To think this woman made my day

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Trying on a dress in zara and came out to look in the mirror. This woman who was also trying stuff on said "Oh my god that dress looks INCREDIBLE on you. Can i just tie the back ties so its done up properly? .... There. Truly it looks fantastic."
This isnt a humble brag btw.

What a wonderful thing to do for someone - just to compliment them and show some kindness.

From now on whenever I think something nice about someone I plan on telling them, even strangers.

That's lovely x

I think someone on here once said that she finds it offensive when someone pays her a compliment because it suggests she is only there for their enjoyment and approval.

I thought it was a bit daft personally and will compliment people (when I mean it) and risk offending them.

I love telling kids how great they have been. I once went out of my way to find the parents of two boys who had been so kind to my much younger children in an adventure playground. They boys were 9/10 and had let my little ones go on the equipment, waited patiently, taken turns. When I approached the parents I asked if they were with the two particular boys and they stood up and said "what have they done?!" assuming it was something bad. They were absolutely chuffed when I told them.

I'll compliment random people if I like a stranger's bag, or hair, or whatever. Women get so flustered but seem genuinely pleased! It's nice to be nice. I also like to make sure managers know when staff have gone above and beyond for me as a customer. I feel as a society we're so quick to complain but rarely praise great customer service.

It is nice to be able to say nice things to people without expecting anything back except maybe a smile. I realised that when I was in my 30s and someone did it to me, yes it made my day. So, yes, if I see someone particularly stylish, or with a beautiful hat, gorgeous dog, polite children etc etc, I will stop and say so.

It's nice to raise smiles.

How lovely!! I have to admit that I’m guilty of this, and I’m not sure if people secretly hate it. I used to work in a clothes shop and loved it if people would come out and ask for my opinion as well.

Someone did this to me in such a bizarre way I have no idea if it was a compliment. Went along the lines of telling me 3x to please leave the shop, when I looked at her blankly, frankly wondering WTF she was on about the woman told me I was making her feel bad being there as I made her feel old and scruffy as I looked so lovely....in a DIY shop, in my gardening clothes. Baffled 😂

A customer at work always lifts my day when he comes in and says "Hello there young lady" - I'm 54 - he is 92 and says it with a twinkle in his eye!

I'm a big giver of compliments when I see lovely things/people/dogs/children and it's lovely to receive them.

We were out for a meal once, which can be a trial as DD has ASD, as we were finishing a chap came up and complimented us on our beautifully behaved children, it just made me so bloody happy as we were at the beginning of DD's path to diagnosis and as parents of SN children know there is a lot of judgement involved when you have a child with behavioural problems. I could have bloody kissed him!

Although my compliment-giving did backfire once, we were at a restaurant and DS, who was about five at the time said he thought the waitress was 'a very pretty lady, so I thought I'd tell her what he said.

Unfortunately, for some unknown reason, it came out of my mouth as, 'My husband thinks you are a very pretty lady'.

I think she thought we were swingers...

“You could just see the mum glow with pride and as we were walking away we could hear her telling her daughter how pleased she was with her.”

ithink I’ve just welled up at that!

This thread has just reminded me to fill in a survey for a shop I was in the other day complimenting the lady who served us. She was a delight and made my 14yos day by complimenting her top and purchase choice. I do hope the feedback is passed on to her. (Does anyone know if it is? It was The Range)

I try to do this although avoid anything too personal (and probably down to lucky genes) and focus on things people have chosen like clothes/shoes/bags).

I don’t expect compliments back I’m ugly as sin and wear horrible clothes so I don’t care much for compliments...id rather give than recieve

@Benandhollysmum you sound like a beautiful person to me

I do this and I've had similar said to me.. I was in a cafe and a lady walked past me on her way out and said that the top I was wearing really complemented me and the colour was beautiful on me!! It really brightened my day.

Unfortunately modern life sees women pitting themselves against each other in a competitive and bitchy way more often than not, there’s so little solidarity, this is a heartwarming example of how women should treat each other

I'd once had a horrible morning, with preschool yet again telling me how awful my son was and a laundry list of complaints. I took both kids (6months and 4 years old) for pizza and just felt on edge the whole time. Was DS1 going to play up or misbehave. At the end of our meal, a lady at the next table got up and told me what beautiful, well behaved and bright children I had. I did give her a hug, and I did cry.
If you were that lady in Reading Pizza Hut all those years ago, please know you were a ray of light when I needed it most.

Not so long back I was behind a lady trying on lots of dresses for her husband who was very non commital. Eventually I told her that she should really buy the smaller size as it really suited her figure. She was so made up and told me she had recently lost a lot of weight and still didn’t believe she was that size. She bought the dress on my recommendation- she really did look lovely!

I have an 8 month old baby and get stopped whenever we go as people tell me how beautiful he is (he’s incredibly chunky and people seem to love squeezing his legs!). I don’t understand posters on here who complain about it - I genuinely beam with pride whenever it happens! And he loves the attention!

I do this too. Mostly to friends but occasionally to strangers . Often to a woman at the school gates who always looks fantastic and is the sweetest person. She probably thinks I fancy her

Years ago in a very stylish boutique in a town we we visiting for the weekend I tried on what used to be called a duster coat in coral linen. I LOVED it but wanted to run it past DP before buying it. He turned up, I tried it on and a complete stranger in the shop said ‘Well it doesn’t do you any favours.’ Excuse me, did I ask you?
I was so upset, and embarrassed, that I left the shop.
Some little while later we were having lunch in a well-known restaurant in London and I was playing peek-a-boo with a delicious baby on the next table. When they were leaving her mummy said to me ‘ your beautiful smile gave us a very peaceful lunch - thank you.’
Balance redressed.

This isn’t quite on topic but seems to be in the spirit of the thread. Last week I saw two young (13/14ish) aisan lads being turned away from a shop because school kids weren’t allowed in. I walked a few steps behind them down the road and they passed a homeless man sitting in a doorway. One of them looked at the money in his hand, caught his mates eye and shrugged and gave all the money to the homeless man. When I passed the homeless man he had tears in his eyes and he just gestured at them and said to me ‘those boys’. I wanted to chase after them and say how kind they were but I didn’t want to seem freaky.

An added factor to this is given the area we live in and the school uniform they were wearing the boys were probably Muslim and it was Ramadan so they were probably hungry and grouchy but they still had a care for someone needy. I would be so proud if they were my children.

I'm plus size and love clothes, so whenever I see another big girl in a gorgeous dress I always make sure I compliment them and ask where they got it. I've had a lot of random women hug me in bathrooms!

Slightly off topic, but this is a story of one of my favourite RAOK ever. I have it saved for when I need reminding not everyone is trash!

A letter to … A kindhearted woman in Marks and Spencer

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/mar/03/letter-to-unknown-woman?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Copy_to_clipboard

I do try to compliment people, and I've had some too, especially about the DCs when they were young.

Isn't it better to help people feel good about themselves, and not to be shit to them?

I encourage the DCs to be kind, think I'll remind them that compliments are also a good way of being kind.

My DD is not easy to have around the house. She tests every boundary, ignores every instruction. I adore her but she is challenging. Last year we were on an all inclusive resort holiday and she met an older woman, 60s odd, called Mildred, and became firm friends with her. I never met Mildred, dh and Dd did, but Mildred and dd developed a lovely wee friendship. A few weeks after we got home Mildred sent dh an email saying dd was a joy, it was so obvious that dd had made the most positive impact and impression. So now, every time dd is particularly challenging, I look at the print out of that email and it reminds me of how wonderful she is. Mildred gave me such a blessing, i want to be more Mildred.

Oh gad FlamboyantPotato, that had me in tears. It reminds of when I was standing rooted to the spot, in the middle of a Tesco isle and felt an arm go around my shoulders and a kindly voice. It was a wonderful volunteer from the food bank that I used to go to, with my terminally ill husband and she had obviously took one look at my face and realised I was drowning. I had just lost my husband the week before and was trying to get essentials and a treat to spoil my little girl. It made sense when I left the house but, by this stage, I couldn’t even remember what ice cream she liked. Her kindness helped me out of my ‘panic’. I often think I was genuinely on the cusp of a fugue state. That moment of kindness pulled me right back.

I’ve often made a point of talking to people who look a bit down or lonely. It could a comment about the weather, or their scarf, dog, whatever. Sometimes they ignore me, but more often than not they smile and chat away. Im a chatterbox so I can always find a common interest with people. A little comment or kindness can simply cheer someone up or actually pull them back from the brink of despair.

i want to be more Mildred I love that! We should all be more Mildred.