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AIBU to return the massive stash of porn I just found in the house I just bought?

173 replies

travellinglighter · 29/05/2018 21:11

Just moved into a house, it has been a feat of endurance not made easier by the extremely uncooperative seller. The family wanted to exchange early, set a date to move that was extremely inconvenient. We made arrangements to move on that day, called in favours and spent money to move on that day and then they changed it to a day four days later that was even more inconvenient. They knew we were desperate to move and took advantage.

So we moved in today and when we were going round the house we found a huge stash of frankly filthy porn in the fitted wardrobe of the bedroom that was occupied by the 12 year old son.

I have just had a text off the estate agent saying that the seller has left a le creuset pot in the oven and could we leave it with a neighbour for them to collect. AIBU to put the le creuset pot in a box surrounded by the porn videos and leave it at the neighbors?

OP posts:
SM2132 · 01/06/2018 07:03

Just bin it. Is finding some old porn so exciting that you have to post a thread on mumsnet about it and say you are going to get your solicitor to send a letter about it? It's only porn. If I was him/his wife and you sent it back, I would think you were a bit weird!

SporadicSpartacus · 01/06/2018 07:26

I like the itemised list idea. When buying and selling property, it’s important to be absolutely clear what is/isn’t included.

Aridane · 01/06/2018 07:49

So the vendors changed the completion date and didn’t clean the house properly before leaving?

VladPutin · 01/06/2018 07:53

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MaggieFS · 01/06/2018 07:53

Love the solicitor idea, but in reality, I'd chuck it in a box on top of the le creuset leave the top open and hand it over.

ShirleyPhallus · 01/06/2018 07:55

VladPutin

I’m sure the OP who disappeared several pages ago will ensure to scroll through to read your lovely words.

Dancingtothebeat · 01/06/2018 09:10

And watching porn is pretty shameful in itself

Yeah, let’s set up MN and the OP as moral arbiters for everybody. Maybe we can brand some red As or get a ducking stool?

Honestly, this thread just embodies everything wrong with the modern world. Petty, vindictive, nasty vengefulness and positive gleeful enjoyment of cruel, spiteful acts.

Really unedifying.

Bettyfood · 01/06/2018 09:19

Cruel? Boxing up their property to give to a neighbour to pass on to them? It's hardly killing kittens, is it?

Dancingtothebeat · 01/06/2018 09:41

The OP didn’t say anything about boxing it up. In fact she gave the distinct impression she wanted the neighbours to know exactly what it was.

The neighbours have done nothing wrong either, they don’t deserve to be dragged into a vindictive act towards the other couple.

starfishmummy · 01/06/2018 10:03

I'd just bin it and the casserole as well unless younwant to keep it. Im not a.lawyer but afaik anything left in the house became your property.

SinkGirl · 01/06/2018 10:51

Return just the porn, not the Le Creuset.

If they dare to question it, say “oh I must have misread it - I was sure you said you wanted to pick up the porn, which made sense given the huge amount I found. Porn and Pot do like alike, don’t they? Really must get my eyes checked”

travellinglighter · 01/06/2018 14:36

Busy unpacking, some people take this thread way too seriously.

So the longer I’m in the house, the less I like the seller, dirty house, lack of maintenance, blown double glazing units and when asked questions, the seller isn’t afraid to lie. The ensuite shower doesn’t work but apparently it did on the day they left. Hasn’t worked in months.

Don’t really care about the porn and don’t want to offend the neighbours but given the seller has acted like a wanker, I’m giving him his material back. I’m not giving the pot to the neighbour, I’m going to insist they collect the pot and there other items.

OP posts:
Purringkittenmama · 01/06/2018 14:59

Just move on OP.
House buying/selling is stressful, and even though you feel less than charitable towards these people, is it really necessary to cause anyone grief for no reason?
If I did what you are suggesting I would feel really bad about it on reflection, and as others have said, your relationship with your new neighbours will suffer...

travellinglighter · 01/06/2018 15:32

I refer you to my comment about taking this thread too seriously.

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Bettyfood · 01/06/2018 18:17

The OP didn’t say anything about boxing it up

AIBU to put the le creuset pot in a box surrounded by the porn videos and leave it at the neighbors?

QuackPorridgeBacon · 02/06/2018 12:34

Did you not look at the house before buying? I’ve never bought a house before and don’t think I’ll ever be able to, but don’t you have a good look before purchasing? You can’t really complain about the state of it if you’ve seen it and still decided you wanted it.

VanillaSugar · 02/06/2018 13:06

You can’t really rummage around the back of someone’s wardrobe when you’re viewing a house.

Also, the solicitors state in their completion letter that the house must be left clean, tidy and free from rubbish. Some sellers (like myself) bust a gut to leave the place immaculate. Other sellers - yes, you know who you are bloody Look At Me in The Local Lifestyle Magazine by I’ll Leave The Place Looking Like A Traveller Site - don’t even clear out their children’s manky toys from the garden, let alone the shitty bog brushes Angry

QuackPorridgeBacon · 02/06/2018 18:28

VanillaSugar Forgot it was at the back of a wardrobe.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 02/06/2018 18:32

Just stuff a load of the porno mags into the pot and leave a note saying you have made “cock au vin” for them.

lasttimeround · 02/06/2018 18:46

Really? yawn. Moving house is busy and stressful. Fine they havent been accommodating, but why the need to get all meow over the porn stash

Bubbles121 · 02/06/2018 18:58

Do it OP! When I last moved I scrubbed the house clean and left loo rolls and light bulbs in every room along with a note of useful info. I moved into a house that had looked clean enough at viewings but turned out to be a tip with no maintenance carried out on anything that wasn't clearly visible. Even the toilet didn't flush properly! If the vendors had no shame in the state of their house, then I can't see any issue with giving them their porn back Grin

Honeyroar · 02/06/2018 19:35

I wish I had a £1 for every person I've heard grumble about the person they've bought the house off and the tricks they pulled/mess they left. I've done it myself too.

Box up the videos, pop the pan on top and give it the neighbour. Laugh about it with your friends, but I wouldn't get an estate agent or solicitor involved.

Gacapa · 02/06/2018 19:35

Whatever you decide, OP, I really don't think it's fair or decent to hand porn over to the neighbours. This has nothing to do with them and they should not have to be party to it.

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