DHs eating

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DH has 3 diners everyday. The first will be a proper meal, say spaghetti bolognese, he will also polish off the children's meals if there's any leftovers - often before they've even said they're finished. Second meal will be some kind of sandwich, so tonight it was turkey and avocado, other times it might be peanut butter and banana. He will then finish with a massive bowl of cereal.

Full disclosure, he does walk 6 miles a day. However, he always has a hearty canteen lunch (massive portions). I know this because he frequently instagrams his work meals. He also tells are children about them when he get home and they often involve puddings like profiteroles or crumble.

He's a perfectly healthy size. But aibu to think this is unusual behaviour. He's just had a go at me because I raised my eyebrows when he was pouring out his massive bowl of Cheerios.

I read it as that he’s having three meals in the evening, eating some of the kids’ dinner on top of a big two course lunch.

I think height makes a huge difference to how much you can eat! Which totally sucks when you're 5 foot 4 like me.

If he's a healthy size then he's eating the right amount for him.

Seems a bit unpleasant and gluttonous though

What a nasty thing to say.

What a nasty thing to say.

Well, it is unpleasant and gluttonous to start pinching food from someone's plate before they're even finished.

He should not be taking food off his kids' plates before they are done. Completely not on and that needs to stop.

But some people can eat a lot and not gain weight.

Such is life.

Just to clarify, this wasn't an attempt to slay dp for his food intake. I don't want him to change if he's healthy etc, which I think he is overall.

I just can't believe it's possible to eat that much. Evidently it is possible, seeing as that's what DH does everyday, but it never fails to astound me.

He himself has admitted that he has a greedy streak.

He shouldn't be taking food off his kids when they haven't said they are finished. That's really not on.

Is there something else going on here? It sounds as though he annoys you intensely.

a sandwich is just that. Not a "meal" as some are calling it...

If a sandwich is not a meal, why do so many people eat them for lunch?

Crikey, how have you extrapolated that he annoys me? Sorry I didn't footnote my original post with *btw DH and I are extremely happy together and love each other intensely.

He's eating 3 meals a day and not gaining weight? Sounds completely normal

He’s not eating 3 meals a day, the spaghetti bolognase, finishing kids meals and then a sandwich and then a bowl of cereal is in the evening, AFTER he had his breakfast in the morning and his lunch at work (and no doubt snacks in between too).

It way, way too much.

OP did your DH possibly go without/not have enough as a child? He sounds obessessed by food and almost like it consumes his every waking minute, the taking pictures of his lunch at work to show you and the hovering around his children to finish theirs, and the fact he has admitted he has a greedy streak is not normal.

Does he go Grocery shopping? What’s he like in the supermarket?

Get some worming tablets for him OP.

Such polarising views on MN over this sort of thing. Some still reflect in bewilderment over the time in 1994 when they devoured a whole boiled egg whilst for others a casserole-dish sized lasagne followed by an entire baguette packed with cheese and bacon is merely just getting started.

I'd be pretty sharp with him about finishing the kids dinners. I'd hate to have had a father hovering over my food like that. I'd also be a bit bored if someone was sending me photos of his lunch - like who really cares?

Otherwise, lucky him. Some people have that kind of metabolism.

I was friends with a girl in school (still am friends with her - she is the same weight now years later) whose entire family looked like greyhounds but ate like horses. Her mother had a pillowcase full of chocolate bars and biscuits for them. I remember being on the phone with her one evening and I said that I was hungry and was going to get a cup of soup for a snack before bed. She said she was hungry too so her mother was frying her up a steak as a snack before bed!

It is a huge amount of food, but if he's not overweight, it's the right amount, but he could just have a bigger dinner. And he mustn't steal your DC's food, or they'll be hungry every night. Please tell him to stop.

I think food issues have taken over from MIL and parking on MN.

Some still reflect in bewilderment over the time in 1994 when they devoured a whole boiled egg

😂😂😂

Yeah, the main issue is him taking food from his DC. That has to stop, as of today. He's an adult, he can control himself to the extent of leaving other people's plates alone.
Also, if there is a budget issue, then it would be worth a rethink of what he eats (there have been previous threads about greedy men who insist on expensive food and eat so much of it that other family members are underfed) so that he doesn't feel hungry, but doesn't get so much of the food budget spent on catering to his preferences (eg lots of meat and sweets that only he gets to eat) that others go without.

I don't think it is the OP's husband who is obsessed with food. Same old posters too. Get some help!

OP... my husband is a chocolate fiend, sweetie fiend, anything 'bad' and he adores it. He walks a lot, is fit and healthy and has teeth like a wolf. I can't keep up with his eating and I don't try (thankfully!).

It's not really possible to talk about food on this board. Ever. In any quantity. Any sort of food. Even a sniff of it. Nada.

Vladmirs, that made me laugh... just 'limbering up'. My brother would say that, skinny little wretch he is.

What’s his BMI?

I overeat but because of exercise usually keep my BMI just under 25, but would probably be healthier at 23 or something!

What Lying said. The only unreasonable thing is his poaching food off other people's plates, that's shitty behaviour. I would put a stop to that immediately.