To ask the bride if I’m invited to her wedding?

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I know this would sound entitled as the only wedding I have to be obviously is mine but my work colleague is getting married. We are a team of 4 people and we are quite close at work, we chat, etc and I drop her off on Fridays as well when she’s going to her parents as it’s not just on my way ( she does not drive and stays with her fiancé the other days). We’ve literally talked about it this wedding since she got engaged last year. I even once followed her to the wedding venue. We go for lunch together, meal out, etc like I thought we were close.
Basically, 2 weeks ago, she gave the other 2 people in the team an invitation card to the wedding, I was there but she didn’t give me one. I still dropped her off last Friday as well and we have had lunch together almost every day this and last week and still no invitation card for me.
The other ladies have been checking for dresses online that they’ll wear but I can’t really.
Could I ask if I’m invited to the wedding or can I be invited and not have a card? I know you ladies will be honest and that’s why I’m asking as i’ll be dropping her off today and I’m sure we’ll talk about the wedding. Am I just been silly?

You dont need to ask her OP, you know the answer.
Right what you need to do is stop doing this woman any favours at all because she is a user. So stop the lifts right now.
Thats really bad, if she didnt feel close to you then she could have at least invited you to the evening do. What a nasty person she must be.

She’s been using you as she knows the lifts are coming to an end when you move house. She doesn’t consider you a friend sadly

She's just not that into you.

You should ask her BEFORE you take her home! People can be so brazen! I'm glad you're asking her, fingers crossed!

I think it's a misunderstanding.

I'd trawl the internet and see what major events, gigs, etc are happening on the same day as the wedding and bounce into work on Monday and tell everyone about this wonderful invite, competition win or whatever to this fantastic event.

Example: OMG I only won a competition to go and see Guns n' Roses in (wherever) with VIP hospitality and back stage passes to meet the band. She either says 'But that's my wedding' and you tell her that obviously you will choose her (what a great person you are!) or, if you're not invited they all spend her wedding being ever so slightly jealous....

I hope so (a misunderstanding, that is)

I really hope this is just a misunderstanding as she is a pretty shitty person if not!

I'm hoping it's just a misunderstanding and she's got your invite at home OP x

Any update?

She's cheeky, and a bit odd if you ask me! No more lifts op!

Never assume anything. If you want to know why you haven’t been given an invitation, ask. Then come back and tell the rest of us 😜

Grief bacon- no update yet. My kids arent eating before update.. hope op update soon...

OP probably has planned how's she's asking but I would just say 'I've told X to send me a picture of you in the dress soon as she sees you in it on the day, it sounds gorg from what you told me about it!'
Or
'By the way who's covering the work if we're all off that day?' If she looks horrified and asks why you're not in just say you have plans and booked it ages ago. And no more. And no more lifts!

'By the way who's covering the work if we're all off that day?' If she looks horrified and asks why you're not in just say you have plans and booked it ages ago. And no more. And no more lifts!

Ooh, that's brilliant. You need to watch her face while you say it though.

I think if you were invited then she would have explained at the time while giving the other invites out - “oh sorry I must have left yours at home” type thing :(

OP, I hope you're OK

Just think how much money you'll save if she doesn't invite you

I think it sounds like a misunderstanding, but sometimes people bamboozle me.

I'd stop dropping her off places ... only member of a 4 person team not invited ... just not on.

Amy update op?

I'm wondering whether there's a difference in any way between the OP and the other three in the office, in terms of age, partners etc. Not that that should make a difference, of course.

Confused by use of the word ‘misunderstanding’ here: do people mean ‘oversight’? Or that the OP misunderstood the degree to which she and the bride are friends? Given that she handed the other two invitations in front of OP, I’d say oversight is really, really unlikely. And even if she’s misunderstood the nature of her friendship with the bride (again; unlikely given that the other two have expressed surprise that they’re invited and OP isn’t) it’s still a bit bloody crass to hand out invitations to two thirds of a three-man team, with the third person present. I mean, Julia Roberts invited Daryl Hannah to her wedding reception in ‘Steel Magnolias’ and they’d only met that day 😂 I don’t think there’s a scenario in which the bride emerges well.

Surely it must be a mistake somewhere along the line, nobody could be that rude?

shameless place marking..