To think I'm not a tart and tell him to fuck off?

[treeofhearts]

I see a Chiropractor and a Physiotherapist weekly for a painful skeletomuscular condition and have done for years. This is necessary to maintain mobility in my spine and reduce pain. I've been with DP for 8 months and he has known about my condition since we met.

Last week he came with me to the appointment for the first time. I didn't consider it a big deal, there is no reason he has never come with me, I just usually go when he is at work but he is off this time and came along.

He has absolutely flipped his shit, calling me a tart, naive and all sorts and referred to the clinic as a fucking perverts paradise.

The reason for this little tantrum? They are all men. And it never occured to his tiny brain that in order to have spinal adjustments, I would have to take my top off.

Apparently I'm having an affair with them. All 3 of them, possibly at once, he wasn't clear on this bit and the massage therapist undoing my bra constitutes sexual contact which is cheating.

For clarity, the (very professional) massage therapist has me remove my top and then lay face down before unfastening my bra and leaving it open so it still covers my breasts. Afterwards he wipes the oil away and does it back up before I get up. At no point does he cop an eyeful.

I'm clearly having an emotional affair with the Physio because we were talking about films that had made us cry while he was twisting me into unnatural shapes and sticking needles into me because apparently men don't do that unless they are interested and the Chiro was disrespecting him by hugging me when I walked in. He hugs everyone and flirts with anything with a pulse! It's just how he is.

Oh and it's not even legal for me to be half undressed alone in a building with 3 men.

Give me fucking strength. AIBU to tell him I just don't have the energy for this shit and to grow up or fuck off?

I have been going to this clinic every week for years! I have known the 3 of them for years, especially the Physio who actually saved my life a few years back by talking me out of suicide and confiscating my medication for 4 days to make sure I didn't take too many of them. None of them have ever so much as taken an inappropriate glance let alone a liberty and are completely trustworthy.

He will not let this drop. It's doing my head in. Constantly trying to trip me up with probing questions about them and my treatment. I am seriously considering telling him to fuck off to his mothers.

@Contrabassista You're a little late to the party, it's all kicked off in spectacular style since then. He has been released and isn't allowed near me, my house or the clinic. Will likely have to go to court over it but I might not have to appear in person. My statement might be enough given that he spat at the police, resisted arrest and the whole scene at the clinic was on CCTV. The Pringles have since been joined by a cream cake selection.

For those who have asked, the few of his friends I've met seemed pretty normal and easygoing and his mother is a bit odd, not very friendly but not hostile either. Just a bit cold. But then he seemed normal and easygoing until he turned into Mr fucking Hyde.

OMG @treeofhearts only just seen this thread, how quick he changed?! Hoping all will be quiet for you now.
Pringles and cream cakes, like your style

the few of his friends I've met seemed pretty normal and easygoing and his mother is a bit odd, not very friendly but not hostile either.

The friends you've met will probably just have seen Dr Jeckyll. He's probably manipulative - indeed that's what he was trying to do with you - so the version they will hear of what's just happened will be very far from what actually has.

I'd be more curious about his dad than his mum. Of course there are influences way beyond our parents, but he's picked up this behaviour from somewhere.

I have friends that used to have cat insurance that covered them if the cat caused them to fall down the stairs and die........just thought I'd say because I found that pretty awesome and you guys mentioned the cat walk!

Cats Protection offer a service that covers you for looking after your cats if you predecease them. Black I know but I'm kind of curious about what happens if you predecease them because the cat walk failed and they finally did manage to hurl you down the stairs.

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I'm sure the insurers would blame the cats and refuse the claim!

His dad left when he was 12, I think he speaks to him occasionally but I've never met him.

maybe I'll be a crazy dog lady instead...

I've just been for another Osteo/acupuncture appointment. He massaged/manipulated through my clothes, but pulled my waistband down to stick needles in my hip, bum & thigh.
I mentioned the gist of this thread and he said that when he was training in acupuncture, his then girlfriend got very upset and jealous because he had to strip down to his underwear to be practiced on, and he'd have to partly touch other people in a similar state of undress. Even though this was in a group of people, and most skin was covered by towels.

That's interesting. It's crazy what people get jealous over, isn't it?

Absolutely!

Weirdly I’m glad he fucked up like this OP..... it showed who he truly was lovely

Yeah I suppose I am too really. I mean I cared about him a lot, don't get me wrong but I'm glad it happened before I got too emotionally invested in him.

For what's its worth, you sound funny, clever, wise and independent. Wait for someone who's good enough for you. And if no one comes along, there are a whole lot worse things in life than being fabulously single, as I think this whole episode has ably demonstrated.

You’ve still lost what you thought you had though treeofhearts. You don’t have to only see the silver lining. You are all the things that ChuffingNorah says but you are also allowed to not be Pollyanna. It will get better.