I am not ok

[Incarnationsofunderstanding]

AIBU to think sometimes that is the hardest thing to say?

Kind of want to start a # but daren’t.

For those who don’t appear to have collapsed.

For those who get up every day and work and look after kids and care for family and friends. For those who laugh and smile and function and drive onwards.

“I am not ok” Are sometimes the hardest words to say?

I am not ok.

I’m really not ok and so tired of pretending I am. Thanks for giving us a place to say this OP

I'm usually okay.

An accusation from someone who is meant to be a friend has thrown me back to feeling I didn't realise I still had. I will tell no one in rl.

I’m not ok. I told my sister, I told my mother. I have seen less of them than since that conversation than I ever have. I dont dare tell anyone else.

I'm not ok. I am lonely in a house full of my family. Everything is going wrong and I don't want to be here

I am not OK either OP.

So sorry for all those not ok

I'm really not ok, and have no-one in rl to talk it over with.

I’m not OK. I’m coping with everyday life and going through the motions of mum/wife/employee but inside I’ve fallen apart. I’m not depressed, I’m just very sad.

I am Ok at the moment. But there have been times when I definitely have felt like I'm falling apart but have put the mask on & pretended that I was beyond OK.

acorns so sorry they aren't supporting you

This is a brilliant thread, OP.

Wishing everyone a better day tomorrow, and supportive people in RL to help you through the tough times.

I am not ok. I wish it would all stop. Same unchangeable long term problems that nag at me all the time. Plus new extra ones just to keep me busy. I'm exhausted. to all

I'm not ok right now either.

I said that to a colleague yesterday and she admitted the same, so we had a moan and a rant about all the ways we're not ok, and came away feeling marginally better.

to everyone who is not okay.

If you are ever in an accident of any kind - car, pedestrian, bike - it is a very British thing to reply "I'm fine" when asked if you are OK but this can have all kinds of insurance implications.

If you can't bring yourself to say I'm not OK, at least try "I don't know" in the aftermath.

I'm not ok either. I'm not as bad as I have been, but I'm not ok.
I might not ashamed of that anymore, none of us should be.

I am not OK. Pretending became too hard in the end and was taking everything I had, and I ended up being off work for three weeks. People now know - lots are supportive, and some are shocked. I'm been back for a few days, am still not OK, but my job requires me to be OK, my kids need me to be OK, my husband doesn't understand, my mum and sister can't know because they will worry too much and then I'll have to worry about them as well. One foot in front of the other for now...

I’m better at the moment but it’s not that long since I was not Ok and it was the scariest time of my life. I was lucky I could talk about it and got help quickly.
Hope you can get some help and support

It's okay not to be okay

So very true. Sorry to everyone struggling and know that you are not alone

Sorry you're not ok OP. I am not ok either. I can't admit it to anyone though, even typing it has been hard

My goodness, I’m absolutely shocked at the amount of people around that are not ok. While I understand that not everybody wants to go and whine about their problems and not everybody wants to listen it’s really ok to say you’re not ok.

Getting it off the chest helps to maintain mental wellbeing and sometimes sharing a problem with somebody might result in finding a solution to it.

I don’t expect my friends or family to be ok all the time, if there is a problem I want to hear about it and help whenever I can.

What’s the point in asking “how are you” if the person asking doesn’t want to hear anything than “ok”?

I’m not okay either. I’m screaming inside! 😓

Wow I didn’t really expect the response. I’m saddened but also in a messed up way heartened that I’m not alone.

you definitely aren't alone

Thanks for starting this thread OP .
Not ok here either, feeling very fragile. Had a really good chat with my mum today which helped.
Mostly people don’t ask. All the mental health awareness posters at work aren’t helping either.

incarnation. You are not alone.
I think sometimes people ask "are you OK" because they want to be seen as concerned but they don't really want you to say No I'm not. and would be shocked if one did... and probably vanish if we said the opposite and quite often we know that so we say we are OK. The social niceties are observed, the person goes off with Brownie points for asking, but it doesn't actually help at all. I think people should be prepared for a "No I'm not" answer if they ask the question.

Me neither OP.
Get counselling every 3 weeks, am on sertaline & diazepam.

I dont know what normal is anymore.

One thing I do every night before I is think of 5 good things that happened that day. Usually a walk, something productive done, nice dinner happy kids etc. Little things but they just remind life can be worth living.

When friends post the 'always listening' suicide awareness thing on Facebook, I want to reply by posting, 'then please ring a friend you think might be lonely' because I would never ring someone to say I am not ok, but am frequently not. I am able to tell people afterwards, but rubbish at asking for help when I need it.