Please make sure children are wearing appropriate clothing

[Damnthatdog]

No mini skirts or crop tops, yr 6 leavers party.

So not children, but girls. Please make sure girls aren’t wearing anything which could be deemed provocative. Which is how it reads to me.

AIBU or not?

I think I would reply and ask them to expand on the point. It is weird that they have specified crop tops and minis as opposed to say, flip flops or earrings if it’s safety related. See what they say.

If they do indicate it’s about provocation then let them have it

They say 'children'. They're not telling just girls though. Your sewing something that's not written down.

I don't get the problem.

Noone's ever campaigning for small boys to go out in ball sack tight hot pants- are they?

Why can't kids be kids?

Women always told how to dress!

Eg don't wear short skirts to prevent rapes

I get that people don't like to make a fuss, but it's these kinds of little insinuations that lead to women still getting blamed for being assaulted when going out wearing a mini skirt and/or crop top.

They're reminding some parents that crop tops and mini skirts aren't appropriate for a bowling trip.
They don't want children turning up dressed for a disco.

*I don't get the problem.

Noone's ever campaigning for small boys to go out in ball sack tight hot pants- are they?

Why can't kids be kids?*

This^

Well flip flops wouldn’t be an issue for bowling would they given you change shoes when you arrive

But it says appropriate, not unprovocative.
Children who haven’t been bowling may be unaware of how much leaning over there is. Half the kids will have phones - photos of your dd’s killer shot that also displays her knickers on snapchat anyone?

1, I have a boy in that class not a girl so it doesn’t affect me either way

2, I don’t think belly tops/ crop tops are anything unusual for girls in the summer

3, I’m not sure a crop top does effect anyone’s ability to bowl but I’ll give you the mini skirt May

*I don't get the problem.

Noone's ever campaigning for small boys to go out in ball sack tight hot pants- are they?

Why can't kids be kids?*

I find your comment very contradictory @saucyjack... 'let kids be kids' by wearing clothing without being sexualised. You don't get that?

It doesn’t say anything about the clothing being provocative.
It asks for appropriate clothing for bowling which mini skirts and crop tops are not.

Would you go on a work bowling trip dressed in a crop top and miniskirt?

A skater style skirt which is usually also a mini would be great for bowling.

Hot pants arent mentioned, though might be a bit chilly.

Yanbu
There is nothing inappropriate about children wearing children's clothing, only the mind of people who think there is.

Personally i’d kick off.

That doesn’t make sense. A swimsuit is perfectly appropriate clothing for a child, but not when they are going round Tesco’s.

@Frequency
Why dont they make crop tops for boys?

Bottom line, the school is taking them somewhere. The school gets to decide what 'inappropriate' looks like. If you don't like if, take her bowling yourself and let her wear a mini skirt.

There are obviously quite a few parents at your school who have to be told what is and isn't appropriate garb for a Year 6 event.
Or the school wouldn't have thought to mention it...

If you go to the school ranting and raving about why can't the girls wear what they want you'll just look like an idiot. Especially as you don't even have a girl.

Half the kids will have phones - photos of your dd’s killer shot that also displays her knickers on snapchat anyone

If that's what they are worried about, I'd be even more pissed off. Why should girls police their behaviour to prevent others bad behaviour. If someone took a photo pf my daughter's arse and posted it on Snapchat it would not be my daughter I would be pissed off with.

Seriously, what is inappropriate about a prepubescent child's stomach? Actually what is inappropriate about any belly?

The miniskirts, I couldn't get too worked up because they do restrict movement and wouldn't be great for bowling but let's face it, that's not what the school mean when they say they are inappropriate. They mean any short skirt or revealing clothing because heaven forbid the boys lay eyes on female skin