To report DH for drink driving

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If you knew he was at that moment... would you call 999?

I did. and I'm the one to blame for his prosecution according to him his friends and family and have been blacklisted. unfortunately not the first time he's done it but the first time i've known about it during. his job, life.. my life, my children's lives all affected by this. WWYHD?

You do not deserve to suffer. Also, families who lose a parent/child/sibling because of drink driving do not to deserve to suffer. Those who chose to drive after drinking should suffer. But they frequently don’t.

Teach your DC about drink driving and the dangers. Hold your head up and don’t let anyone make you feel that you have the wrong thing.

An anonymous report may have been easier, but reporting him was the right thing.

@Wolfiefan for some reason although they are nice family but they have quietly accepted his behaviour for years. they will have seen him leaving family parties etc being drunk with intervention at all. in my family that would not be acceptable my parents would have come down on me like a ton of bricks.

Wow. I’m so impressed. The response would be the same around these parts... I’m not sure I’d have the strength of character to do what you did.

YANBU. He is a criminal who has shown utter disregard for the safety of others, and they've blacklisted you?

Talk about getting it arse-backwards. I would think the stock I put in their opinions of me, were I in your shoes, would be nil.

Of course you did the right thing, unfortunately now you have to deal with the fallout from idiots who don't think about the possible consequences of stupid actions.

Personal experience:

DMs husband (so my FIL) many years ago he was hit by a drunk driver, thrown nearly 100m along the road, died twice, has brain damage, major back damage, other bone problems etc. etc. etc. (The driver was back from the armed forces on leave and was speeding home to see his family, which he missed greatly. Fine, but he'd spent hours in the pub drinking before driving home drunk to go and see them, if he was that desperate to see his children he wouldn't have gone to the pub - that is a whole other thread!)

A friend (from school) who made our wedding cake. In her early 20s was on the back of her boyfriends motorbike and a drunk driver smashed into them, injuring him, killing her. A life changed and a talented life wasted.

If someone had reported these drunk drivers and the police had stopped them from driving, many lives would be different now. Not just the fact that someone wouldn't have died and others wouldn't have been injured, but many relatives and friends wouldn't have been affected by these accidents. If I knew someone was driving drunk I would not hesitate to report them.

You did the right thing, just remember it is not your fault he is being prosecuted, it is his, and only his, no matter what anyone else says. From someone who has been affected by drunk drivers , thank you for reporting him.

When I was five my grandmother was killed by a driver who was under the influence of drugs and alcohol. Her unexpected death (and the subsequent events) plunged my mother into a depression from which she never recovered. Drink driving robbed me of a childhood and the chance of having a loving/involved mother. Thank you for potentially saving someone else from the same fate. How dare anyone blacklist you for doing the right thing, shame on them.

I think you’ve been very brave actually, it can’t have been easy, you did the right thing.

Good on you OP! If more people acted with the guts and morals you've shown, there would be a lot more people alive today, and a lot fewer heartbroken families

thank you everyone for your perspectives I'm starting to question even whether the sky really is blue. where i come from what he did would be considered a disgrace but it seems I'm surrounded by people here for who blood is almost as thick as their skulls.

You have done he right thing. I was in a terrible accident because of a drunk driver when I was a kid. The women almost killed my entire family. I hate drunk drivers and if I found out my child was doing this I would go mental!

Forgot about what his family think, what will your children think in years to come? You have to set a standard behaviour for them to follow. You don't want your children behaving in that way. Their dad should know better.

Well done!!

It's a shame the police weren't thoughtful enough to keep your identity safe. But ignore the lot of them. Not worth it at all and you did absolutely the right thing.

what would happen if someone died and he had to go to prison. or he died.
I once called the police on a stranger that spent 10 mins dropping his keys and then finally got in and drove off. my housemate was aghast i dobbed someone in. could see them from my window.
meh. ask anyone who has a dead family member how they might feel

what he did was completely selfish, disgusting and dangerous. I have no time for drink drivers at all, I know a handful of people who have done it and make excuses like " it's a short drive " or " there's no cars on the road " etc it's disgusting.

You completely did the right thing, his family sound like morons.

Absolutely would have phoned them, how could I live with myself if something happened and I didn't?
You don't need his friends and family in your life, although it's easier said than done I realise. If he comes crawling back do not let him back into your life.

His family is weak or mad or bad.
Drink driving costs lives. It is NEVER OK.
You did the right thing.

YADNBU
Good on you.
You'd never have lived with yourself if he had killed someone.

I would have done the same. Drink driving is a total no no. I was nearly killed by one.

How difficult is it to get a taxi or walk....? Not. Difficult. I told PIL I will report them if they do it.. that went down well...

As another one who lost a close relative in a car accident caused by a woman who had been drinking and was ‘just nipping home on a quick 5 minute journey from a party’ I commend you for doing the right thing, it can’t have been easy.

Perhaps tomorrow he would have killed someone, you’ve prevented that. It’s entirely his fault he’s in trouble and it’s pretty disgusting of his relatives and friends to condemn you. I wonder if any of them have had the experience of being on the other end of someone's Self-centredness as I have and as have other posters here? I’m guessing not.

Good on you. The feeling if something bad happened and you hadn't intervened would possibly btworse than dealing with being sent to Coventry.

You did the right thing.
Having had a very close friend killed by a drunk driver, I feel strongly about this.
I am sorry that you are facing the consequences of his stupid actions.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=dtyOq5ATw18

I don’t know if you can see this link but you did an amazing brave thing and you should be proud of yourself.

I reported exh on a Sunday and filed for divorce on the Monday.
Didn't tell him for a fortnight though!!

I've reported my ex for drink driving.
I had no shame calling him in, it wasn't my fault he decided to get behind the wheel.

Well done. You absolutely did the right thing.

You did the right thing, you are very brave. No-one is to blame for him being caught by the police other than him himself. Shame so few problem drinkers realise that the problem lies with them. for you

Giving you a high five.
He’s a fuckwit.