To report DH for drink driving

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If you knew he was at that moment... would you call 999?

I did. and I'm the one to blame for his prosecution according to him his friends and family and have been blacklisted. unfortunately not the first time he's done it but the first time i've known about it during. his job, life.. my life, my children's lives all affected by this. WWYHD?

agree that one glass of wine won’t necessarily cause impairment

An extra glass of wine will definitely impair your reaction time.

That's why different countries have different alcohol limits. A slower reaction time in any case is dangerous, but some countries place different value on when it's so dangerous you should be prosecuted. It could kill you or someone else in every case.

But more importantly, some countries place the alcohol limit much below the perceived "dangerous" reaction time because then idiots who decide one glass over won't hurt won't do too much damage when they hit the road.

@switswoo81 I’ve actually just bawled my eyes out watching that. It really hits home

rose it’s not as clear cut as it will definitely impair reaction time. I won’t drive after a glass but I would not be impaired.

I won’t drive after a glass but I would not be impaired.

Yes you will. Inarguably.

Not by much. Barely noticeable, perhaps. But it's a fact.

This is actually why driving with any alcohol is a risk- because people don't realise they should be leaving bigger gaps between cars etc.

@gryffen it's not that simple i can't just stop him from seeing his children 😐 nor would it be fair on them. wish he didn't exist!!

Hang on a second. You reported your Ex Dh. He left you. And presumably things are very acrimonious? People might think you did it out of spite.

If it had been a posters Dh, in a living relationship, presumably wife would sit down and explain that they were very Concerned about DH is drinking and driving and this is not something they could condone.

And she could say: if it happens again she would have to phone the police.

But that's a totally different situation.

rose I know me. I know a small glass of wine will have zero impairment on my driving. But it's a moot point as it is illegal.

I don't think it matters whether it's an ex or not. You don't drink and drive. I have no grey areas when it comes to this. You know if you've been drinking (and you know if you've had a lot the night before and therefore need to take care the next day too).

Well done to the OP for reporting, I am not sure i would have been so brave.

Two local girls were killed in November 2016 by a drunk driver, they were members of a local athletics club and were out running at the time. Two teenage girls with their lives ahead of them. There is simply no excuse.

I’ll need to name change probably after this & be criticised but I’ve bought a home breathylyser as I wanted to ensure people leaving my home were safe to do so. I remove their car keys when they arrive & they can only have them back at the end of the evening if they are clear. Obviously If only a couple of friends I know how much they have had to drink. I’m talking larger groups.

What if they had intended to leave their car? Why assume they are going to drink drive?

How bizarre to breathalyse your pals!!

@PenelopeFlintstone there is NO excuse, no weather, no stopping off that justifies it. It's making a decision about driving whilst under the influence on behalf of everyone who chooses to be out and about..... and egotistical that your opinion trumps everyone else's.

My cousin was killed on Christmas Eve by his father who had partaken in a Christmas tipple with his family. He was not secured properly and hit his head on the dashboard. He didn't have a mark on him but he suffered catastrophic brain injuries. He was two.

You so did the right thing you were really brave well done. Drink driving is absolutely inexcusable!
It sounds hard because you can't cut him out of your children's lives, but I'd be really weary of them being around him and his family if they think drink driving is acceptable. What if he drove your children around drunk!

We need more people like you OP!

My loyalties to anyone ends when they break specific laws (drink driving being one of them).

My mum once reported a neighbour for animal cruelty (it was awful, she had some photos).

When I saw said neighbours teenage kids (I was the same age) they were all awful to me for my mum "being a grass". I genuinely couldn't see their point of view, she was being absolutely horrific to family pets. Never spoke to any of them again. No loss for me.

You can do better!

Honestly no I wouldn’t report dh. Without his car we lose income, we lose our house. Doesn’t mean I would be happy about it but I honestly couldn’t see me ringing the police on him.

There’s always one isn’t there PenelopeFlintstone
Like your username suggests, you’re prehistoric and out of touch. Your arrogance and “i’ll be the judge of that” attitude is shocking, given the context.

If I’m driving I don’t touch a drop. It is my personal view that there should be zero tolerance for drink driving in that no alcohol is permissible. One or two units csn affect us all differently even the same person given other prevailing factors and there are too many variables. This would not only make it much simpler it would stop idiots weighing up the pros and cons of doing something they know they shouldn’t be. If this was in place and you were caught a heavy fine as well as disqualification and prosecution

*Your not you’re

Who knows. Somewhere, tonight, a family might be planning what they'll do this weekend rather than planning their child's funeral after your ex hit them while drunk driving. Think about it. You have done the roght thing. You are well rid of anyone who thinks otherwise.

Chattymummyhere well, you'll lose it all anyway and far more in the event of a bad accident, won't you?

My brother is dead because of a drink driver. I know it's hard for you right now OP but thank you. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you.

@Oblomov18 I don't believe he was her ex at the time of reporting

How bizarre to breathalyse your pals!!

Whilst I've never done this, I did on one occasion take the car keys off a friend who was drunk.

OP, you did the right thing.

wiggly Yeah I would do that, no issue at all.

But what a weird way to treat your friends that come to your house. To assume you need to remove their keys to prevent them driving when they have done nothing to suggest they will drink drive.

My DM had a car crash at the age of 24 which involved a drink driver. He got away fine and she has been left with life changing injures and has struggled really badly ever since.

You did the right thing and his family are a disgrace letting him get away with that.

Absolutely you did the right thing OP. I would report someone I knew over the limit every time and did report my FIL a long long time ago.

Having said that though, I can also see that you reported him after he'd left you and can't see how you had no knowledge of him doing this before. I guess his family are pissed because it looks like a report out of spite if he's been doing this and you only reported him after he left you.

Not that it matters. It should always be reported and probably should have been way before this