Please make sure children are wearing appropriate clothing

[Damnthatdog]

No mini skirts or crop tops, yr 6 leavers party.

So not children, but girls. Please make sure girls aren’t wearing anything which could be deemed provocative. Which is how it reads to me.

AIBU or not?

You see the thing is that when Demi-Le'eh has been sent to the school party (in whatever for it takes) done up all sexy like mummy it becomes a barrier to her participating. Little girls striving to be old beyond their years and decorative is a barrier to participation in schools. It's got naff all to do with anyone fancying anyone's kid, stamping on her rights or being a rape apologist. It's about encouraging girls to participate and if she's comfortable and appropriately clothed for the activity then that's much easier. Honestly, you'd be horrified how much emphasis some parents of little girls place on their being like mini-mum. Nobody is telling the boys this, no teacher is having to cope with Danny being sent in dressed in Freddie Mercury hotpants and a string crop top. Primarily because everyone recognises that that's bonkers! I fail to see how campaigning for your pre-pubescent child's right to be dressed like a low rent pole dancer at a sporting activity is in any way progressive.

I think anyone pretending that an 11 year old boy wouldn't be thrilled to bits to get a view of an 11 year old girls knickers every time she bends over in her mini skirt to bowl is slightly out of sync with reality.

Crop tops on children are totally fine, however there are some 11 years olds who are slightly more developed and the crop top becomes less innocent. Rightly or wrongly, 11 year old boys are programmed to start noticing things like this.

And whilst I agree girls should be able to wear what they want, I also think they should not be flashing their knickers at their peers, at this age.

Miniskirt ban is hypocritical if the school also have tiny 'sport skirts' for the girls for hockey, etc. Never understood why they would be acceptable but a miniskirt was deemed inappropriate.

Totally acceptable to send out letter like this. Some parents do let their children wear whatever they want, inappropriate or not. The fact that the letter's needed speaks volumes. YABU.

Mini skirts aren't appropriate for bowling, for fairly obvious reasons.

tripyouout

A crop top is a short teeshirt. How is that sexual on a 10 year old?
Are you confusing cropped teeshirts with basques and fishnet stockings?

The reason their isn’t a similar comparison for boys is that men aren’t sexualised in the way women are, therefore adult male clothes generally aren’t inappropriate for young boys.

I would think the mini skirts and athletic knickers for sport should now be considered inappropriate as well. Having to wear those when I was at school certainly affected my participation in sport.

You see the thing is that when Demi-Le'eh has been sent to the school party...

Nice

YABU. It's nothing to do with being provocative: it's about appropriate clothing for bowling, which the aforementioned items are not.

I don't think that a crop top is inappropriate for bowling. TBH, I'm not sure that a mini skirt is either, I'm sure there are plenty of mini skirt styles that could be comfortably bowled in.

I read it exactly how the OP reads it and it is wrong IMO. Girls should be able to wear crop tops and short skirts if they wish, there's nothing offensive about them at all.

So if a girl wants to do a cartwheel at primary school should she not do it in case boys get the vapours ?

Athletic knickers are completely inappropriate as well - why should girls have to wear tiny shorts to do hockey, when boys can wear knee length ones?!
Oh, right. Because girls are there to be looked at, rather than participate 🙄

Oh dear, I did think this thread was an interesting antidote to the usual unanimous 'yanbu' response on topics like these, even though I'm not in agreement with the majority.
But it didn't take long to descend into classist unpleasantness. It's more of a sneery perspective than a feminist one. Shame.

Why would you put a 10 year old in a mini skirt and crop top anyway!!

Today at school I saw a year 5 girl in a summer dress so short that I could see her knickers while she was stood up. Unfortunately I think schools need to have these rules

TheFirstMrsDV

Please don't misrepresent what I said. I said that clothing can be sexual and shouldn't be on non-sexual people (children).

You obviously agree that some clothing can be sexual as you gave a short list.

I think that crop tops and bare midriffs are sexual.

Why are fishnet stockings inappropriate? It's only clothing and if on a child then what's the problem? You seem to have double standards.

Crop top fine - skirts I would say obviously restrict movement?! Strange.

Girls and women don't dress for boys and men. Simple as.

If you're going fucking rock climbing, fair enough, have a few suggested requirements for clothing on the school trip letter. An indoor, un-athletic fun game of bowling - it's not necessary and it smacks of girls being expected to accept and comply with regulation of their bodies.

"Why would you put a 10 year old in a mini skirt and crop top anyway!!"
I don't "put" my 11 year old in anything. She chooses. I hate crop tops and mini skirts. She doesn't.

Auntiebasil - well, someone bought them for her!
Bit like saying: I don’t ‘make’ my 11 year old smoke weed, I don’t like it but she does

You are comparing an illegal damaging substance to an item of clothing. Really?

Not really like saying that though is it.

That was to cucumber

@chewedupcucumber As I see it, your mum/dad/guardian should stop you from doing crimes and probably from taking recreational drugs. They should not, however, at any age, tell you what to wear or police what clothes you buy/wear unless you're going to get a sunburn/nettle sting/blister/it's Aunt Mary's funeral etc.