To not allow my 11 yo DD to stay at Mixed sleepover

[GreenJanine]

Year 6, best friend, but boys and girls invited they are only 11 and all sleeping in a tent overnight.

Others are allowed but AIBU?

What do you think might happen?

What do you imagine is going to happen?

Hanky Panky I guess

I went to one at that age, was a huge scout tent. Was a bloody brilliant night.

Yanbu. I wouldn't either. No way.

Haha Mimimoos

Well probably one of them will smuggle in alcohol from home and there might be some snogging. Probably not more than that or even thst.

For me it would depend on your dds personality, the other kids going and the parents of the sleepover.

I have had 6 now grown up so seen it all.

I really really doubt a group of 11 year olds are going to have an orgy!!

Personally I would allow it in a large mixed group if they are all reasonably sensible children.

Unless all social media eg phones are banned I would also be saying no to this

11 year old boys are not the devil you know.

meant to add, if they were 14 and upwards then it would be a different story I expect, but at 11 they are still pretty innocent kids usually..

I would expect it to be in a parents garden though with an adult nearby just in case of any emergencies.

YANBU.

The youngest mother in Britain was pregnant at 11.

Sorry, but at 11! My 11 year old DS barely talks to girls and makes retching sounds when someone kisses in a film. He really wouldn't have a clue when it comes to 'hanky panky'!

I never get the comments what do you think will happen bizarre.

Clearly the ‘what wills’are huge from them all eating pizza and pop to a bit of cider and a snog to alcoholic poisoning and sex.

All of those can happen at 11 you know

No don't allow it

No sorry, I would not be happy about this at all. Judging from the previous posts, think I’m in the minority though!

I would let her go. Large mixed group in one tent, they’ll eat a load of sweets, tell ghost stories and get no sleep. Brilliant fun.

Unless your Mum is a fun sponge.

The one who was raped by her 16 year old brother mirrorwriting?

A large mixed group of primary school children wouldn’t overly bother me. They’re not going to have an orgy!

Issues with phones etc are just as likely at a single sex sleepover

I don't think I'd worry at 11! A couple of years later then yes!

Although young kids are being exposed to more and more porn so perhaps you should be concerned.

I never get the comments what do you think will happen bizarre.

Why? the OP did not say what her concerns were. It s not possible to say if she IBU unless you know what she think will happen.

It's her best friend, so you must know the parents and children. Likely to be a wholly unsupervised, drunken orgy? Or will it actually be fine?

My gut says no and I’m a very liberal parent.

YABU