To think this woman made my day

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Trying on a dress in zara and came out to look in the mirror. This woman who was also trying stuff on said "Oh my god that dress looks INCREDIBLE on you. Can i just tie the back ties so its done up properly? .... There. Truly it looks fantastic."
This isnt a humble brag btw.

What a wonderful thing to do for someone - just to compliment them and show some kindness.

From now on whenever I think something nice about someone I plan on telling them, even strangers.

I emabarrass my dc doing this, all the bloody time, but really I hope they do it too when they're older.

I stopped by a garden as I was driving past it last week with ds in tow, the woman was out watering her flowers, a wonderful display. I told her they brighten my day every time I see them. Blimey, I thought she was going to cry!

It's the little things.

Re changing rooms, I do it to younger women who ostensibly look like they are so groomed and beautiful anyway, but I remember when I was their age and felt a bit of a tit most of the time. They always go away happy.

Goes for everyone of course. I don't specifically target younger women, that would be weird!

bad form Poodles to bring up a poster's previous thread really (one I agreed with btw!), and its very clear this is not a humble brag so not sure where you got that idea from, strange.

back to the question. I was walking down the street a couple of months ago, and a woman as she approached me was almost awestruck with excitement "Wow your scarf is amazing!" or words to that effect. I have seen her about a few times and suspect she has MH issues but her positivity and so forth was thrilling!

I also offer compliments sometimes, but like sadeye might redouble my efforts

I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one who does this. I've paid loads of women compliments and every time I wonder afterwards if it was inappropriate and the woman will think I'm some sort of weird stalking person.

I've had people say nice things about clothes I've been wearing and it always makes me feel a bit perked up so I hope other women feel the same.

It's a very positive thing to do. I do try to make sure that if I see someone whose hair/clothes/shoes/bag, or anything else look good, I'll tell them. Similarly if I see or encounter a well-behaved or polite child, etc. I'll relay that to the adult they're with.
Courtesy costs little and the thought that you can make someone's day so much better by a few mere words is something well worth remembering.

I'm trying to encourage DD to do the same. So she'll often tell someone she likes the colour of their hair, or their shoes. It always puts a smile on someone's face, and I also get feedback that she's a kind/polite child. Win-win!

I was in a changing room not long ago and a mum and (adult) daughter were in the next cubicle. Daughter was complaining that nothing fit her and that shops were 'making sizes smaller'.

Her mum kept quiet for ages until she finally said 'look sweetheart, I'd give you the unvarnished truth about your weight but I'm afraid you'd just eat that too' 😳

I was 😮

'look sweetheart, I'd give you the unvarnished truth about your weight but I'm afraid you'd just eat that too'

I read that with these expressions 😮🙂😠🙂😁😂🤣🤭😳🤣

I told a bank teller that she had one of the most beautiful smiles I had ever seen once because it was true - it was mesmerising but my mate thought I was weird!

I also stopped a woman in a car park recently because she was wearing an African wax blouse with a metallic leather pencil skirt and she looked incredible, she had managed to fuse these two european and african styles and it looked great.

I was just looking at another woman in the gym thinking how lovely she looked and she'd gone past before I realised I vaguely knew her and had sort of blanked her a bit as I was admiring her outfit. Do I went after her and said "sorry I was a bit vague then, I was actually just thinking how nice you looked" and she was dead chuffed and hugged me

I love paying compliments

What a lovely thread. All those instances of ppl being nice to each other. Now that made my day :)

Yes, I've done the well behaved child thing too. And had comments about my DCs when they were children.

It always pleased me that people felt they wanted to comment on my DCs behaviour in a positive way but I'm never 100% sure it's okay when I do it.

There haven't been any recently, as far as I'm aware, but there was a time on here where every other parent of small children was complaining about people saying hello to their child without their (the parent's) permission; there was no suggestion that the people were being inappropriate, it was just deemed not allowed. It seemed to make the parents furious so sometimes I'm a bit worried I might offend a particular sensitive mother if I compliment her child's behaviour.

I love doing this. I think women hear so much negative stuff about how they look - random kindness offsets the bullshit.

I aim to pay compliments that aren't based on looks and often compliment clothes, style or attitude.

It's nice to be nice isn't it?

I made a positive choice to do this a few years ago, and always do it now. Particularly to older women if they're looking good, as it takes a lot of effort which I can't be arsed to do, so I appreciate when I see someone else who has made the effort.

I pay compliments to people. I only do it when I really mean it, obviously.

A woman once crossed a shop to tell me that I had the most beautiful figure she'd ever seen (seriously, years ago, but still ) and pointed at her husband holding her shopping bags and ruefully waving at me to prove she 'wasn't being weird.' She just 'had to tell me.'

I floated on a cloud that day, feeling all special...

I want to know what the dress was !

A lady was partnering my gallumping sullen teen at tennis recently.
She came over to tell me how charming, polite and encouraging he'd been. It made my week.

Such a lovely thread.

When my DD was a baby I remember two occasions when older ladies stopped me to coo at DD and they praised my parenting. In those early days when you are so unsure it made me feeling amazing. I try to repay to parents of young babies whenever I can.

I always like to pay compliments as well I good friend of mine does the same it really can brighten someone’s day.
Recently I’ve been feeling quite shitty just down in the dumps and worried I look like a bit of a mess tbh but two people have both told me I’m described as the ‘glam wishful’ which is lovely as I’d never think I’d pass for glam but apparently I do :)

An American lady came over to me at Disney in Florida once and told me I had amazing posture. It is something I pride myself on, felt chuffed to bits for ages!

I love doing RAOK. This week I paid for chocolate and got the cashier to give it anonymously to the police who were fuelling their car up
Paying for the person behind at the drive through Starbucks is something I do a lot as well
Tiny things but they can cheer someone up

My Mum is great at complimenting people, in changing rooms, about their children etc. It’s a quality I definitely try to emulate as it makes people smile!

several random people have commented on the colour of my hair (purple) saying they love it, which is nice.

I was very proud of dd2 once who was singing a solo in a musical theatre show in the Fringe when she was about 19. Chatting afterwards a little girl came up with a programme and actually asked DD to sign it lol, saying shyly "you were my favourite person in the show!"
Without a blink DD said "Really? That's amazing because YOU were my favourite person in the audience! and I just love that pretty dress you're wearing!"
The little girl lit up like a Christmas tree and she and DD admired each other's shoes before she skipped off to tell everyone that she was DD's favourite person in the audience.

What a gorgeous thread. I complimented a woman on her handbag the other day and she was delighted - chatted all about it on the train until we got off. It made her so happy.

And the first hot day we had this summer I put on an old summer dress. I'm 2 stone overweight at the moment and relaly not liking my figure. But on the way into the village a stranger stopped me and told me how lovely I looked. Then I bumped into a close friend's husband who said the same, and I felt much happier about myself than I had for weeks.

What a lovely thread. Makes me feel all sunshiny and warm. (Apart from Poodles unnecessarily scathing comments).

I always try to compliment people, but I confess I've never thought to do it in a changing room - I'll try harder from now on.

Let's all pay forward the kindness.