To wonder wtf I should say?

[Istolethisusername]

When I had my daughter my SIL (married to partners brother) brought round a big suitcase of clothes and a Moses basket for us. Nothing fancy, just your standard supermarket/high street stuff.

Me and partner split up, her and her dh divorced and we both moved away and lost touch.

I’ve just had a Facebook friend request and message from her - her eldest daughter has just had a dd and she would like all the stuff back she gave us.

Trouble is, my daughter is now 15 and I gave it all away to the charity shop years ago.

She never specified it was a loan, never asked for it back at any time, and I’m a bit perplexed that she has assumed that I have stored it all these years (I gave all my baby stuff away years ago)

Was I wrong to get rid of it?

How do I reply?

Stop hoping, just block the woman.

I'll add: she NEVER intended to take the stuff back. She was just hoping you'd feel guilty and give her cash for the imaginary value she placed on it.

She definitely tried to pull a fast one

Oh I’m glad the DC are having a catch-up. Good stuff, OP.

I bet her DD is secretly relieved that she doesn't have to use baby stuff that has been festering in someones attic for 15 years

My sister in law did the same to me was 4 years later though and maternity clothes and some baby stuff , I asked her at the time if she wanted it after I finished with it and she said nah just donate it or something
A year or so ago she messaged me saying she was doing a car boot sale and could she have it back and preceded to go mad when I said she had told me to donate it all .

@Whereismumhiding2 Because OP seemed quite excited about the prospect of having a relationship with this woman. So, to me, a £30 moses basket is a nice "settlement" and is what I would have done. But, as I stated, I would have asked before disposing of someones things. My ex SIL gave me her wooden cot, with no strings attached, for DS and when I was done I offered it back (even though shes much older than me and her last DC was 10 years before mine so she wouldnt have needed it back. I just felt it wasnt mine to pass on). She said no so I passed it on to a pregnant friend. So in that case I would have offered to buy a basket. And it wasnt so much a "heres your basket, goodbye", but a way to calm the situation down, and a nice gift for her new grandchild in the process and an excuse to pop round and reignite the family relationship really. But then came her CF response and I clearly wouldnt after that.

@sockunicorn
Fair enough xx
Sounds like the DDs sorted it out getting in touch direct now so that is great.