Kids using my bedroom to take selfies

[MrsDylanBlue]

Not long been “allowed” to follow DD on Instagram.

Have previously had words with the kids using my bedroom (or really messy/needing decorating) parts of the house to take selfies to post online (my room has mirrored wardrobes floor to ceiling).

Mortified to see she has posted photo of herself - in my bedroom - and behind her in the mirror is a pile of clothes/underwear I haven’t put away and Durex Lube on the bedside table. Her father (we are divorced and have NC) and his wife have liked it.

Joking aside I find this REALLY bloody intrusive having the inside of my BEDROOM plastered all over the bloody internet.

I won’t put things away no - what’s should I it’s my room, if they go in there and see something they don’t like that’s tough luck I’m afraid.

18 or 28 they're still your kids.
Stop being their friend and parent them.

*parent...not patent

ElderflowerWaterIsDelish

She is nearly 19.

@Elderflower
Her child is 18 not 12. Why would she give her mother her password

1. put lube away
2. Tell her not to go on there aagin.

oh and why would you have lube out where your kids can see?

Turn the WiFi off when you go out.

You are "not allowed" to follow her?..you are the parent, it's up to you whether she has an Instagram account at all

Er, not when the "child" is 18.

@MrsDylanBlue
Yes, that's true. But you know now DD did this when you were out, no Cera phones in your bedroom, simples(!) , so YANBU to lay down the law so that it never happens again! Total sympathy here -grrrr!

Turn the Wi-Fi off
Because 18 year olds don't know how to turn a plug back on.
Or have the internet on their phones

Comment on her photo saying something like ‘oh darling, you could have moved mummy’s lube’. Embarrassing her into not using your room but possibly blocking you on instagram and in life
I think the posters with their knickers in a twist haven’t realised that this is a grown up living in your home.

The problem really isn't about her taking selfies there though is it, it's about the mess. Just keep it tidy all the time and you won't mind!

I'd go the embarrassment route. Her room a tip? There's certainly times I could easily embarrass my 17 yo dd with the state of her room!!

She'd also get an absolute bollocking!

But then to be perfectly honest she already knows my room is out of bounds without my express permission and DEFINITELY no friends in there. She's known that since primary age.

Kinda difficult with an 18 yo as its a bit horse has bolted really.

I'd be attaching a bloody great padlock!!

Buy them their own mirror if you're so concerned

They have their own mirror - mine is just better.

Seriously?
It's YOUR room and your house.
If you say so they should stay out.
Or move out.
How can a mirror be "better"?
And how often do they need to examine their appearance?!

Stop being their friend and parent them.

You don’t parent an adult. 🙄

Why the duck wouldn’t you put your lube in the drawer, instagram or not? Who wants their kids to see that?

I’d get a lock fitted to my bedroom door. (I already have one though)

I have a bolt on the inside

For all the handwritten, It's lube not hardcore BDSM equipment. Tell them again no photos and get a lock for the door. They don't respect your privacy they don't get to use your 'better' mirror.

I posted a photo of DS1 dirty bedroom and tagged him a few years ago - he practically deleted me from his life

• hand wringers

Or ask her questions on Instagram about her vaginal dryness, with a screenshot of the selfie 😂