Am I being ridiculously judgy?

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Firstly, full disclosure- I am a smoker and do not have “biological” children so have never been in this position myself.

However I have just been outside at work for a cigarette and noticed a heavily pregnant woman smoking. This made me feel a level of disgust so strong I was shocked at my own reaction!

Do other people feel like this or am I ridiculously judgy? And anyone who has smoked when pregnant, how have you justified this, whilst knowing the damage you could be causing to your child?

to do it blatantly and in public seems really odd, you'd think they'd feel ashamed and try to be discreet at the very least.

About 15 years ago I went to "real-life comedy" routine by a comic who'd had a baby recently. She said at the antenatal class the midwife asked "who smokes?" and although she felt embarrassed the comic put her hand up because she thought she thought she'd get some advice on how to give up or at least cut down. Hers was the only hand that went up and the midwife delivered a ten-minute lecture on the evils of smoking in pregnancy straight at her while all the other pregnant women gave her dirty looks. And that was all the help she got.

When the midwife left all the other women lit up.

And that's how helpful it is to make people feel ashamed and for them to be discreet.

I second this!!

Smoking is addictive and people are unable to put others needs before their selfish own.

Slightly contradictory there - is it an addiction or is it selfish people putting their own needs first?

Nicotine is as addictive as heroin. Those who haven't smoked or those able to give up easily simply do not understand. Women know the risks - do you honestly think that if they could quit, they wouldn’t bother?

I smoked in my 20's. Quit but occasionally still sneaked one. When i became pregnant, I stopped completely.

I had 3 miscarriages, never smoked during or after. Trust me, after that heartbreak, i wouldn't do anything to hurt or jeopardize my baby.

But in previous generations smoking was accepted.

What about docs saying even one drink can harm baby? I'm still scratching my head over that.

Amendment to my post; ds said that cigarettes today are very different from previous gens. So not useful to compare.

no one should smoke, pregnant or not, its a bad habit and gives you lung cancer, hey anyone remember Nick O Teen? omg he was great! bring back those ads