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AIBU, cheeky fuckers - a holiday edition

353 replies

HolidayCF · 27/05/2018 19:24

On holiday with all my DC (5 of them), ages 15-3. Single parent. So a busmans holiday really.

2 days ago kids came back trailing another random kid. Happens every year, always kids with no siblings. No problem in theory, 5 kids 6 kids doesn’t make much difference. Then kid would NOT go away. Knocking on the chalet door at 8am, (parents smiling and waving from their decking) 😒, we left for the beach at 10am. An hr later kid turns up with his parents. They sit 50ms away and kid comes over to play.

So now in effect I’m watching their kid plus mine as they sunbathe and read all day. Sent him back at lunch. He comes back the second we stop eating. I send all kids over to his side to play. Mum then brings them back as her husband is asleep!

Again same thing today, kid came to the pool. Didn’t see his parents all day as presumably I’m supervising him? Asked him if his parents knew where he was, he said yes. I went back to his chalet (left teens watching kids) and asked them if they knew where he was. Parents sunning themselves on their deck. Mother at least had the good sense to look embarrassed and said ‘oh he’s loved playing with your lot, send him back if it gets too much’ WTF?! I kind of laughed and said well there is a lot of them, not sure I can supervise him too! She said oh he’s a brilliant swimmer don’t worry

Just finished dinner and he rocks up and starts playing outside with the younger ones. Got ice creams from the shop and couldn’t leave him out as he went with them. I can see the CFs sat two decks over drinking wine and reading.

AIBU to send all kids over there and lock my door for an hour 🤔. How long before they send them back do you reckon?

OP posts:
lastnightidreamtofpotatoes · 27/05/2018 19:50

Unless the child was a PITA one extra child wouldn't bother me. T hre e on the other hand....

athingthateveryoneneeds · 27/05/2018 19:51

I think it's time to have a word, op. I have a large family and people assume it's because I love children. Yeah, my own! I am not some supernanny. I don't watch other people's children.

MollyDaydream · 27/05/2018 19:51

Send them back to theirs anyway! Get your kids to tell the other mum you want half an hour's peace.

Send them round again at 7am tomorrow.

You're going to have to out-CF these people.

GreenTulips · 27/05/2018 19:52

Yep we get this .... random only child who 'loves' making friends ....

Sorry loon after your own.

TheMonkeyMummy · 27/05/2018 19:52

I have four kids and this happens all the time. I just smile and get on with it but it really gets my goat...

ForgivenessIsDivine · 27/05/2018 19:53

Oh dear god, what a cow... I would be tempted to be blunt.. look lady, I don't mind your kid hanging round with mine for a bit but see, I have 5 already and I am here on my own, it wouldn't kill you to let mine hang out with you for an hour or two, and enough with the crap excuses, you have had plenty of time to read and drink wine while your child has been occupied, time to return the favour.

ForgivenessIsDivine · 27/05/2018 19:53

(I wouldn't really, I would be cross and grumpy and silently seeth)

MollyDaydream · 27/05/2018 19:55

Tell him to go and ask his mum if he can come in and watch 'Saw' with your kids. And say you've bought some blue WKDs for the kids.

Original poster
HolidayCF · 27/05/2018 19:55

No he’s not a PITA, but it’s another one to check isn’t drowning/been kidnapped/has had enough water/has sun cream etc

OP posts:
DownstairsMixUp · 27/05/2018 19:55

I think you are going to have to be straight with the family and say he can't come round all the time? They clearly aren't getting the hint

YouTheCat · 27/05/2018 19:57

Tell her your kids have impetigo.

DerelictWreck · 27/05/2018 19:58

Youthecat

Grin Grin Grin

athingthateveryoneneeds · 27/05/2018 19:58

This just isn't fair on you, though, is it? You have enough responsibility without the extra child of complete strangers. Unbelievable cheek.

GrannyGrissle · 27/05/2018 19:59

Well if you don't mind/aren't going to do anything about it why are you complaining here and what do you want us to advise?

AllMYSmellySocks · 27/05/2018 20:00

My DSis has an only but if she wants him to find playmates she's always the one offering to supervise, buying the ice creams, she wouldn't dream of palming him off on a family with loads of kids to watch already.

Atalune · 27/05/2018 20:01

Take him back and say. If you want him to play with mine,then you have to come and supervise him.

GuntyMcGee · 27/05/2018 20:01

I'd be inclined to go over in the morning and ask them for money for childminding and for the stuff you're spending on him - water, ice cream, sun cream etc.

WyldDucks · 27/05/2018 20:03

Yup, CF! Mind their one kid for five days then they mind your five for one! Seems only fair!

BrieAndChilli · 27/05/2018 20:05

I would make it clear that while he can play with your kids in the public spaces you are NOT looking after him, responsible for him in the pool etc. If you see him on his own in the pool o would tell the lifeguard that he is unsupervised.

MrsGrindah · 27/05/2018 20:06

Just say “ your boy is lovely and I’m glad our kids have made friends but it has to be on my terms because there’s only one of me and six of them. So he can come around on Xxxx for a bbq/ picnic whatever but not until then. “ Exit with a cheery “Bye!”

Lj8893 · 27/05/2018 20:06

Send him back! Cheeky fuckers indeed!

Knittedfairies · 27/05/2018 20:08

Ask them how they’re going to pay for the holiday club/childcare you have provided... Would they prefer writing a cheque, or into paying in to your PayPal account? Grin

Tinkobell · 27/05/2018 20:11

"Sorry. I'm on holiday ....to be clear YOU and YOU alone are responsible for your child esp around water. Please supervise your own as I'm supervising my own.... thank you & goodbye"

Username12345 · 27/05/2018 20:11

Well you've accepted it like a mug. Sounds like she's got it sorted tbh. Good for her.

parsleyisntfood · 27/05/2018 20:11

I must be neurotic, I cannot imagine not watching my child in a pool or park when on holiday. I’m sure OP is lovely but what if she’s not or her kids are not. I’m sure they are but how would you know!
I’d definitely let them play but I’d be supervising my kid. And sunscreening them.
I just don’t understand people who are happy for a stranger to look after their kid. And if there’s 2 of them they can still have peace to drink wine and read a book. It’s he only reason I allow dp on holiday (not really but it’s definitely a bonus)