember how nice it was to get comments like that. Occasionally I get a stony stare from the parent but they areusually very pleased