Fat and fabulous

[highchairhell]

So I am fat. I like food too much to lose weight and after spending years of my life worrying about my waistline, I've had enough.

I want to look good this summer and see fabulous fat women all the time ... what is the secret to looking fat and fabulous?! Aibu to think that you can still look brilliant at 18 stone?! I just want fashion tips please, not judgement or weight loss advice! Thanks

If we see the harm in glamorizing anorexia then the same goes for obesity. - yes Gorgon and you do realise these are both medical issues don't you? Not a reflection of poor morals or someone being a lesser person ...

Staples I don't see anyone saying "I'm 5 stone, can I be fabulous?" And a whole chorus of posters saying "yay you look amazing"...

Gorgon, Do you wear a little peaked hat as you rush around policing MN? 😉

Sorry you've lost me there Gorgon - so are you saying that either of these conditions are the reflection of poor morals?!

Staples what? No, obviously not. I'm saying that neither anorexia nor obesity should be celebrated and encouraged. Nothing about 'morals'.

father so sorry about your mum. I struggle with alcohol too, I think they often go together. X

Ugh...this thread has taken a weird turn. I will say this: follow the funding. Have a very careful look at who funds obesity research, because sometimes, there is a conflict of interest. That whole "Obesity Kills" advert by the NHS was funded in part by...Slimming World. Also, in a study carried out by Flegel, KM it was determined that the risks involved with obesity occurred the most with people who had a BMI of 35+. Them SAME risks were present in people with a BMI under 21...but oddly enough...we don't hear about the risks of being underweight...any guesses to why that is??? Another study by a guy called Cooper...who studied obesity and exercise for a few years found that exercise made a difference... the risk factors of any weight were decreased by regular exercise, and that it is, in fact, possible to be fat and fit.
Anyway, despite the haters, this thread has been great, and I've ordered some lovely clothes from NewChic...so thanks!

You know what's not healthy? Having cancer.

If a person with cancer posted asking for advice on how to look fabulous, would there be a whole lot of concern trolling about how she should really deal with the cancer first? Yeah, right.

People who are obese really do know that, and we mostly know that it isn't healthy. Other people shouting at us doesn't help.

OP, you're awesome. I hope you find some great ways to improve your wardrobe this summer.

Ah sorry to hear that too @gorgon. Life is terribly cruel . Hope you’re ok.

Yes life is cruel. Which is why we need more understanding and less judgement of people’s choices.

True @rick. Compassion is rarely wrong ime.

Thank you flowercrow :)

I'm about to re-join slimming world.
I have fibromyalgia which means I am in a lot of pain and obviously the more I weigh the more pressure on my joints etc.

I have also put around 2 stone on due to one of my medications which I've had to come off as i clearly can't afford to put more weight on.

I will say that my weight has never held me back, I am happy in a relationship but do receive attention from men and always have done.

Like I said earlier in the thread, I find it difficult that some of the nasty posters couldn't understand that not everyone aspires to be thin. I don't. I wouldn't suit it at all. I have a long way to go and need to change my whole lifestyle but for me it's a medical need rather than a vanity issue or wanting to conform to the norm.

Gorgon you cannot compare anorexia and bulimia to over eating and binging, anorexics get a kick out of not eating, every day they strive to eat less and everyday when they do they feel feel like they've completed a goal. Over eating and binging is totally different as every time someone over eats and binges they feel worse about themselves and they feel ugly and fat, they then feel so worthless that they do it all again. I know this as I've had eating issues all of my life, I've been in a spiral to anorexia and I've been a binge eater, they are both eating disorders but they are very different. And I wholeheartedly believe that when you are happy about yourself and in life you are far more open to losing weight. I've never ever lost weight whilst being in despair about my weight. I've always lost it when I give up dieting and think 'fuck worrying' I then don't get obsessed about food and I start to naturally eat the bad food less as it's no longer a demon!

May I add, I meant to say anorexia and over eating/binging, obviously bulimia has a lot of similarities!

@JaretsGirlfren that black dress!!! I love it! How long ago did you buy it? I need it!

Yawn.

Zoflorabore would you ever consider this way of eating? many have success and i have heard anecdotally someone say it made them less tired and in pain from fibro even though they didn't drop that much weight?
www.facebook.com/groups/lowcarbintheuk/
I am about a stone overweight, a size 12 and think I look pretty good. Losing weight would be a bonus but the health benefits of following this diet are more important to me.
NorksAkimbo72 hope you love your new clothes.

WannaBeWonderWoman oh dear - did your mother or father never teach you to be nice. Oh sorry I forgot bitches are hatched and not raised - my error.

bridgetreilly really good post, I think you've nailed it.

To be honest I don’t think looking fabulous has much to do with size.

I’m a size 8, and I have no boobs at all. Literally, I have pecs. I have no waist, but a size 10/12 arse. Clothes don’t look good on me. I feel ok and I handle it like a pro but I don’t feel fabulous.

I think looking fabulous, is about your mentality, confidence.

The swollen ankles and feet, aching joints, sweating and breathlessness. Not to mention the difficulty in wiping your arse properly.

I'm not 18 stone, but I have been in the past. I did not have swollen ankles or feet, aching joints, sweating or breathlessness and I was proficient at wiping my own arse, thank you very much.

I've said it before and I will say it again. People assume that someone at 18 stone, or size 18 or 20 is bigger than it is because it's classified as obese. They imagine that it means being the same size as Tess Halliday or somebody on "my 600lb life" when it really means no such thing. Proportion is lacking, in both the imagination and the comments.

"How anyone can feel fabulous at 18 stone because they're wearing a pretty dress is beyond me. The swollen ankles and feet, aching joints, sweating and breathlessness."

But the OP's health (assuming she suffers) isn't going to be changed or improved by her wearing a shapeless sack, and sitting in the corner looking ashamed of her size.

We all are who we are, and the OP's point is to start living for today, in the body that she currently has- rather than waiting until she's thin enough to be socially acceptable to "deserve" to enjoy nice clothes and self-confidence.

She may lose weight down the line. She may not. Neither has any effect on whether she goes out tomorrow and buys an outfit she feels fabulous in.

@SaucyJack sums it up perfectly. Excellent post.

Crikey. This thread just gets worse.

I am near the OP's weight don't have swollen ankles, breathlessness and I can wipe my own arse. I do more walking than most of lazy people that me and dd pass walking to school each day.

Would love to see what some of these fat haters look like.

They should just round all us fatties up and gas us all as we are no use to society and we should not be allowed to wear nice clothes.