Kids using my bedroom to take selfies

[MrsDylanBlue]

Not long been “allowed” to follow DD on Instagram.

Have previously had words with the kids using my bedroom (or really messy/needing decorating) parts of the house to take selfies to post online (my room has mirrored wardrobes floor to ceiling).

Mortified to see she has posted photo of herself - in my bedroom - and behind her in the mirror is a pile of clothes/underwear I haven’t put away and Durex Lube on the bedside table. Her father (we are divorced and have NC) and his wife have liked it.

Joking aside I find this REALLY bloody intrusive having the inside of my BEDROOM plastered all over the bloody internet.

Do you pay for her mobile phone?

If so, stop until she agrees to never do it again and if she does then shock tactics will work (aka time to move out, she's an adult and respect is earned not given etc)

This thread is crazy.

You have a DD (and other DC?) who couldn't give a shit that you think your bedroom is private.

They go in there when you're not there to take selfies. You know this, because you see them plastered all over the Internet - along with your laundry and lube. They're not exactly covering their tracks, are they?

Telling your kids not to go into your room isn't working.

So put your lube away, then. 

I'm completely with @Pengggwn - either it's fine for lube to be on display, or it's not.

Given your kids don't care that your room is off limits, you need to find another solution to the issue of the now world famous lube.

the now world famous lube.

There is definitely a difference between ‘out’ and ‘on display’. On display would be a floating shelf with a pile of 3 books, a succulent, and the lube.

There's 'out', there's 'on display' and there's 'all over the internet'.

If your kids can't stay out of your room, then just put it away. It's not hard - most of us manage it without having to consult with strangers for advice.

I have lube on my bathroom sink. It's what I use as a hair styling product!

It’s an excellent flame retardant.

I have lube on my bathroom sink. It's what I use as a hair styling product

I have lube on my bathroom sink. It's what I use as a hair styling product!

Do you have curly hair? I have heard of using lube in curly hair, to fight the humidity. Do you use it in place of leave in conditioner or gel, or do you use them all together?

Also, I've never bought lube before; does the brand matter, or will any type do? (for your hair)

Aww let them use the mirror man and get over yourself. And I’m pissing at you leaving your lube out 😂😂 I know it’s your room but really 😂😂😂 this has made my day. Thanks for the laughs.

steff- yep. I use it with gel and mousse, a water based one with no silicone. Works like a serum

Thanks! I might take a stroll down the personal care aisle the next time I'm shopping.

Do you have any control over your kids?

I think a lock is the answer

My kids do their make up in my room because “the light is better” drives me insane.

My teen once posted a selfie in the bathroom mirror that really needed cleaning. I made him take it down and then cleaned the mirror.

I would not allow them to go in my room and take a selfie. I don't want my bedroom on Instagram so they simply aren't allowed to do it.

If my teens come into my room and happen to see a bottle of lube that is their lookout. They shouldn't be in there.

I have lube on my bathroom sink. It's what I use as a hair styling product!
I'm learning so many uses for lube

Fit a lock inside and outside your bedroom door.

Yes of course some kids do things they should not when parents ain't looking. However we are not talking about a. Child. We're talking about an 18yr old young lady who should be respecting her mother's rules and privacy. At 18 I'm sure she values her privacy too.
In the same breathe I do think putting sexual aids, toys whatever dose not need to be on top of the bedside cabinet but rather inside it. My reasons for that is I don't think that your sexual habbits or when you do get up to naughty should be information avaliable to your child. However a lock on your bedroom door may very well be a good idea. I have a lock on mines so when I don't feel like putting away things. It's my dirty secret only. Not mine and the kids or adult children

Do you have any control over your kids

No, no I don’t. They are all running amock taking selfies across the whole town 🙄

I don’t think the fact I have sex is a “dirty secret”.

We are pretty open in our family TBF - I used to have access to condoms etc where I used to work and I used to give them to DS1.

No one is walking around naked or having sex so everyone else can hear - I left some lube by my bed, in my bedroom, which I have asked the kids not to go into.

Did you have a fish slice out with the lube?

But which they do go into.

And take selfies in. And post on the Internet. So round in circles we go.

Put the lube away, if you can't stop them going into your room, and you don't want people seeing it.

Still not getting why this is so hard.

It’s not hard - I was venting my frustration. I know how to parent my (adult) children.

If I have rushed to work in the morning and not had time to clean and tidy the entire house beforehand that morning on the off chance someone is taking selfies in my room when they have been asked to and I expect them to respect that as they usually do respect rules and posting them on an Instagram account I couldn’t see the lube might be left out mighten it?