To get so hurt over Facebook.

[doesmyheadin]

I honestly think I need to delete it as I take it far too personally.
But I HATE people removing me as a friend.
I’ve got anxiety and I’m a massive over thinker anyway and it really affects my mental health.
Latest one is that I work in a shop with 3 other women. A regular comes in and adds all 3 of us. 2 weeks later he just deletes me and stays friends with the other 2.
I don’t post that often, although I’ve got a big family and get tagged in photos a few times a week at bbqs or weddings, parties, soft play with the kids etc.
I occasionally post a photo of the kids in their party outfits if they look especially cute.
Now I’m overthinking if I’ve done people’s heads in so they’ve had to delete me.
I’m dreading seeing him at work now.
I must really annoy him for him to purposely go onto my profile and hit delete?
The other 2 people he’s kept as friends post every couple of weeks themselves and don’t get tagged in photos. Maybe he found them less annoying than me?

Typo, meant there’s 3 of us working in the shop in total. Myself and 2 others.

If you feel like this, delete Facebook. Not worth ruining your mental health I've r

Mental health over *

Do other people not give it a second thought when they get deleted?
I’m such a people pleaser and hate the thought of people deleting me because they can’t stand to see me on social media. I don’t get it.

Delete FB , it's not real life and certainly not worth making yourself anxious about. Some people aren't interested in seeing other people's children, it's no reflection on you as a person at all .

If it's any consolation I delete people regularly and it's almost never because they have annoyed me. It's usually just because I've realised there's no reason for us to be Facebook friends and so I delete. I would try not to take it personally.

You really need to delete Facebook. Someone, who isn’t even a friend of yours, just someone you know, may potentially find you irritating (or not). It’s not a big deal. Forget about it and move on.

I feel like I need to keep it as it’s linked to quite a lot of mine and my kids social groups and I don’t want to miss anything as they post on their quite often.
I just hate how it makes me feel.

Do other people not give it a second thought when they get deleted?

I generally wouldn’t notice. I don’t know exactly how many friends I have on there and only use it to scroll through and see what people are up to. If I did notice I wouldn’t give it a second thought (unless it was my DH or something!)

I was much more into Facebook several years ago, now I post occasionally & don't even notice when people delete me

Friends have said how nice it was when the deactivated or just didn't bother looking at their page for a few months.

If you find it's upsetting you to the that extent, it might be worth stepping away from it for a while

No idea if I get deleted nor do I care. keep posting about animal cruelty so I'm sure it gets a bit much! If an actual friend deleted me that might be different but randoms not so much.

He is probably using fb to.see if any of you are single and seeing you had a child thought not
But yeah if it is causing you so much stress you should just delete it

Just keep it to family and not people you aren't close to .

How did you notice he’d deleted you?

DELETE IT

Honestly MN is the only social media I do now

Fuck it . Please delete and stay off for a while

You sound like me Op, i get into a right state when i get deleted, or when certain people don't like my photos. Ridiculous i know, i should deactivate facebook but it's so handy for staying in touch. The thing is, i never delete anyone, i wouldn't want to hurt their feelings.

Just use for those groups then and don’t look at anything else.
I really don’t understand getting upset about stuff like that tbh.

I've never had anyone close unfriend me, but it has been people I do see IRL afterwards. My attitude has been 'OK, what I post presumably doesn't interest them, and not being interested in that doesn't mean they don't like me'

I have muted posts from people I do see and like but where for whatever reason I don't find their posts interesting, and I go for that option over unfriending as they probably won't realise see that.

Basically I don't see FB as a representation of real life but I appreciate how easily it can see that way and make people anxious and unhappy.

I did wonder if he added it to see if I was single.
The other 2 women are single with no kids. And he was pretty flirty before he added me. I’m wondering if it’s seeing photos of me and my husband and kids has made him delete me.
For some reason if that was why then I wouldn’t be bothered, but if he deleted me coz I’m annoying then I would be upset! Can’t exactly ask him tho. I shouldn’t even be giving this any head space should I?

The way i know when i'm deleted is when i don't see someone's posts for ages, then i get suspicious, then i check. So sad aren't I.

I deleted the app.

I got my life back.

I have no idea when people delete me but if I’ve ever noticed it’s never bothered me. He probably found his news feed was suddenly filled with people he didn’t know (your family) and didn’t know about the ‘unfollow’ function.

I don’t think that’s offensive, why would he want to see pics of your family?

Just delete it if you can’t handle stuff like being deleted without it really affecting and upsetting you.

I don’t really mind when I get deleted, I also delete people regularly if for example it’s someone I should never have added (just an acquaintance) or an ex colleague from years ago I’ll never really be friends with. When I notice I’ve been deleted I just presume the person is having a friends list spring clean too, getting rid of people they no longer really speak to or aren’t close with. It’s probably nothing personal, and even if it is so what? You’ll never know the reason and it’s not your problem!

For all you know this regular has more of a bond with the other two colleagues as he’s spoken with them a lot on your days off or something and only tried to add all three of you to be polite but then regretted it as lots of people like to keep their friends list pretty tight. Or perhaps a jealous partner of his saw your profile and got mad for whatever reason as they think you’re attractive. Could literally be any old nonsense, just forget about it and when he comes in again treat him the same as you would have done before this.

Do other people not give it a second thought when they get deleted?

Yes I don’t give it a second thought. I don’t know how many “friends” I have and if I’ve been added or deleted by who when.....

@greenvalleys thank god I’m not the only one.
I hate being deleted, even my acquaintances. I feel like it’s because they don’t like me.
Facebook now tells you how many friends you have on your profile. For ages they hid this number and I much preferred it.
It’s more the case that this bloke has got like 800 Facebook friends and has purposely gone on and deleted me but kept the other 799! I’m offended.