Kids using my bedroom to take selfies

[MrsDylanBlue]

Not long been “allowed” to follow DD on Instagram.

Have previously had words with the kids using my bedroom (or really messy/needing decorating) parts of the house to take selfies to post online (my room has mirrored wardrobes floor to ceiling).

Mortified to see she has posted photo of herself - in my bedroom - and behind her in the mirror is a pile of clothes/underwear I haven’t put away and Durex Lube on the bedside table. Her father (we are divorced and have NC) and his wife have liked it.

Joking aside I find this REALLY bloody intrusive having the inside of my BEDROOM plastered all over the bloody internet.

Not much you can do now!

Am I in a parallel universe?

It's not about the lube.
It's about invasion of privacy when OP has asked an adult not to go in her room.

Maybe u was an angel but if my Mum didn't want me in her room I'd never have done it even when younger.

I'd get a lock for the outside OP.

You lot are bonkers and not in the Dizee Rascal way.

I would like it removed.

The thought of my ex and his wife having a laugh about it and seeing my bedroom has pissed me off.

But you can’t change that now. Why are they allowed to follow her and you aren’t?

I have no idea. For all I know they were given “permission” at the same time as me - I also care about what she gets up to and would be issuing consequences whereas her father reigned responsibility years ago.

Bit late now isn't it! Lesson learned don't be a messy fucker and leave ya lube out! At least your ex knows you are getting some now though so at least some good has come out of it.

What do you mean “consequences “?

thats awful. delete it now

At least your ex knows you are getting some now though so at least some good has come out of it

I doubt he cares - and I am married to someone else so one would assume....

As in I was the only parent that did any actual parenting and put boundaries, rewards and consequences in place.

If it was that long ago it’ll be forgotten about soon.
Or just ask her to delete it. She might be an adult but you are still her parent.

If they won't listen perhaps put a lock on the door or perhaps remove their bedroom doors so they understand what it feels like to lose privacy and boundaries

tell her to delete it now.

Tell her your bedroom is absolutely off limits for other teens and selfies from now on.

She is showing a fair bit of disrespect for you tbh - bringing people into your bedroom, posting photos, not letting you follow her. Can't say I'd be happy with this.

Gross. I left home about 20 years ago but would still think it was pretty rank if my mum had a bottle of durex lube on her bedside table.

I won’t put things away no - what’s should I it’s my room, if they go in there and see something they don’t like that’s tough luck I’m afraid.

Limited sympathy. Yes, she shouldn't have gone in your room.
No, you shouldn't have to put your lube away. But you lived in a house with young people you knew didn't respect your boundaries and took photos in your bedroom. What did you think was going to happen?

Elderflower have you seen how old the OP's children are? I don't think it's up to her whether they have an Instagram account at all.

No selfies in your room, and no lube left out however old your kids are. Ugh.

I left home about 20 years ago but would still think it was pretty rank if my mum had a bottle of durex lube on her bedside table.

Then you need to grow up.

TheStoic

I think it's rank, too. I don't think it's rank that she uses it but she seems almost revelling in displaying it. Grim.

I put sanitary products in the bathroom cupboard. What's wrong with sex toys and paraphernalia going in a drawer?

Obviously it's her room and she can do what she likes, but when she knows people do in fact go in there, she should maybe take that into account?

Who has she taken in my room

And am now really confused re the comparison with sanitary products and lube.

Why the hell would you “hide” away tamping etc?

*tampons

I don't 'hide' them. I just don't have them on display in the bathroom because they are an intimate care product and I prefer them in a cupboard.

Ramp that up a couple of times for a product I apply to my vagina before I insert my dildo - I just don't display those things.

I don’t display them.

They are in my bedroom - my private space in the house.

Which you know isn't private at all

I'm assuming the lube is on OP's bedside cabinet because it's handy, or because that was where she left it, rather than being "on display"? Not that it matters anyway.
I thought I was quite prudish, but I really can't see how leaving a bottle of lube on a side in your own room could be an issue?
OP's DC are adults, her room is off limits and it's not even like it's a vibrator or anything.