To think I'm not a tart and tell him to fuck off?

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I see a Chiropractor and a Physiotherapist weekly for a painful skeletomuscular condition and have done for years. This is necessary to maintain mobility in my spine and reduce pain. I've been with DP for 8 months and he has known about my condition since we met.

Last week he came with me to the appointment for the first time. I didn't consider it a big deal, there is no reason he has never come with me, I just usually go when he is at work but he is off this time and came along.

He has absolutely flipped his shit, calling me a tart, naive and all sorts and referred to the clinic as a fucking perverts paradise.

The reason for this little tantrum? They are all men. And it never occured to his tiny brain that in order to have spinal adjustments, I would have to take my top off.

Apparently I'm having an affair with them. All 3 of them, possibly at once, he wasn't clear on this bit and the massage therapist undoing my bra constitutes sexual contact which is cheating.

For clarity, the (very professional) massage therapist has me remove my top and then lay face down before unfastening my bra and leaving it open so it still covers my breasts. Afterwards he wipes the oil away and does it back up before I get up. At no point does he cop an eyeful.

I'm clearly having an emotional affair with the Physio because we were talking about films that had made us cry while he was twisting me into unnatural shapes and sticking needles into me because apparently men don't do that unless they are interested and the Chiro was disrespecting him by hugging me when I walked in. He hugs everyone and flirts with anything with a pulse! It's just how he is.

Oh and it's not even legal for me to be half undressed alone in a building with 3 men.

Give me fucking strength. AIBU to tell him I just don't have the energy for this shit and to grow up or fuck off?

I have been going to this clinic every week for years! I have known the 3 of them for years, especially the Physio who actually saved my life a few years back by talking me out of suicide and confiscating my medication for 4 days to make sure I didn't take too many of them. None of them have ever so much as taken an inappropriate glance let alone a liberty and are completely trustworthy.

He will not let this drop. It's doing my head in. Constantly trying to trip me up with probing questions about them and my treatment. I am seriously considering telling him to fuck off to his mothers.

I had this shit from XH. He found out that the osteopath I was seeing in lunchtimes at work was male, young and (horror of horrors) black, and insisted on finding me a female osteo locally and attending the appointments. He did dig up an absolutely lovely lady, better qualified and cheaper than the work one (sadly she's moved far away since so I can't use her any more). But he perved over her and was convinced that when she was bending over me she was deliberately angling herself so he could peer down her front. I'm not sure whether he really believed it or whether he was saying it to wind me up. Both, probably.

So, so many reasons why he is ex.

Tell him to fuck the hell off out of your life.

And to think my physio made me take my socks off myself

However...I must say, I do find the thought of a massage therapist undoing and then doing up your bra very odd.

My female osteopath does this. There is absolutely nothing weird about it at all.

What would he do if you started talking to another man in a social situation, you know, when you have a 'choice'? He sounds deranged, to be so angry for so long about this which wasn't even a thing.

I hope that's the end OP, if Mumsnet has taught be anything its that if someone shows you who they really are the first time you should listen.

Sorry he's wasted your time, but there are plenty more people out there who aren't dick heads x x

The NHS cautiously acknowledges chiropractic: www.nhs.uk/conditions/chiropractic/

The profession has statutory regulation and recognition via the Chiropractors Act 1994. The statutory regulator is the General Chiropractic Council (GCC) and it is illegal to practise as a chiropractor without being registered with the GCC. They are subject to a code - www.gcc-uk.org/UserFiles/Docs/Amended%20Code%20Final.pdf - and can be disciplined and struck off by the GCC.

A bra is just a piece of clothing, when you get right down to it. If it's in the way of proceedings it needs to be moved out of the way. I should imagine for the most part people who work with part-naked bodies every day just see them in mechanical terms i.e. something to fix - kind of like when I helped out in a relative's sweet shop in my teens, and started to see sweets as merchandise, just so many coloured wrappings and prices rather than something for me to eat.

I agree get rid and be pleased he has shown his true colours now. If he's this possessive now then I dread to think how bad he will be in the future. Think of this as a lucky escape.

I've had sports injury massages for my shoulder, I lie face down with my bra on and fastened, and have several treatments including acupuncture and heat therapy.

My bra remains fastened until my therapist (female) needs to massage me and she always asks to undo my bra.

I did ask her whether I should undo it and she said lots of women don't undo their own bra. Totally normal to lie down wearing it and then the therapist undoes it.

To be honest I found it weirder to have my bra undone by a female than a male as I am straight so never experienced that before

He's an ex now, hopefully?

My exH would have behaved exactly like this in the same situation. Exactly. He was also like it with my male, straight hairdresser. He went ballistic when a fellow passenger who I didn't particularly know, but saw on the plane every week, gave me a lift home from the airport one evening (it was on his way, and very near the airport). In essence, he thought that every other bloke on the planet wanted to shag me and that I would let them. It's impossible to live with someone like that. Cut him loose now before you have a kid with him.

Chiropractic is probably a legitimate treatment for back pain. The hardcore practitioners who claim that it can cure absolutely everything due to its effect on Innate Intelligence via Vetebral Subluxation are of course talking bollocks.

Hope he didn’t cause any extra drama and you got a good nights sleep!

If this is real, I hope you dump him.

Pacing outside your house???? You know this is only going to get worse... keep the medical practitioners and boot the BF into touch

If this is real, I hope you dump him.

Your appointment was last week and he's still on about it now?

And pacing around outside?

I think you ought to have dumped him the very first time he accused you rather than letting it drag on.

Hope you've binned him now.

He's a prick.

hope he fucked off eventually OP. He sounds like hes showing his true colours early at least.

LTB. Now.

Ltb

No word of how he's sorry to see your condition impacts your life/takes up your time/causes you pain?

The flirting is inappropriate, he's supposed to be a professional.
I'd still dump the boyfriend so hard.

As a veteran of osteopath, massage and physio treatments myself, his reaction is of course bananas.

But I have to say I wouldn't personally put up with someone who "hugs everyone and flirts with anything with a pulse", it's just inappropriate and unprofessional.

The flirting is inappropriate, he's supposed to be a professional

Oh snap, xpost. Exactly.

OP, you are clearly awesome.

As a PP said, what a refreshing thread.